Should chatting be prohibited for married people?

Of course not. If wives are prohibited to chat with their husbands, how do they communicate with each other? If your logic is right, could I say that we are all banned to talk with each other? Because every conflict is due to the misunderstanding communication. Then our world will beacome a really peaceful place, but quiet as the hell.

hmm.. i don't see a problem. My dad chats on mIRC and some of his cyber friends has become his business contacts. I guess it's really up to the individuals. One can't blame the whole lot because of one black sheep. IN marriage, there should be trust. And if you break that trust.. well.. all the best. I won't say it SHOULD be prohibited.. but they should exercise just as much care & have their motives set right. In my dad's case, it's to make more business contacts.

I don't see anything wrong with chatting on the net. I don't say or do anything that would hurt my relatioship or my marriage to the man I love. Chatting is a way of release for many people we have no one to talk with about anything we wish to talk about. Therefore, chatting with someone on the net and getting to know them, then you have a friend to talk to about things and they have you for the same thing. I am alone much of the time. My husband works out of state and is only home for 3 days to a week at a time after 3 months being away. This is the only way to keep my sanity is having people to talk with here and in chatting. I'm disabled so getting out and going places or meeting people is not an option for me. This is my window to the outside away from my home. I get lonely by myself sometimes and knowing I have someone to chat with is wonderful for me. If the people (married people)don't talk in a sexy way or way that they should not talk then there is nothing to cause a problem with their mates.

I think the biggest cause of marriage breakdowns is a lack of trust in each other. We all chat when we are out and about or in work about our spouse. I don't think this harms anyone. It is if we are motivated to cheat with another person, that the trouble can start. :-) Derek

Wow! I must not be reading something right here! When you say chatting do you mean talking? I feel so silly because I know I'm missing something here. Is this a term only used in the UK? I hope so because I know I'm going to feel so foolish when I send this message on and others read it and think, "Gee, that Catwoman sure isn't on top of it, is she? LOL! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

Hi there ronaldinu I think couples shouldn't totally refrain from chatting online but maybe it is acceptable to do it a bit or once in a while. I would think that if you have a partner that you love and respect that you wouldn't need to chat online with strangers. It is of course ok to chat with friends and family as this is a great and inexpensive way to keep in touch. I think a lot of time can be wasted chatting to strangers online that could be spent with a loved one doing something more pro-active. I think I would feel a bit insulted if my partner spent time talking to people online when he could spend that time with me, I would feel that he didn't want to. I think chatting online can cause a lot of problems for couples and should be avoided for a peaceful life.

When you say chatting I take it you mean chatting to others on the internet, rather than chatting between themselves LOL! That would be very difficult a relationship without communication ha ha ha! Sorry to jest, ok, I think I know what you mean, well it all goes down to trust doesn't it. Chatting is ok, providing both partners trust each other implicitly and without trust there is no relationship is there! So I can't see any harm in chatting to be honest, nothing wrong with it, there are boundaries and providing neither partner oversteps them, it won't interfere with the marriage

If it is done by both parties openly and honestly with no secrets then I see no real issues with a married couple having seperate chats online with others. The second either person becomes elusive or secretive though, it can go downhill very quickly from there. It is definitely NOT a major cause for marriage break-ups either. It can contribute to a breakdown of a marriage, but there are likely to be many other factors already in place that will play the majority role in killing a marriage and the chatting aspect would just add further fuel to the fire!

Chatting? Do you mean talking on MyLot? I think every marriage is different and it is up to the two people to make upi the rules. In some marriages, he/she Needs to chat so they can remain married. In others, it could be a sign that the marriage is over.

I think we still keep our individuality even if we are married. I chat a lot here and this is on my personal capacity and has got nothing to do with my personal life. I do not feel it is right to mix personal life and the virtual world. I do not think it should be prohibited because as a human being we should not limit ourselves to the boredom of marriage life alone. It spice up our life when we chat with others. After all it is merely a chat and no personal contact!

People in a relationship should be chatting or they wouldn't have much of a relationship. A person needs to be able to say anything they want to their partner because if they can't communicate the relationship wouldn't have any substance so there wouldn't be a real relationship. I have been married before and our biggest problem was no communication. And that includes chatting. Unless of course you are talking about spreading rumors, as chatting. Then I wouldn't do that kind of chatting with my partner as it isn't needed in the relationship and could cause a lot of problems and especially cause a lot of trust issues. For example, if my husband was talking to me about someone, and the talk was nasty, then who knows what he is saying about me or will be saying about me if we get into a fight. I wouldn't trust him to not talk to his family members or close friends or co-workers about me when we are having problems. So it depends on what chatting is meant to be in your mind.

i don't see nothing wrong with it, i do chat with people and i tell my wife hey i am chatting with this person i met from here or other sites.

no,i don't think so.i don't find anything wrong in chatting.when we are right our loved ones must trust us and understand us.and we should not cross our limits too

Well it is my opinion that marriage break ups, if due to the net, happens to be due to lack of trust, or the fact that he, or she, is planning on meeting someone from online to be more than just a friend. There has to be trust between a husband and wife, but more importantly, there must be honesty.

Chatting is just like talking in general, I guess it's more private and people dare to say and do more because they feel safe behind their computer. However, when used wisely I see nothing wrong with it. I do think you've made a great topic here as you got over a hundred responses in just 4 days, great job!

I think the more a married couple refrains from talking, the more the marriage will last. In the past, just a couple of generation back, married couples were not permitted to converse with each other. They could do so in the privacy of their bedrooms, and once there, they had better things to do. Great way to save the marriage. I guess very few people would think this is a good idea. Now, we are advised to talk it out. LOL!! Marriage is a complicated affair and I am glad I did not bother to step into it. Cheers and happy Mylotting

Nice thinking! Yes, i agree that it maybe a tool of break ups, but not the cause.

Well i thing that it is totally wrong to stop chatting if you are married.I believe though that if someone feels the need to enter a chat room and talk to other people, something is wrong with the mates relationship. Maybe the communication is low or the one does not give attention to the other. I strongly believe that something deeper is hidden behind it and the couple must discuss it and resolve it.

That's is complicated. What is the cause of cheating? But all in all, man should have responsibility to stick to their love swear.

no i dont think so . divorses or breaking of relatnships is bcos they cudnt understand each oder or cudnt cope up wid his or her partner..chatting has nothing to do wid it...if the relatnship is genuine and intense nothing in the world can break it....nothinnnnnnggggggggggggg