Abusive Relationship
By Kanesha1028
@Kanesha1028 (154)
United States
January 4, 2009 3:07pm CST
I'm currently in an abusive relationship. The economy is bad and it's really hard to find a job. I don't have any family or a income. The man I'm with is all I have. I want to make it on my own as soon as possible. Are there any ways to make fast money online or are there are any loans I can get.
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12 responses
@snowy22315 (180857)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Why don't you check in with a local battered woman's shelter in your area. They can probably help you with what you need. If that is not available there is probably a counseling center or mental health center in your area. Good Luck. There are alot of ways to make money online but most of them don't generate the type of income you are going to need.
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@AnakSuNamun (2084)
• United States
4 Jan 09
I doubt there is any place online where you can quickly make money that is enough for the rent and other life necessities,it all takes time and effort. Don't mean to point any fingers but how did you get yourself in this situation? I've been there(in a way) but I have a job and I would scramble to be independent at all costs. You can take a loan from the bank if your credit history is OK but make sure they don't send any info to your home,you might get in trouble. Also,there is such thing as women's shelters,nothing great but better than be on the street,right? You can also get a protective order from the police if you give them enough evidence and your abuser will be forced to move out,don't know if you can handle the rent,though. You really need to go to some women help organization and see what options they can offer you. Good luck!
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I don't know of any place to get a loan unless you have good credit and could go to a bank. Just make sure that he doesn't get any info as that could get you in a lot of trouble too.
I think the best thing you could do to get out the situation and fast is to go to a Womens shelter. I don't know where you live but even out small town has one. They will protect you, go to court with you to get a Protection Order. They will help you get on your feet with a job and a place to live. Best of all you will be away from the abuse and even around other women that have been thru it. A kind of therapy, if you will.
@prinzess1515 (1341)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Kanesha which state are you in? I can help you find government funding to get you back on your feet. You do not need to stay with that man.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
5 Jan 09
Hello Kanesha , i feel so sorry to read about your plight.You can just take some consolation from the fact that there are many women caught up in an abusive relationship, from which they are unable to move on..You are really great because inspite of saying that you are being abused yo say Your man is all you have. I wish you luck.Plz do look around online, as there are many opportunities for earning some money which is enough to keep you independent - all the best to you
@momtrying2makeit (3270)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Never depend on a man, they will let you down. Depend on god that is what I say. I have had problems in my realtionships and the best thing to do is have the person get help. And if they do not want to get help then I suggest leaving them, it will not get better. If your life is in danger you must keep yourself safe. I will pray for you and I hope that god keeps you safe.
@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Honestly I have no clue about loans and all that but there probably isn't any place to make fast money online. I wish there was because with 4 kids I really would love that.
But I do want to tell you if this person is abusing you, don't wait for money to be able to leave. just get up and go. if you have children just take them and go.
I was in an abusive relationship for 8 years.
I know how low you can feel and how you can feel like there is just no way out and no where to go. but you gotta do what ya gotta do.
go to a shelter if you have to. me and my kids had to. it was either that or stay in that same situation.
I had to ask myself if I wanted to live a life or die that way.. I didn't want to die I wanted to live so we left with nothing but the clothes on our back.
no matter what you have to do just do it. later you'll be so happy you made the decision to choose life.
he doesnt have any right treating you that way. he is not your father. you deserve better for yourself. dont take that from anyone.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
5 Jan 09
I think I can understand your helplessness, when you are totally dependent on the person for your livelyhood, you become a punching bag for that person. I guess you could start with a small job, like bartending or as a waitress, and start earning. Once you have found your feet and feel confident, look out for better jobs. There is no relationship that needs to last if it is abusive. You must be feeling lost with no job now, but a tiny step in the right direction will give you confidence to k ick him in the a**. No job is small, a job is a job and if it feeds you and keeps you warm, go ahead and do it. Im sure you will do well. Maybe you could give tutions to children and start earning if you are well educated. Anthing, so long as you can live your life with grace and dignity. Good luck friend and let us know when you get a job. Well be praying for you.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Oh my, I am so sorry to hear about this. I have been in a few abusive relationships and I can tell you from experience that there isn't any way to make fast money. There are, however, groups that helped woman in abusive situations to help them get out of that relationship and to get them on their feet. Depending on where you live you can research and find those groups. You definitely don't need to stay in this relationship. You deserve so much more than that and how dare someone think any different about how they should treat you. If you need to talk or anything like that, just yell at me. I know the struggles and the hurt that comes along with it and will do all I can to help you through this time. Good luck and keep me posted. God bless
@sunil_008 (1269)
• India
5 Jan 09
there are no way where you make fast money. for every single penny there is always hard work and dedication. since you are staying with your man and i am sure hes earning the living for you as well. and about the abuse thing i think you should talk to him. and look for jobs consistantly. if economy at this stage is supporting all others then whats wrong with your job?so be positive and try hard. i am sure you will get whatever you want.
@tmariew (32)
• United States
5 Jan 09
If he hurts you really bad, you will be even more dependent on him. Don't wait for it to reach that level, leave now, before that happens or he convinces you somehow to stay. There is alot you could do. If there is a shelter go there, they aren't designed for long term but they will generally have some way to help you find work. And after you leave, don't let someone support you again. Of course there are alot of decent men out there but some of them feel like if they support you then you are ther property and they can do whatever they want with you. If you always have a way to be independent that is less likely to happen. And please nobody think I am being sexist, I know that this guy doesn't represent all men. I'm just saying to be careful. If there arent any shelters try asking family friends or even people you go to church with. Just leave now.
@karenlapniten (83)
• Philippines
5 Jan 09
Hi! Your story sounds bad..am sorry... honestly, i dont have any idea about loans etcetera..all is can offer you is my PRAYER that you will get through with this and that everything will be ironed out.. Don't give up because there is always a second chance and if you feel that you're down, remember: GOD IS WITH YOU ALWAYS...