Forgive & Forget

Lol that huge a memory hey. Hm.. i'm a sensitive person so i don't forgive and forget easily. I do dwell on things a bit. I want to be more forgiveable but i don't think i can forget it.

I am the type of person who do not forget easily but may forgive in an instant. We have a memory, we have brains so there is really no such thing as "forget" especially if that thing that happened to you in the past really hurt you. Anyway it is not only about things that happen to us but also what we did. Like you may forgive yourself easily but can't forget your mistake and that is the hard part. What I learned in life is to think very hard first before doing anything that could harm other people. I don't want to commit mistakes again because no matter what we do, we can no longer erase what has transpired but we can always forgive if we want. What I would like to remain on other people's mind is that I may not be that good before but now I am changing for better.

I am a kind of person that can't easily forget and forgive. But that is only the case when that person is too abusive already. I will easily forgive and tolerate small mistakes. But if it is repetitive and the impact in my heart is big then you better prepare because I am a monster when I am very mad.

Forgiving usually comes easy, forgetting however, not so much. I can forget things for a while, but many things stay in my head to be thought about at a later time. Not with anger or anything like that, I just have a really good memory, but I am capable of forgiving.

In my opinion,if i forgive it means that i will forget.But sometimes i'm a little small-hearted.As a man i think i should be big-hearted. I think i will forgive lots of things and forget the pain except the bam from friends.I never forgive someone deceive to me! Happy mylotting!

I forgive very easily... as a result, I'm usually taken for granted and hurt over and over again. It's a hard balance, forgive/forget. I grew up with parents that never let me live a mistake down. I'm talking years later, they would bring stuff up... "Well, if you hadn't done this..." or "I told you to do this..." Grudges are a waste of your heart's energy. On the same token, I don't forget. I just try to move forward more carefully. If someone close to me hurts me, when and if we work it out and there are genuine apologies, I will forgive. But the infraction will stay on my mind for a long time and although I try not to let it affect our relationship, there's always that instinctive pull to be careful in the future. Sometimes people hurt those they are closest to and they don't even know it. Sometimes the hurtful actions are just a part of that person's personality. So in that case, you accept that about a person and tread softly, and hopefully avoid being hurt.

Interesting discussion, well i am one of those who easily forgive but its hard for me to forget. I easily forget those small things, but otherwise i really get hurt and its dam tough for me to forget such things.

Many people can forgive but they cannot forget. What they are really saying is that they cannot forgive. Forgiveness should be like a note we tear to pieces, toss into a rubbish bin and completely forget about. Living in the past wipes out our chances of enjoying the present and gives no hope for the future. I have tried both and it works fine for me. Just blank out your mind and remove everything out of your memory that has become a stumbling block in your process of forgiving others. It removes the pain and burden in our hearts and thereby frees others of difficulties too. Life is short so why keep the grudge?

regal_aeros, You just remind me of the words of Thomas S. Szasz where he says: “The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” I suppose this is just human and we are simply imperfect and do have our own fallacies. Yet, we must remember that forgiveness is essential in our lives and relationships. There is no way a relationship can ever move on and grow if forgiveness is absent in both parties. So, we have need to constantly remind ourselves that we need to have a forgiving heart. I hate to pose this but is forgiving without forgetting sincere in the first place. “I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note - torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.” - Henry Ward Beecher. Cheers.

Maybe I am a girl who is easily to forget and forgive. I am forgetful in fact, so I would forget things easily, what happened just now will be forgetten by me easily, and maybe a minute ago I was angry with somebody,but later, I will forget this issue and forgive him.

I am not a very forgiving person. It takes a lot for me to forgive people. I can eventually, but I actually need to be pushed to do so. I can really hold a grudge. But I can eventually forgive people. Of course there are a few things I would never forgive. But that is just me. I believe people should have good morals, and if they don't I don't think I have to forgive them.

I can say that it's easy for me to forgive someone who did me wrong. When somebody did something that really hurt me. I talk to them to let them know how I felt, and then, the process of forgiving starts. The idea for me is... it's done, I got hurt, so the only way to start healing is to forgive the person so that I can also free myself from the burden of feeling bad... But then forgetting... this I guess takes time. It's easy for me to forgive but sure that it's not easy to forget. I don't. But not in the sense that I keep a bad feeling in my heart for the person who did me wrong. When I say I don't forget, I mean, I try to learn and remember the experience. I will keep that so that it will not happen again. Not forgetting is my way of protecting myself from ever being hurt by the same person, for the same reason... When someone did me wrong. I can easily forgive... but then the trust and the relationship will be very difficult to be back as like before.

Interesting topic! Over the whole, I tend to forgive people easily, but forgetting is much harder. To me, it's almost as if forgiving is something from the head, and forgetting from the heart. You can understand and forgive people, and you aren't mad at them anymore, but on the other hand, you haven't forgotten, and might not do for a long time or maybe never, what they've done, the way you see them (as persons) will never the same again! I'll specify with a friend of mine. We were really close and I thought we knew each other, until he started ignoring me and stuff, because he thought he was too old for me, had too much influence, I might fall in love and blabla. It hurted me he ignored me, he showed that he didn't knew me at all, thinking I'm easy to influence and naieve while I'm not. But we talked it over, I understand why he thought and did such things, he knows how I think about it, so actually everything is sorted out. Yet I'm unable to act as if nothing happened and talk and laugh as we used to do (and he as well it seems). Things will never be the same as they were, I've forgiven, but not forgotten what he did and said, I'll never let him get so deep into my heart.

i dont easily forget things ,but very easily gorgive to people for the sake of my happiness,becouse it would hurt me to thingk al lot about the people and also take me for lo9ng to waste my time,i just want to invest rather wasting ,i prefer to about those things which workes in the better way

i think i have a small heart as well... but that really depends on the situation again... most of the times i can forgive... but to forget it is very hard for me as well as i am blessed by God to have a strong memory... but i try to improve myself and change... i don't want to become a hateful and bitter person... otherwise, people will dislike me... take care and have a nice day...

A wise person once told me that we should forgive but never forget that someone did the wrong thing by us. The reason we should forgive others is for our own peace of mind or we risk being eaten up with bitterness. That has always made sense to me because once we forgive someone who had done the wrong thing by us, we can put that aside and get on with our life. Hoowever we never forget what has happened or maybe it should be who caused the wrong because we should never give them a second chance to hurt us in that way again. This action is not for "minor" things that other people do without thinking. It is more for where/when some person had hurt so us badly that it shakes us to the very core of our soul. By their actions and/or words they have destroyed the trust and maybe the love that we had for them. Some things are very easily forgiven as the action or words do not impinge on our life too much and it would be hoped that this is the main sort of hurt that people suffer, if they have to suffer at all that is. But there are other hurts and betrayals which go much deeper than that and they can have a major effect on our life. Those particular types of hurts or betrayals take a lot of deep thinking before we are able to forgive.

As for me, I am not having a bent of mind of easily forgetting and forgiving those wrong doings purposefully done to me by kith and kin.Though I would not try to wreak vengeance on the wrong doer, I would not spare his/her actions as silly and dismiss them quite soon.

Right, I feel the same too. It's easier to forgive; to forget takes a longer time. It takes time to build up trust for a person who has hurt you or your family; it is not easy to forget what has happened!

well,i think i just like you. i'm easily forgive.sometime i will forget,but many time i can remember. just remember,i mean i'm not want to remember or forget purposely.i just know what happen.

ya well i also do believe in forgive and forget because it is said that the who ever is ever is a nice man then he/she forgive and forget people which is responsible and i love people who are like me