Would You Do This??
By Mocha09
@Mocha09 (71)
United States
January 4, 2009 9:02pm CST
I have a friend(A)She has a BF(B), A & B work together. A was talking to this guy(C)it was a physical relationship but, she liked him. But, one day C came on to B and told her he wanted her all along, she told him she couldn't do that to her friend and said she wasn't interested. C was very persistent and would come pick her up from work behind A's back. He told her to tell A that they wanted to be together but, B was still telling him no she can't do that but, he kept pushing the issue. So, B eventually gave in and asked A if she could talk to him bcuz she likes him, A said it was ok bcuz she wasn't really feeling him anyway... So B asked A once again, "are you sure bcuz if you don't want me to I won't" A said, "it's ok I'm not going to let no guy get in between us" So, B started talking to C. A was mad that B really did it and was talking about B behind her back. B found out that she was saying nasty things about her and the situation and confronted A on it. They got into a big confrontation and are no longer friends. Do you think B should have went out with C and risk her friendship?
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9 responses
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
5 Jan 09
Same here laydee, A is she? B is he.. and C is he also.. lol whatever....hhahaha... confusing..
@youngsweetheart (772)
• United States
5 Jan 09
To be fair, I was confused at first too, since "bf" can also mean "boyfriend", not just "best friend".
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
5 Jan 09
i didn't see that B is doing anything wrong at all to A... A already gives her consent to B before B talks to A and A actually gives her the permission to do that... A even tells B that "it's ok"... so i don't know why now A is angry to B and being nasty to her... i will say yes... B should continue her relationship with C because obviously A sounds not like a good person to me... take care and have a nice day...
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
5 Jan 09
In my opinion if A had liked, REALLY liked C she should have told her BF that she did and then B shouldn't have gone after C. But the way it was written I don't think A had a right to really get upset. B asked and A lied, don't lie to friends.
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@RaiscaraAvalon (250)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Wow, thanks for the high school algebra flashback...
And just like those old problems, this is a trainwreck. B needs to trash C if she thinks that A is worth keeping as a friend. If not, and C is worth it to B to lose A as a friend, the B can carry on.
A should have been honest from the start with B, and this wouldn't have been an issue. B did everything she could to prevent A from getting hurt. So A needs to grow up, this isn't high school anymore, even if this feels like an algebra problem. :)
And when all else fails, solve for D. :)
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@youngsweetheart (772)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I don't think B did anything wrong at all, except perhaps being too secretive at first, although that was understandable since she likely didn't know when it all started that she'd end up liking the guy and wanting to go out with him, and she didn't want to get A riled over nothing.
Friend A messed up when B asked her permission and A gave it. If A didn't mean it, she shouldn't have said it at all; I mean, come on, there's a reason B asked her if it would be okay, and unless A is really thick headed, she KNEW that, and either just proceeded to pretend it wouldn't bother her, or was testing her friend, the latter of which is immature.
It's not as though B deliberately went after the guy A wanted; C came to B. B tried to deny it, but sometimes feelings are just too strong. I have a feeling, though, that if A had voiced her TRUE feelings on the subject, B would have not gone with C, or at least would have held out for as long as possible.
A is the one who behaved poorly here, in my opinion, not B.
@stiener (735)
• Singapore
6 Jan 09
After reading the first 5 lines, I believe that you have got all the roles mixed up. When you write a story like this and would like to conceal the identity, try to use the names first to complete the story. Afterwhich, replace all the names with the prefix to prevent any errors. Maybe you can start another discussion so that we can have a clearer picture of your friend's case. Cheers and Happy MyLotting...
