do you think young couples can survive?

I think in general there is a rising lack of true committment. People are in love with the idea of being in love or they are startled when things get tough. Marriage is not such a valued thing as in the past and it is seen more as just something else that can be disposed of quickly. Some 20 year olds are working on their second or third marriages and I think it's sad. I too fell victem to the appeals of marriage at a young age. I married my first serious boyfriend when I was 18. We had our first baby a year later. We went through heck and had seemingly insurmountable complications along the way. The thing that saved us though, well there were a few things. First, he was raised pentecostal and didn't really believe in divorce. I had been raised with a family that were divorce pros. I had several fathers in my lifetime and I knew that that was absolutely not the life I wanted for my children. So, we dug our heels in. We decided to talk to our pastor in church and he set us up with another couple for some counseling. It got us through and we have attended counseling on and off for the last 7.5 years of married life. We are still in love but recognise that it is ok if we don't feel it all the time. We realized that we didn't have to feel the loved emotions all the time to stay married. It's ok to not like each other some times and fight sometimes. We just want a good life for our children and don't want to give up all the good times just because it's littered with some bad times. That's just my opinions and expierences though but we know it works.

It all depends, depends on the will power and the intensity of the relation that they are having in between them. Relationship fades when the intensity of a particular relation fades. So, being young is not a benchmark to get into a relation, its all about survival, not the survival of couples, but their relation. Stronger the relation longer they go.

of course they can, i have a foster sister who has been with her husband since grade 10. they got married 10 years after they met and are now together still 30 years later. i also went to school with a girl who started dating this guy in grade 10 and eleven years later they are still together and got married last year and i have one more friend who has been with her husband since grade 8. so they can last, seems to me these people who were young when they got married or into a serious relationship have done better than some adults

Depends on how they handle the relationship and how they make it despite certain circumstances.It also depends if they're ready for a life-long commitment.I don't underestimate young people.They can do anything if they've put their heart upon it.

hey everyone! I got married when I was 17. I am now 19 and separated waiting for my finances to pick up so I can get a divorce. I don't think young people can make it only because you do not know who you are at that age, and to love someone with all your heart you must first love yourself. I lost my way when I got married because it was all about him and his child, of course his age may also have had something to do with it because he is 10 years older. I'm sure it can happen, but my advice to anyone under the age of 25 to think twice. It's definitely not as glamorous or easy as some people make it out to be. Brit

yes i think so..

[i]Hi jhl, I have known a lot of successful couple who've been together at a young age, SO my answer is yes, very possible but not an assurance also that all of them! If the love and trust will be with them as well as commitment then for sure, they will be living together lifetime![/i]

I think that all relationships have problems, it is just how you handle and manage those problems. My fiance and I have been together for two years, we have a beautiful daughter together, and we are getting married this August. We are both fairly young. I am 21 and he is 25. We have come a long way in the past two years with the birth of our daugthter, and the purchase of our first home. We have a deep connection, and great understanding of one another. We share the same values, beliefs, and interest. I think that many people get into relationships solely on lust. The first thing you need to look for in a long lasting relationship is like, then love, then lust. I think a long lasting relationship has several qualities; trust, communication, friendship, love, understanding, and faithfulness. All those qualities will provide a long and loving relationship.

that really depends on the couple themselves it has nothing to do with the age but with the persons will to make the relationship work. there are also people who are not so young when they get married but the relationship didn't work well too because both or one of them doesn't work to make the relationship a success. this is just my two cents. have a great day!!!

Age has only one thing to do with survival as a couple. A young couple are not mature enough and are not financially sound as they are still students and do nto have a job. Not having a job and no financial backign is one of the main reasons why the alliance can fail. A financially sound alliance can survive through time even if they have gotten together at an early age.

Like anything it depends on the couple. I married my childhood sweetheart 25 years ago and no we have not been together all this time! We got married after a seven year courtship (that's what they called it in the "Dark Ages"!) so you can't say we rushed into it. We met when I was 15 and he was 16 so you can see why we had to wait to get married; we were just too young and that is the reason we broke up after a 4and a half year marriage. We met at the wrong time and that was the bulk of the problem. We are not bitter towards each other and we are both with other people now and have children with our current partners. Had we met a few years later who knows? It is generally not advisable to commit at too young an age but there are exceptions to every rule and I know people who have been together since their teens. My mother was 14 when she got engaged!

i think they are not can survive at young age..because they will have so many problem such as distance, parents, and many more. this is also based on my exprience

I think it all depends on how committed they are to each other and also how much they value the relationship. When a couple are going around only the rosy picture is what they see, real test comes when they have to live together. That's when you get to see each other's faults. Some adjust and some don't. Relationships break if there is too much ego and neither people are ready to compromise. You hear the reason of break up as "we are not compatible" "We realised we want different things in life", all these reasons are because they don't value marriage. Marriage is very sacred. But you find people treating it so casually, breaking it(divorce) just like that. But there are people who try very hard to keep it going. It takes real efforts for a marriage to work.If they know the value of a relationship they will try hard to make it work.

I know what you are saying and yes, I've noticed that young couples don't always make it. I think in part is once they're married they think that the goals been met. In all reality, the work now just begins. It takes time and energy to make a relationship work. You don't just slip on a ring and it's happily ever after. The most important thing is they're young. And as they grow as adults they change, mature, they're goals change. The important thing here is that they grow TOGETHER. They need to still be a couple as they are going through these changes. I think that is the major factor here. They go from a young couple into mature adults and they loose each other along the way.

Age has nothing to do whether or not a marriage works, but rather the maturity of the couple. One or my brothers and I were both in out late 20's when we married and our wives were around the same age. Both of us ended up divorced after a few years and when we both had children, had homes that our then wives wanted built and in general were fairly comfortable financially. Not wealthy by any means but we did not have to worry from week to week where the money was coming from as we both had good jobs that paid well. Both of us had been going our with our wives for a couople of years before we got engaged and were engaged for more than a year before we married. In fact, statistics said we should have long marriages. On the other side of the coin is another brother who was the opposite. He was about 20 and his wife was a couple of years younger when they got married. They met, started going together, got engaged within 4 months and were married a couple of months after that. In total they knew each other for just 6 months before they got married and according to the pundits their marriage would not last and she must have been pregnant! Longest pregnancy ever as their first child was not born for a couple of years after they married. Just the other day my sister-in-law reminded me that they will be celebrating 44 years of marriage next month. I can say that they are still blissfully happy with each other plus they still hold hands when they are out together. When they married they did not have a lot of money and in fact probably the only thing they had in abundance was love for each other. They worked together as a couple to save money, bought a small older house which they did up together in their spare time and as they could afford it. They build an extension onto their home when the children arrived so there was room for everyone. Throughtout the years whenever we visited their place was overflowing, with their own friends as well as those of their children and they never said "no" to anyone if they could help that person out. They had to sell their business due to health reasons so today they are retired and basically do what they please. They still do not have a lot of money but still enjoy each other's company more than that of anyone else. So I strongly believe that age does not make or break a marriage but the maturity of the couple. Also they both need to have that willingness to stick together through both the good and the bad times.

it depends on how will they handle their relationships. These situations always depends on the person involved in it. They can survive if they wanted to. It doesnt differ from other older couples, they need to find ways on how to survive. its just that they are more matured than younger couples. But younger couples can also find a way on how to survive. It really depends on them. It depends on how will they face the reality. If they have enough courage to take all the responsibilities then they will survive.Strength, Courage, Believe, Optimistic are the traits that needed in order to survive in everything we do.. There's no exemption in it, no matter how young or old you are. You have to look the positive way for you to survive and become successful.

Hi.. For me, it depends on how serious the young couple take the relationship and also how much effort they put in together in maintaining the relationship because in a relationship, both party have to be very serious about each other and it really take both hands to clap in a relationship. Both of them must love each other very much and must be very committed to each other in order for the relationship to work. If one of them is just taking it easy while the other one is putting in a lot of efforts, then the relationship will not work out in this way. Also, young couples normally broke up over the slightest things because they were not mature enough and can just say the words "Lets break up" over any minor matters. They may patch up back after some times but the relationship is not going to work out in this way for me. Young couple also face many problem because they were not financally stable yet and they cannot afford many things. This is also one of the reasons why most young couples will break up and cannot survive. However, young couples always have a lot creative ideas to make their boyfriends or girlfriends happy and this is something which will make the relationship work out as young couple will be always be of creativity and energy. Hence, whether the young couple will survive or not is really up to how they handle the relationship and how they are committed to the relationship. Just my point of view.

Young couples survive only when they truly understand the meaning of commitment,how did they took an effort, if they developed and made foundation to make the relationship stronger..they will survive if they are ready financially, and emotionally, not just because they love each other, when you both young, emotions and feelings change just like the character, it varies when you getting older and matured......

It really depends on the couple on how they work into their relationship. Me and my boyfriend now is going on for 9 months and we sometimes have an argument but we would never closed the day by not making peace to each other i think this may be the one secret on how stay on a relationship and also trust with each other and be opened to share your problems.

It really depends on whether these young couples are in the relationship "for fun" (read: looking around, which is fine during schooling years) or not. More often than not, "young couples" are probably those who are curious about how the whole dating shebang works (probably Hollywood's influence, feh! =P); hence why they opt to give it a go. Girls: ever thought the "I want a boyfriend" tagline was pretty familiar? Personally, though, I don't think young 'uns should be involved in too-serious relationships; there's far more to deal with in life. That's where all the "breakup-makeup" drama comes from. That's not to say that teenagers who choose to be involved in such relationships are doomed; if you think you can handle it, by all means, why not go ahead? I've jeard of some couples lasting for ages who were actually high school sweethearts - they're lucky; both the guy and girl are pretty mature to have lasted through the "fickle" teen years! But then again, I think there's just more important fish to fry during this time in your life...