I didn't get a Birthday cake...Just Venting Here
By yparson
@yparson (581)
United States
January 4, 2009 2:04pm CST
I celebrated my 50th birthday 11 days ago on Dec. 24th, 2008 and I didn't get a cake to celebrated it or any gifts and one birthday card. Humm! Although there were two other birthdays within the same week in my household. I made two trips to the bakery once on the 23rd and again on the 26th for their special day, but I didn't make the trip for myself. I guess if I really wanted a cake I could have made the trip the 3rd time since the first cake was eaten up because we had a big birthday party for my mother on the 23rd, but I didn't. I did let my Mother and Son both know that I didn't get a cake for my birthday and they both did. I just feel its important to be acknowledged on your special day. Heck, 50 is a milestone and a blessing. Our birthdays are so close to Christmas and most times we just get left out or forgotten during this time of year. Don't misunderstand me, I do love the fact that I get to celebrate a special time of year with Jesus Christ, the Reason for the Season is to celebrate his birth too bringing gifts from a far. If you or a family member or friend have a birthday during this festive time of the year don't forget them, you can start now or later in the year preparing to celebrate their special day leaving you no excuses she ran out of money to buy two gift-No excuses.
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@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Happy Birthday.. I know it's not the same as if your family would remember and try to make your day special. But, When I read the subject, I thought you were talking about me.LOL I don't remember the last time I had a birthday to remember. I have just come to accept that it is just another day. Half the time I don't even remember how old I am. I have to really think about it.
My family always expect me to remember there birthdays, there boyfriends birthdays, there friends birthday. But when it comes to mine. I am just the person that is suppose to make everyone else happy. My husband says "good morning, happy birthday, what's for breakfast?"
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I did that one time. It didn't work. They just sat and complained how I forgot there birthday even after I said " No! You didn't remember mine so I perpossily forgot yours". They winned about it for a month. LOL. But, I let it roll off like rain drops. They were not going to get to me. After all I like playing in the rain.LOL
@knowsalot (4)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Happy Birthday. 50 is a big deal and they should be embarrassed that they did nothing for you. Shame on them. Let them know it hurt your feelings to be "forgotten". Next time you could skip the cakes for them but I don't think you want to stoop to that low. Just voice your hurt to them and maybe next time they'll do the right thing.
@yparson (581)
• United States
6 Jan 09
Thank you for the bday wish. I wish a you an early Happy Birthday this year as well.
I have expressed my feelings and I showed my mother this discussion, she just laughed and walked away. She's still the love of my life, I didn't get to show it to my son yet.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
5 Jan 09
Don’t worry dear…nobody remembers my birthday either. My husband thinks its not important to celebrate birthdays & anniversaries, my son at 9yrs is quite small to remember on his own, my Mom forgets most things and Dad is like my hubby, never much bothered about celebrations. So forget the cake and cards, I don’t even get a wish first thing in the morning. However, there are two or three friends who do remember and they call up later in the day. But by the end of the day, I really do thing whether it mattered…I mean the day wasn’t in any way different from the other 364 days, so why create a hullabaloo about it!
@yparson (581)
• United States
6 Jan 09
It nice to have friends that remembers your bday outside of the family. I do have friends who remembers every year and calls me up or leave a bday message for me. I still believe someone in the family should create a hullabaloo, let it be you because it leave memories after we're gone. :)
@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I can certainly commiserate, I turned 60 and no cake either! My birthday is Nov 1 and I had to attend a wedding, I almost did not go. But my husband took me on a winery tour the next day, so he won some points. However he knew he had better as he worked on our 40th anniversary. I say he could have asked for the day off. So I went to NYC with my sis got tickets atthe half price booth for both of us on his dime!
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Jan 09
Belated Happy Birthday, Happy New Year too. I understand how you felt, even though they treated us out for dinner or prepared food for us at home, still we're looking for birthday cake as this let us feel special on our special day.
@mzplased (255)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Happy belated Birthday!
I know how you feel. Although I dont have a birthday by a holiday sometimes my family forgets mine. I am wondering maybe they just think mom doesnt need to celebrate? I say nothing sometimes, but I get sad about it. Birthdays are special no matter how old you are and that person should at least have a cake or some other acknowledgement made for them. Hopefully your next birthday will trun out better.
@yparson (581)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Thank you for the bday wish. I had to twist the arms of my siblings to help out with my mothers bday party, one of them said that there were too many bdays in December to be having a party for our mothers-but we did and I made sure that same sister(she has 2 kids with bdays in Dec.) did her part. I think you just always remind your family when its your birthday, not so much with a co-worker. Here's to all of us who didn't get a cake for our Birthday-We'll just have to get it ourselves and not share it with anyone. LOL
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
5 Jan 09
first of all, i want to say happy belated b'day to you... it is so sad that when you are having your b'day and nobody gives you any cakes, gifts or cards... for me, even if i can't give gifts to my family members during their b'day but i always make sure that i send them b'day cards... i just want them to know that i still remember them... take care and have a nice day...
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Well....Happy belated birthday. I actually had my birthday on January 2nd, and the only reason I got a cake was because my 3 1/2 year old daughter begged my grandparents to buy a cake for her mommy....lol. So, if she hadn't been so excited about my birthday, neither would anyone else. Too bad you dont have a 3 year old........lol..... happy birthday anyway!
@yparson (581)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you...:) I don't have a 3yr old anymore but my son was good at remembering my birthday and going out of his way to bake me a cake last time was about 2yrs- You have a great daughter who knows how to get want she wants - LOL
@1corner (744)
• Canada
4 Jan 09
Sorry to hear that... a belated happy 50th to you! And it's good you told your family about it. Hope they'll not make this oversight again this year.
I guess this happens a lot to folks whose birth dates are so close to Dec. 25th that they get just 1 gift, i.e. for Christmas. Been guilty of doing this myself to relatives who share the same birth month as yours. Guess will have to make it up to them in the future, when I can better afford it.
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Well, Happy Belated Birthday! I can totally understand why you would want someone to do something for you, especially on your 50th birthday, that is a special birthday.
My daughter's birthday is January 2nd and I always try to make it a point that it is seperate from Christmas. It's just part of our holiday season and it seems to last a little longer. In fact, my son's birthday is a week before Thanksgiving and her is a week after Christmas, so November, December, & January are all special months to us.
Happy 50th Birthday again!
@Fortunata (1135)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Aw, sorry you didn't get a cake for your birthday. Happy belated birthday! I'm going to be turning 50 too in a couple of months. I always try to at least send somebody a card or an e-card for their birthday. Maybe you should have started bombarding your family more loudly a few weeks before your 50th birthday, with a megaphone or something, lol. Some families are like that, I don't know why.
