SHOULD I LET HER FLY? AGREE OR DISAGREE?
@clarkplatinum (268)
United States
November 8, 2006 9:48pm CST
My daugher is sixteen and wants to be fly airplanes. She has already been on a test flight and she loves it. She want to be an airline pilot. I want her to be a teacher. Do u think I should let her follow her dreams or say no and make her be a teacher or something else. I really need some advice on this one can you help.
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@ChewySpree (1832)
• United States
9 Nov 06
I think you should let her fly. Becoming a pilot takes a lot of discipline and it would be good experience for her.
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
9 Nov 06
I agree. And at a later time she may decide to continue her education and teach. Who knows. That is a growing trend: switching careers in your 30's or 40's.
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@lectricky (680)
• United States
9 Nov 06
If her dream is to be a pilot, making her be a teacher will only result in a rift between the two of you. There is no reason why she can't be a pilot, right?
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@alchemistrx (2547)
• Philippines
14 Nov 06
I'm also a daughter, you know and it's hard if you let your dreams to be passed on to your daughter to become who she doesn't like to become. This is from what I experienced.And I still can't get over the feeling between my father.
@gaganlok (587)
• India
8 Dec 06
That depends how much she loves flying.
If shes passionate about flying, If flying is whats on her mind everytime..then..let her fly. She'll not live without it.
Otherwise, you can force her to become teacher, I'm sure she'll forget about it soon after becoming teacher.
@ladysun (635)
• United States
9 Nov 06
My husband is both a Pilot and a Teacher. He was a liscensed Flight Instructor at the age of 18. I realize that, as a parent, you want the best education/future for your child (we have 7 children by the way) but why not encourage her to follow her dreams. Keep in mind, that by some US Federal Agency Guidelines, my husband also was deemed as having the equivelant of a Master's Degree by that same age because of the Flight Instructor Status.
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@jncgiza (256)
• United States
9 Nov 06
I know that her being a teacher is your dream, but think about it like this. What if you couldnt have been what you wanted to be because your parents didnt agree with it, would you have been happy? Would you have held it against them for taking your dream? I am sure you would have, so why would you want to do that to your daugher? She is still young and she dream may change in time.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Did you have dreams? Were you allowed to follow them? If not how did you feel? Personally I think you should let her follow her dream. Right now she is 16 her dream could change tomorrow and you never know it may not. I had a nephew that has wanted to be in the Navy for geez years think at the age 13 he said he was going to join. Now this war well guess what...January 4, 2007 He goes in. We have dreams to give us goals let her strive for hers.
@clarkplatinum (268)
• United States
10 Nov 06
Thanks, I will probably let her fly just to see if she can handle it. However, I will make her earn it. I am not going to say go ahead and fly. Yes, I did have dreams but I was not able to attain them because my family was not finacially able to aford it. Its not the end of the world if we don't attain our dreams.
@prasad1961 (5597)
• India
9 Nov 06
Make her teacher for Pilots. So that yours and your daughters interest fulfilled. Both will be satisfied.
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Let her live her dream...not yours. If you push her to do what you want her to do and she does it out of guilt or respect for you, eventually she will regret terribly not following her own path. At that point she will resent you for not allowing her to follow her heart. You can't really "make" her become a teacher. She may do it out of respect for you, or like I said out of guilt, but the end result will be bad. What is so bad about her wanting to be a pilot? It is a good profession, and she may eventually choose teaching as a second career choice. Step back and let her know that you support her either decision and love her no matter what. It will work out.
@bekbekx2 (23)
• South Africa
24 Nov 06
i second that, i'm a daughter that wanted to quit school and travel! my parents always supported me (tho not financially) and now i am a pilot and i am flying and travelling at the same time. and i am really happy i was allowed to follow my heart and love my parents dearly for giving me the confidence to do this.
teacher smeacher! its a thankless poorly paid job
@juicemilk (2283)
• Australia
9 Nov 06
and how would you plan on 'making' her be a teacher?
Once she's an adult (which won't be long) she can do whatever she likes.
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@clarkplatinum (268)
• United States
10 Nov 06
Thanks, I would not pay for her to go to College. The only reason I don't want her to fly is because I feel it is so dangerous and I feel she is still immature and need to grow up a little more.
@juicemilk (2283)
• Australia
10 Nov 06
its a fair enough reason, after all you are her mother. But I really don't see how you could stop her if it's what she really wants to do :)
Good luck either way!
@xoRicanDyme3ox (638)
• United States
11 Nov 06
if thats her dream then let her persue it, if it seems reasonable and she is very pasionate about piloting then let her go for it she will be less happy wit u if u disapoint her by takin her dreams away trusr me
@clarkplatinum (268)
• United States
11 Nov 06
Thanks, Yes, she is living her dreams in more than one way. She now has her pilot license and is attending the University of Alaska studying Professional Flight. They have a wonerderful flight program there. She found it her self and I am helping her live her dreams. We will see what happens...
@mommygirlX4 (675)
• United States
15 Nov 06
You should let her be what ever she wants to be. If she wants to be a pilot then you should support her in that choice. How would you feel if you wanted to be a nurse and your mother told you that you were supposed to be a house wife?
@happygal68 (3275)
• United States
15 Nov 06
She is her own person, so you should support her in this decision. If she truly enjoys it, I would hate to see her turn against you, because you told her she could not follow her passion/dreams.
I will support my boys in whatever they choose to do with their lives, if I don't like what they want to do I will certainly voice my opinion to them, I would never take a dream away from them.
Besides, who knows she could end up being the pilot for The President some day! That would sure make you a very proud parent!!
@shweta_chalke (63)
• India
15 Nov 06
BEING A PILOT IS A LOVELY PROFESSION, AND A PERSON ALWAYS EXCELS IF HE IS DOING THE WORK HE LOVES. I WANTED TO BE SINGER, I AM WORKING AS AN ACCOUNTANT, BUT I MISS MY SINGING, DON'T DO IT TO YOUR DAUGHTER. LET HER FREE. IF SHE LANDS UP IN A BORING LIFE AFTER BECOMING A TEACHER, YOU WILL BE BLAMED FOR THE IRREVERSIBLE MISTAKE
BYE
@tavish (46)
• India
8 Dec 06
aviation is THE field to be in today! if you can afford the training for flying school then i think its worth letting your daughter fly! there are however a couple of things that should be kept in mind.
firstly, airlines normally dont take students immediately after they've completed their CPL (commercial pilots license). here in india you get a CPL after 200 hours of flying but airlines hire only pilots with about 1500 hours. so you'll have to log hours as an instructor or fly ferries...
secondly, you have to be in good shape physically. the slightest signs of illness or eyesight problems will ground you and clip your wings either temporarily or permanently. its advisable to get a complete medical check up to see if you can pass the requirements for the fitness to get a CPL, BEFORE actually starting training.
hope that helps!
