Do people believe you have a "real" job?
By explorations
@explorations (1712)
United States
January 9, 2009 7:02am CST
I've been working from home as a freelance writer, author, and mixed media artist since 1999 and, during that decade, I've had more than my fair share of "you don't have a real job" type conversations. I feel I have to constantly define my work, and prove to my peers that is is a true profession . . . even if I am working from home.
Do you face these issues with your peers? If so, how are you handling this? If this isn't an issue for you, how do you recommend others solve this problem?
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14 responses
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 09
Well... I believe that this is a real job for me. I am a full time student, it is impossible for me to get an offline job in the country but well, I don't know how to say it, but I think the best way to make money for me is from the internet. Yes, that is why I think it is a real job. And if you ask me whether I care or not about that, I would proudly say that I don't care if it is a real job or not a real job as long as it gives me the real money, I would still do that anyway.
@raxxie (128)
• Mexico
9 Jan 09
I worked writing tv scripts for six years. During that time, I had to listen to that a lot of times. A lot.
Worst, sometimes I was really busy, working at home, and people called me asking for favors "as long as you're at home" as if I had nothing to do.
I had no problem with the first part -as someone already said, I KNEW I wasn't idle and that was enough, but it was knd of difficult to convince people not to disturb me when I was working. I even stopped answering the phone. :P
Funny thing, now I work at an office and have a lot of idle time -I have to be here wether I have work to do or not. But people (family, friends) donĀ“t call me at all, they know I'm at my workplace and then they assume I'm working hard :S
@Raven1 (577)
• Australia
28 Jan 09
I understand where you're coming from completely. I get this so often and it makes me mad. My mom or my brother or friends will ring and ask me to do favors or chores for them. "Oh, while you're home, would you mind going to... or picking up..."
I'm so busy with my business and my clients that I just don't have time for this kind of disrespect. I tell them often, but they still think I'm sitting at home having fun and doing nothing. It's easier to allow the answering machine to pick up the phone when I'm really busy.
When I'm out and trying to explain to people what I do for a living, I just say I work in finance and they leave me alone. I'm actually a freelance finance columnist - but they just don't get it when I say that.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
11 Jan 09
Well, I actually have a "real" job, but I don't think that the fact that I go to an office every day defines it as a "real" job. I could very easily be a CPA out of my house, but I choose to work for a firm. People do tend to (erroneously) think that if you don't leave your house to go to work that you aren't working.
@dvmurphy (326)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I work from home also as a freelance writer, novelist and I am the owner of an organization for grandparents rights in Iowa and I get hit with this attitude from my husband, some of my neighbors, relatives and especially my daughter. They don't seem to realize I work around deadlines just like anyone else. I try to have a set routine for working at home but interruptions in person and on the phone by my daughter, husband and some family members can be not only annoying but destructive to working at home. They would not dream of doing this if I had an office other than at home. Now my daughter has given us guardianship of our four year old granddaughter so my routine is even tighter than before.
@Raven1 (577)
• Australia
28 Jan 09
Yes I have a "real" job. I'm a full time freelance writer. It's my business, so not only am I the worker and writer, I'm the book-keeper, the sales person, the marketer, the media liaison, the payroll person, the banker, the data entry person, the tax agent, the tea-lady and the cleaner.
I'm busy all the time with my business and I have a four year old daughter as well. It seems that the moment you mention "working at home" people instantly assume you're sitting at home watching Oprah...
@IFEELLUCKY (13)
• United States
6 Mar 09
It is absolutely nobody's business how you earn your living. With the way things have gone down hill, you are one of the lucky few who have managed to carve out your own niche to earn your living.
Be very proud of yourself -- be very proud that you are self-employed, and so immune from unexpected pink slips. Just tell people you are a Writer-- that is a very noble profession. Then they will start looking at you with envy, not pity.
I am a laid-off technical writer and wish I could be in your shoes. Could you give me any assistance in getting started in the freelance writing business. I love to write, writing is my passion, but alas! how to earn my living in the short term is the question.
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
9 Jan 09
As a fellow writer, I often get this response from friends. The call me up or stop by especially when I am in the middle of something. The say "you can finish that later" or some other "insult" that what I do isn't a "real" job. I don't know how to handle it. Sometimes I just don't answer the phone if I am working. That seems to work well for the phone calls. As for converstions about work I tend to chime in on what I am working on. And I call it work. You have to set the tone to let them know that what you are doing is work, even if it is at home.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
i think that writers are being more accepted as having a job but i dont know. i was a writer for a couple of years and well, to me, it didnt matter what anyone said. i was on sick leave during the summer and scrapbooked for money. does that mean i didnt have a real job? i think a 'real job' is anywhere you make money.
@moumitamazumder (817)
• India
10 Jan 09
The place where I live as very little awareness about internet based earning programs. thus they look at me like they heard Hebrew when I say them I earn through such programs. They do not believe, and question me in different ways. I try to answer them as much as possible, but still at the end of the conversation they are not much satiated , and they still think something is mysterious that they are not told about.
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
10 Jan 09
Just because you're not going somewhere from nine to five everyday, out of your home doesn't mean you're not working. If you are able to consider freelancing, being an author and mixed media a job then so be it. If it pays your rent and meets your standards then it's work!
Have a nice night
@celticeagle (168327)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 09
I am moving. Among reasons they do not respect my work area or time. Have been helping my daughter with her kids for time and am finally ready to leave and find my own space. Then they can think what they want. I think you need to have a space that is business like and keep certain hours. Then it more job like and others will be more apt to appreciate it more.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
10 Jan 09
I want to be a soho though I'm a full time office worker now. I am tired of the routine worke. If I can stay at home and get paid,that's quite good . I can manage my time more freely. And working for myself will expire me a lot.
@robertc3 (2)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Well i take it as a job since a) you are actually doing a job of some sort for somebody and b)if you consider it work its work.
I have no problems with this with my peers they sometimes envy my career choice.
one way to resolve this is to compare earnings.
@panchel21 (43)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
hello! i had worked before in different companies but still i can't find myself suit to it. i had just ended my job last year December 2008 because of change management or shall i say job crises....
so now, i found out about this "mylot" while surfing through the net one night and i tried it and it was fun for me i never thought of having money while you were in your house,no boss,no cost of going to the office and time to prepare yourself for another day to work in the office and most of all YOU have a lot of time to your family....
i think it is fun to do it and i loves it...
maybe it will make other people like it too and a solution to those people that looking for some income right now. And for those who are needing some extra i highly recommend to join "mylot" they might find there needs right only there at there place and there time.