do all women feel like this?

Well, I'm not use to guys telling me their going to buy me things, they just get it. So I wouldn't say I agree with her saying that you would be wasting your money on her...she sounds like she doesn't think she deserves you...

To be honest I also used to tell my boyfriend not to buy any thing for me not for the reason that its a "waste of money" but I want him to spend his money wisely especially this time of crisis. But if he already purchased something for me of course by all means I'll let him feel how thankful I was for the gift but then again I keep on reminding him not to spend money on buying things with less importance.

It depends on the gift. The first year my husband and I dated, he mostly gave me stuffed animals for gift giving events. Other than that, no gifts. I do have friends whose boyfriends gave them jewelry for their birthday within the first year, but it wasn't super expensive. Expensive presents add pressure, I think. The most expensive gift I've received from my husband was while we were still dating - my stand mixer. I love it. It's perfect. Other women who like to bake/cook also like it and own their own. But my best friend would prefer jewelry. Another would prefer electronics. So it does depend on the girl. If my husband had spent a lot of money on something pretty like jewelry I'd feel like he might have wasted his money because I am not a jewelry person.

I think it depends on how the relationship is going and what kind of gift it is. Some women may feel this way if things are rocky or if their financial situation is not all that great. They may have some emotional issues from a previous relationship that caused them to feel this way as well.

First off- You're welcome! Secondly, why would you tell your girlfriend you are buying her something? Just do it! Surprise is always nice. Wouldn't you say the same thing if the situation were reversed? A woman likes a gift but doesn't want to say so. Next time don't tell her. Surprise her. I bet it will go over much better.

I agree with celticeagle, if you tell her you're getting her something then she might feel like she has to say that, or else if you guys don't work then you might remember her hinting that she wanted something and think she was using you. Suprise her and it's totally different. Although I understand the temptation to test the water before you give someone you really like a present cause you're afraid they won't like it. But try to find a more subtle way of finding out if she will like it.

like everyone else said, it would depend on the length of the relationship and what you intended to purchase. One of the things to think about is if she gives you the same if we ever broke up response with anything else you want to get her.

Depends on how the relationship had gone. If it was sour throughout, then regrets are inevitable and the gifts would only be reminders of the bad relationship. But if the relationship was good, then the gifts are worthy to keep.

Not me. If my hubby would like to buy a gift for me, then i will accept it. But i would never say anything or request something about what i like him to buy for me. He can buy whatever he wants because the value doesnt matter to me. Actually, with or without gift, that doesnt matter. There are really girls who are like that. There are even girls who will return everything that the boy gave to her if they broke up. Isnt it an insult?

i don't know. But there are some girls (like me) who says they don't want their guy to buy them presents but they secretly want them too. You know contradict themselves. Or if it's a present, i don't want to know that you're buying me a present nor what is it because i want to be surprised.

i do not think all gals are like this i think your gal friend is a good in nature thats why she is thinking about your money and time so do what she like it is good for you

sometimes women feel that she dont want her bf spent a lot of money for her cause there is an important thing to do beside give her a gift : women need true love n care . if guy want to give a gift so give a gift at special date (women bday or date of when both of u felt in love)merry xmas n happy new year

I just don't understand jhl why your GF think negative on your relationship, why it seems she already have an idea that ain't gonna work out? It is understandable if she just wanted you to save money and be frugal, but she stated her reason, that's made me confused. If I were your GF of course I'll be happy for it, in the first place it has an occasion, I would really appreciate it, as long as it wont affect your budget and not that expensive....And I think you wont buy a gift for her everyday right?

It may depend on what gift you would gave if its is too expensive then maybe that's the time a girl would argue because we girls just want you to save money the relationship doesn't matter if you would give a gift or not. The relationship works with trust, love and respect and this is the secret to go on for a long lasting relationship.

I DO feel this way but it all depends on what kind of person I am with. If you give gifts just because you care for her,she might be OK with that but if you constantly remind her how expensive the gift was and expect something in return,no wonder she feels this way. I don't like very expensive gifts,period because I don't want to feel obliged to someone wthether we break up or not. Maybe she's just a very independent person who likes to buy her stuff with her own money but I'd say it's a sign of insecurity and uncertainty,she's not sure about your future.

I think it kind of depends on the gift. And the status of the relationship. If I was with a guy for, say, one month and he bought me something really expensive, I would probably not accept it just because that's not long enough to be spending that kind of money on someone. But after a year... the same gift wouldn't seem so extreme. I don't think I've ever told someone not to buy me something because they would regret it if we broke up (or stopped being friends, it works either way). I've told them to save their money and buy something for themselves.