my daughter wants to move out

You know i had never thought about that sort of thing, i guess when kids have parents that live apart it does give them another avenue to bargain or punish or whatever, when i was little all we could say was we would run away...but to where, we soon changed our minds as we had no-where else to go but this sort of situation gives them a threat that i guess even hurts more, its good that you could just talk her round...she sounds like she is a clever little kid..

My daughter tried that too when she was about 14. She decided she didn't like my rules and she wanted to go live with her dad. I let her pack all her stuff up and she had it waiting at the door for him when a friend of mine stopped by. I never saw things fly back to her room so fast. She never tried that again. I don't think she really wanted to go live with him. It was just something she was trying to hold over my head. Any way she was much older than your daughter. I had told my kids that they could go live with their dad and come back once but I wan't going to play the game of going back and forth when things didn't go their way. I expect that she will try that threat again every time things don't go her way. It's something that she thought you should apologize to her. You haven't said how long you have been devoiced. My granddaughter always had an attitude after she had visited her dad.

They are kind of funny at that age, aren't they? Other kids pack up their stuff to join the circus or run away. Glad she thought of a safer option. I suppose being that she has that option gives her an extra bargaining chip in her opinion. Personally I probably would have thought if her dad told her that it would be nicer at his house, lol. But that's just me;)

kids look more beautiful and all these things really make us laugh and think as to how big kids became so early that they want to leave the house just for the sake of a toy. They look cute no doubt, but then, what i feel is this sort of attitude must not continue, they must be taught the importance of family and how important you are for her and also her for you. If this is really funny it must be taken the same way, but if its repeatedly happening, this must not be so encouraged. thanks.

Haha This is too cute I can just see her packing up her toys then hearing that they have to stay. Glad she's decided not to fly the coop ;). Thanks for bringing a smile to my face can't wait to have one of my own.

oh they are matured over the age.... thier behavoiour cannot be judged even by god they pop up with sudden explosion of anger in this way these day so be cautious....dear

I think all kids go through a stage where they want to go live with tehother parents, move in with grandma or run away. Usaully just around the corner because they are not allowed to cross the street. Lol.. It is comical to watch at times. I am glad you hav etalked it out with your daughter.

Hi poppoppop111 It's funny how young children reason things out. However I admire you for your parenting skills, explaining to her and talking to her. It seems that we have to go away with the dogma mentality "Do it because I am telling you to do so" mentality that was adopted by our parents (mine at least). It seems that you have to negotiate more with young children.

Well I don't think it's that funny. She's only five, and yet she already has this idea that moving out will solve problems if things don't go her way. Aren't you scared that when she's ten or twelve she'll fall in love and elope? Or that she really might run away from home? Anyway, it's too early for these things to happen so hopefully, you'll be able to educated her about it and be a good role model to her. :)

Wow she is a very bright child then, I have never heard a child that young play the guilt trip on their parent like that. Now it will be interesting to see what my children come up with. The big problem is that they take after their dad and he comes up with the strangest stuff half the time. I can see it now, if my hubby and I don't give in then he will be threating to go to his grandma's then. I'm glad that my son is only 2 right now. Well good luck with all the obsticals that comes your way with your daughter. Happy Mylotting

Its good to know that you were able to fix things up with your daughter. Well, I was the daddyh's-girl before and i always thought that my dad can protect me no matter what. i guess little girls will always be like that. Because they often think that their dad is their HERO, , ,

Wish you could see my face right now. That is so funny. I would've helped her to pack her bag. Put it by the door and made sure to have a hanky and some tears handy so she would feel terribly guilty. Children do emulate what they see and hear. You will remember this with fondness in years to come. It is truly precious. It would also make a great 21st birthday tale. Or even a great story at her wedding. Keep it in mind. Bless you and yours and Happy New Year

Almost every kid has done this. My little sister packed a suitcase and said she was running away, I did the same thing, my little brother even went to school and never came back. When we found him, he was walking circles around the school because he didn't want to come home "and get a woopin." We asked him why he was circling around school and he said he was just gonna go back the next day lol. This common occurrence was a surprise to my girlfriend. "When I was little, I seriously wanted to move out." "So did I." "No, I mean, really, I had a suitcase packed and everything." "And so did I, and so did my little sister. Every little kid feels like that sometimes" "Oh..."

hehe, nice story. kids will always be kids. my 2 year old baby also cried a lot when you take away things for her protection. but after they realize that they cannot get what they want by crying, they will eventually stop.

That is so cute. My 5 year old daughter has threatened my hubby and i also like this but she said she'll be living with her nanna and poppa. It's cute, and lovable what they say and do isn't it. It's just a phase they're going through, so im not really concerned about it. LOL

WHen my daughter was about that age she also threatened to move out....to grandmas! Well first I felt really bad and tried to make it up to her....about the same situation you were going through...and she continued on and on about how she wanted to move to grandmas...so I made a sandwich and put it in a brown paper bag and told her to go ahead. I also packed a little back pack with her jammies in it....I opened the door and kissed her on the top of the head and told her goodbye...she said "aren't you going to give me a ride?" ...I wanted to laugh so bad....so she headed down the sidewalk....carrying her sack and she looked so sad..she stopped at the end of the sidewalk and turned around and came back home. She never ever threatened to move out again!

OMG at 5??? I'm glad you had a talk with her and smoothed things out. It may be funny now, but if she ever gets away with it she'll become a yo yo and whenever Dad displeases her she'll run to Mom and visa versa. That must not happen. It really messes up a kids mind when they "win" at these games. Good going on not letting her take her toys and talking her down.

LOL Kids are funny and clever at that age. My five year old son got mad at me one day and said he wished I was gone, he didn't want me for a mommy anymore. I said fine, I'm no longer your Mom and left him pouting in his room. About an hour later he came in and said Mommy I'm hungry, when is lunch? I looked at him calmly and said remember, I'm not your mom, that was your wish. He looked surprised and walked away. I proceeded to fix lunch for his father and I. About thirty minutes later he came in and said he was sorry for saying that. He then said NOW can I have lunch? LOL And yes, he then got lunch.

That it cute. When my oldest was about that age, he told me that he hated me and wanted a different Mommy. I opened the door, set him on the front porch and told him that if he hated me so much and wanted a different Mommy, he could go find one, but he wasn't going with anything but the clothes on his back. Needless to say, it took less than a minute for him to change his mind. I think that kids can be quite funny at that age, and now, he will tell that story while laughing himself.

My goodness what a clever little girl you have there...LOL Hopefully this will not become a habit of hers when she gets angry..lol Glad to hear all is well again.