Peeing

@messageme (2821)
United States
January 1, 2009 8:01pm CST
This is sort of a strange question, but I would like as much advice as I can get. I have 5 boys, 6 if you count dad. They have the biggest trouble peeing in the toilet! It's all over the floor every thing around the toilet, everywhere! I have made them clean their own messes thinking they would pay attention more on their aim, but it just doesn't seem to help. It is gross! Our bathroom smells like pee all the time. I am embarrassed if someone comes over and wants to use the bathroom. I mop all the time, but with 6 boys using the toilet all day long I can't really keep up. I even have an air freshner in there, that don't help. Please Give me advice on what I can do!! How do make them aim better or care where they are peeing!? I will not use my bathroom without looking over the toilet first to make sure I'm not going to be sitting in pee. Yes Every time!! Cuz even my little girl drips on the toilet everytime she is in there. I have explained to her too to wipe then stand but she don't. HELP, HELP, HELP!!!
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@fasttalker (2796)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Ok here goes a strange answer! LOL I have two boys that are grown and a friend told m a long time ago to use cheerios! Yes Cheerios the cereal. Make it a game andhav th boys aimand see how many they can hit. It worked with mine when they were little. As far as hubby goes...well Iwould just hand him the Lysol and a cloth to clean it up with when he gets done! LOL Also when you do clean around your toilet use the brown bottle Lysol. It is the only thing I know of that will knock that urine odor. Good Luck and try the Cheerio game...they flush easy and it's no big loss if it doesn't work! LOL
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Correct me if I'm wrong, is that the wood cleaner? If it is, I agree that stuff is strong enough to knock the smell out but in my opinion anyway, not that bad of a smell to knock you back... atleast some brands don't have that bad of a smell. Vinegar might even work.
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• United States
2 Jan 09
Lysol - Picture of Lysol cleaner
No it isn't a wood cleaner. Itis called Lysol concentrate. You only need a little bit as it is pretty strong but it will definately knock the odor. Here's a picture of what to look for.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I have always heard of the cheerio thing, but I thought that was when you are training them from diapers to undies. But maybe that will work.
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• United States
2 Jan 09
Yeah, unfortunately there is not an easy answer for this one. What you can do is start insisting that they wipe up the toilet after each use. Keep those Lysol disinfectant wipes handy so that it will be easier to garner their cooperation. I only have to worry about my 3 year old and my husband and I find myself using a plug in air freshner, a renuzit air freshner, Oust after uses and cleaning with Lysol. That Pee smell drives me insane and i won't have it. The other bad things is bad smells do not seem to nother boys so it makes it even harder to get them to see it from your point of view. Hopefully the wipes will help. Good Luck!
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Oh yes they definitely don't see it from my point of view. I already keep wipes at the toilet because they have issues with the back end wiping to, but I never thought to have them wipe seat each time. Oh that just might work, because eventually they will get tired of doing it, right? I think I should add wiping the floor too each time. oh yes maybe I will have a clean bathroom!! THANKS!
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 09
Please tell them the importance of toilet habits. You need to educate them on this account and even if they do not improve. Please ask them to clean the toilet, as and when they pee. Countinous cleaning of toilet (if they obey your order) will make them understand the importance of cleanliness. Also tell them that if an outside comes and despite his warm welcome, if happen to visit the toilet, the image of the entire family will come to naught. Best of Luck!
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 09
You are welcome!
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
6 Jan 09
Thank you for your response!
@tessah (6617)
• United States
2 Jan 09
thankfully i have two girls so they arent a problem, and my husband was raised very well and he isnt a problem either. the seat isnt left up and he doesnt just go in and pee on the floor. you didnt mention how old the boys are.. and as odd as this may sound of an idea.. it couldnt hurt to try it. paint a target on the bottom of the toilet bowl, and tell yer little ones to aim at it. as far as yer husband goes.. slap him in the back of the head.. he isnt 4 years old and ought stop acting like it.
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@tessah (6617)
• United States
2 Jan 09
dunno.. but theres gotta be some sort of waterproof sticky thing you could use.. like those things you stick to the bottom of the tub so it isnt so slippery. a bright red fish or something. with the little ones.. get a potty chair and have them use that until they decide to aim better. and if "dad" cant seem to pee in the toilet without having to be told.. put a marker on a tree outside, tell em to use that
@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
You are lucky! dads not as much of a problem as the kids are. the boys are 3, 5,6 and 8. Your idea sounds great, but how would I drain the toilet to get the bullseye their? Thanks for sharing!
@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
oh yeah the 3 yr old sits down to pee too so he isn't a problem either. It is basically the 5, 6 and 8 yr old and sometimes dad, they make a huge mess!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Ask daddy to be the example and start sitting on the loo? My fiance sits so there's no drip drip. Sorry I can't be of more help.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Hey any little bit helps. Thanks for the response!!
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@vanonas (949)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Wow that's so gross! So many boys! I have two younger sisters + me + my mom so my dad has 4 girls! If he peed all over the floor he'd be in trouble!! LOL I don't know what you could do. Maybe offer them a reward if they started peeing right. Or you could threaten not to make them food until they start peeing INTO the toilet
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
3 Jan 09
It would be a good idea if I could actually go through with it, but I think I would get into trouble if I didn't feed them. LOL I know what you mean with a house full of girls I have 3 sisters + my mom so there was 5 girls in our house!! Thanks for sharing!! Happy Mylotting!
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
2 Jan 09
Your poor dad. Not sure which is worse, guys peeing all over the place or a house full of PMT. Like your suggestion though. Refuse to feed them. Great way to get at them; through there stomachs. Could actually work.
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@nmw2005 (1197)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Have them clean the bathroom with you. Maybe after a while they will learn aim in the toilet = no yucky clean up
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@nmw2005 (1197)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Good luck to you. After reading what other people have to say, I am glad I have a daughter, though I know girls come with other drive you crazy problems.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Lately I have been making them clean it up. Thinking that if they had to take the time to do it they would be a little more careful. It don't seem to be working. thanks for the response!
• Canada
11 Jan 09
If it were me in your shoes I would lock them outta the bathroom and tell them to pee outside LOL. My son is 6 and he rarely misses and when he does he cleans it before I even say anything to him about it. You coud try putting them on bathroom duty. Have one clean the bathroom daily for 6 days then the next boy for the next 6 days and so on until they get tired of cleaning the bathroom and start aiming properly LOL Its punishment AND you get a clean bathroom LOL
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
11 Jan 09
I wish I could kick their butts out to pee, but it is really cold outside but hey maybe then they will start to aim just so they don't have to freeze to pee! thanks for the advice.
@healer (1779)
• India
2 Jan 09
You are doing the right job by making them clean their messes and i should say that you keep on doing that and i am sure they will finally get habitat to it and they will clean after peeing all by themselves even if you are not around, in brief let it become a habit for them. I remember my mom telling all of us when we were kids what to do after our needs in the toilet and she would always remind us to do so when we go to the toilet and thats how we got used to it. I think you are doing the right thing so keep on telling them let it echo in their ear every time so that they won't forget the next time. Anyway wishing you and your family a very happy new year.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
3 Jan 09
So it is normal to have to tell a child the same thing over and over? I feel like all I do is repeat myself and it still don't stick in their head. Sometimes I tell myself they remember, there is no way they forget things that easy, they just don't do it just to do the opposite of what I ask. I will keep on trying. Thanks for the response.
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
2 Jan 09
That's a tough one. I don't know how old your boys are but maybe put some Cheerios in the toilet to help them practice their aim. Or you could just tell them that if they're going to be lazy and not try to be careful then they will get some kind of privilege taken away. Maybe that will make them think more carefully and take their time when they pee.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
oh they are very lazy! I don't know if most kids are, but mine are really lazy! they are 3, 5,6,6,and 8 years old. I don't think they would care if something got taken away from them. they usually don't. Thanks for sharing!
• United States
2 Jan 09
Another good reason to try and convince everyone to just sit down is that even if their aim is perfect, the force splashes droplets out everywhere anyway. For some reason my mother put arpeting in her bathroom (it matches the rest of the decor) and she asked me sit when I come over to protect her carpet. Then there's also the 'shake.' We men should really just use a single piece of toilet paper rather than what usually happens.
@camodad (176)
• United States
3 Jan 09
The shake is what makes it all worth it. LOL. Try pushing your hips forward, then shake. And always lift the seat! Didn't learn that till living with a pregnant woman. Boy do I know it now.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
3 Jan 09
I think their little shake is what gets it all over the front of the toilet. Every time I go in there I will watch where I put my feet so I don't step in wet pee. That is pretty sad, huh. When I bought my house there was carpet in the bathroom, that was the first thing we replaced in the house tore it out right away!
• United States
2 Jan 09
a friend who has all boys printed a sign and put it in the bathroom "next time try hitting the ceiling any fool can pee on the floor' Dont know if it had any effect on them or not !LOL
@messageme (2821)
• United States
3 Jan 09
That is funny. Sad thing is I think my kids would actually try it, once they figured out what the sign said. They don't read too well yet. But hey even if they tried it they would probably end up peeing all over themselves and never want to do that again!
• United States
3 Jan 09
Ha ha ha( I'm laughing) Sorry but you said six if you count Dad. Well the only thing I can say is to have them to sit and point it in the toilet. Usually little boy's tend to have a aiming problem and that continues for a while, thats what the doc told me about my 6 year old.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
4 Jan 09
I have tried to get them to sit, but they just wont do it! I think it is too time consuming for them. They would rather be playing and horsing around. Gosh for bid they take a second out to pee. :) Thanks for the response.
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
2 Jan 09
You really are in dire need aren't you? Have you tried the old "cork in the toilet?" trick. Teach the boys to aim for that they'll get the idea eventually. Failing that they may need sit on it. I do know of men who actually do pee sitting down. It may seem silly to a lot of men but they do the other thing sitting down, why not pee? For this I do not miss having a man about the house. I do remember the days of having to clean up urine around the base. Ick. Anyway, best of luck with that and Happy New Year to your ENTIRE family
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
3 Jan 09
Thank you and I hope you also have a Happy New Year! I have told them many times if they can't aim to sit, but they just won't do it. My 3 year old is the only one that will sit, but that is because he is so short he can't reach. LOL
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Grown men don't know how to pee without getting it all over the place LOL. I think all men should have to sit to pee lol. Since that will never happen, my suggestion would be to set up a chore that twice a day or three times a day your children (you can pick who) will go in an do a pee check and clean up any pee they see. Or maybe you can tell them if the bathroom stays "pee free" for a week they all get a special treat of some kind. Give them some incentive to watch where they pee and hey it might even work for dad too
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I like that idea. I could always give them a week off from their chores if the bathroom stays clean. You all are giving me such great advice. THank You!
@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
2 Jan 09
Get a new family? Will daddy do the pee on the Cheerios thing? I am glad they clean up but if they are that sloppy there will always be a pee smell if they are sloppy. Some men actually sit down as a matter of hygiene at home, but that will not guarantee no dribbles like your daughter. With 6 boys you need a urinal. The real solution would be a separate half bathroom with a urinal and washbasin in it, that way all the slop would be confined to a separate room.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Dads not as bad as the other boys, so that is good. I have wanted to sell my house for the longest time now. Houses just are not selling here. All I said I wanted in the new house we bought was my own bathroom!! Every time we looked at a house I didn't care how nice, how big or small it was all I looked for was more than one bathroom!! That's pretty sad isn't it. Thanks for sharing!
@mz2981 (36)
• Qatar
2 Jan 09
hi, Just do some experiment, like design your bathroom like a target area. Find a design that can trigger them to aim their pee on the toilet bowl rather than in the floor. I have some funny design and it works actually.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Are you talking about redecorating my bathroom? What is your funny design? I'm interested in what you are talking about, could you give me more details. I'm not a very creative person. Thanks for the help!
@nchap36 (556)
• United States
2 Jan 09
That's hard. Maybe you should go on strike, or put signs up in the bathroom. Saying, ATTENTION: IF I CATCH WHO IS LEAVING THE PEE WILL BE PUNISHED. Maybe award system, if the restroom is keep clean for 30 days (or whatever you put) they will receive a surprise. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful, but a least consider trying 1.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Everything everyone says is very helpful. I have tried the strike think and it didn't work they didn't care how dirty and smelly the bathroom got. It only made me more frustrated! :) I do like the incentive thing though, Thanks!
@Nubi505 (41)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I have to agree, try the cheerios and incentive methods. Maybe combine them. If your boys can at least hit near the cheerios, instead of the floor, they can get something. Candy, a free chore pass, a small toy. Something simple but appealing that you can do for all 6 of them, although the dad might be harder to reward. If they make the mess, have them clean it but watch them do it. Little kids like to pretend they did something and in actuality, failed to do the set task. This may not be the case with your boys. Have you tried explaining how bad it is for mommy when you have to clean up so much? They may not like your disappointment and could try harder as a result.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Oh yes my kids do that all the time. I have learned to check their work and they have learned they know I will check to see if they did it and if they didn't do their work and said they did I give them more. So if I did the clean after each use, they know I will check. Dads not as bad as the younger boys. Thanks for sharing!