Do you love to contradict?
By modstar
@modstar (9605)
Philippines
January 2, 2009 1:32pm CST
Like when all people love white, you'll go for black. I don't know but sometimes i like to contradict just to prove how far can i reason out. Have you had the same experience of contradicting or being contradicted all throughout? I do contradict but not to the extent of being offensive. Just to come up with a healthy conversation.
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15 responses
@neuronic (242)
• Japan
3 Jan 09
I don't like to contradict but provoke. Just to see how far people's patience can go. If someone says white, I'll say 100 reasons why gray is better, and 1000 why black is better than gray just to get the things even more amplified. That makes people open up and talk to you seriously about something, and when they have fire coming out of their mouths, you can switch to any other topic (of your desire) and see what they really feel about it. I love this mind game, good thing is no one has noticed how it works... even if I told them later... LOL
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
Hahaha! I am a forumer and sometimes, when I'm in the mood, i comment on topics or discussions, comments that are aimed to test the ability of the topic starter to reason out. Just for the sake of healthy discussions.
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
on the contrary, when they and the moderators see me log on, they would think it's another crazy day hahahaha. i love the internet lol!
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
At work, we have our weekly Calibration. It stretches from an hour to two or beyond that until we reach the calibrated answer. If I know that my point is the right one, I really stand up to prove my point and convince others on that. It was just a cool thing that even if I am the only one having a different insight, at the end of calibration, they will also realize that my point is the calibrated one.
But sometimes, during our Team Meetings, and the mood is not so serious, I sometimes act as the Devil's Advocate just for the sake of discussion. We sometimes do that to wring our brains to come up with all creativeness and imagination we can bring about, for special activities that should be done immediately. Sometimes, the fun starts there, and we start doing the activity in a good mood.
@angiemabute (358)
• Philippines
3 Jan 09
Yes, my hubby always contradicts with me maybe because we have opposite attitudes. I don't contradict, I'm always being contradicted and it's okay with me. Sometimes, it's irritating. I think contradicting is not bad as long as it will not hurt the feelings of others. I'll go for a good conversation. =)
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
3 Jan 09
Hi modstar. On occasion I have been known to contradict. I like to play "devil's advocate"on occasion to make people think and open up a different point of view. Sometimes it takes contradiction to open our minds. I don't mean in a judgemental way by any means. I certainly wouldn't want to be offensive to anyone. I just think it's part of learning to have certain contradictions. I actually enjoy different points of views in my discussions,even if they aren't so much in my favor.I think it has a way of spicing things up a bit.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
2 Jan 09
Contradicting can be fun as long as nobody gets offended, I agree. I guess my clothing can be a bit contradicting from time to time. I don't like it when I walk outside and I wear the trousers everyone is wearing. So I customize them or I get my pants from a a second hand shop and customize them, I go to little stores nobody else likes to come, etc. So I guess that's also a bit contradicting the latest fashion. However, if I like a piece of clothing that everybody else also has, I will still buy it even though I wouldn't be contradicting. I don't have to be 'unique' at all times, I just want to have clothing that I like and that suits me and that's not allways the latest fashion.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
2 Jan 09
I don't like to contradict people unless it is something which I firmly believe in. If it has something to do with pricinples I will not waiver my ideology even if my friend might be offended. On the whole I don't like to contradict on trivial and immaterial things. Life is so much beautiful to quarrel about stupid things.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
3 Jan 09
I do not know if contradict is the proper term for it...I am the type of person who always love to justify what I say and share my opinion on something. To the extent that the other person will say, "you have a point there"...Sometimes, I do make corrections on what others say, and they would agree on me afterwards. Those who knows me would always say I have a quick mind that I could instantly think of something as an answer. Even my boyfriend would say that I do not want to loss in an argument.
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
4 Jan 09
I have played devil's advocate or contradicting several times in my life. I found it entertaining and interesting to do. I think it is healthy to simulate thinking too. I also teach my children to do the same. I think it helps to create different points of view and learn to take other people's points of view as well. My daughter just loves when she is able to convince me to change my point of view when she contradicts me with a good point of view.
@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
3 Jan 09
where at the same boat modstar. cuz i dont like what people like. cuz when you do... theres no room for you to get it for your self. and i dont like things or something i owned or do that others have too...
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
3 Jan 09
no i do not like to contradict in fact i hate conflict of any kind. i have some friends, though who love to contradict just about anything anyone says and to be honest i do not enjoy being around them anymore because of it. anything you say they counter it and try to shove their views down your throat. so i no longer put myself in their company.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 09
I do not love to contradict. Nevertheless there were times when I would contradict somebody's opinion just to get the person to justify his/her views or expound further on their opinions. Naturally I do not do so to total strangers.
Giving a contradictory statement can stimulate a discussion and provoke the use of the mind. This can in a way train the proposer to be more eloquent, more prepared in presenting ideas in the future. A person taking a contradictory position will be training himself/herself in the same way, and helps in understanding the people who actually hold on tight to the opposite view.
In the long run if we contradict on purpose and not out of conviction we can become more open-minded and less judgemental towards other people.
all the best,
rosdimy
@srganesh (6340)
• India
3 Jan 09
Yes!Sometimes when all the people are focused on one thing and they don't care for the other side,then I start contradictions and let them know both sides.It is purely out of compassion towards them not leaving them with presumptions.It is always healthy to know in and out of a thing before judging.Cheers!
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Oh yes I do that at work. As other wise people are all just sitting there going yes that is true. I sometimes stick up for the company as I tell them would you want to pay someone for sitting and doing nothing for 8 hours and plus pay there medical as well as everthing else. That gets them started and then I laugh and leave. Your friend onlydia.