sharing housework
By spoiled311
@spoiled311 (5500)
Philippines
January 11, 2009 8:50pm CST
does your husband help in the housework?
i work freelance and work at home. so whenever i see something that needs cleaning or fixing, i almost always get to it immediately and get it done. i do clean our bedroom and bath. i didn't really need the help of my husband, although if i ask him to do something, he would happily oblige.
but yesterday was a sunday. it has been a long time since i have really had a general cleaning in the room because i had been hospitalized and after that home confinement with IV. and after my IV has been taken out, i have realized that i am in my third trimester already and my tummy has grown very large now.
so yesterday, my husband and i worked in our room. i took out some stuff from my closet, rearrange the entire closet, installed shelves, cleaned the floor, cleaned the toilet and bath, changed sheets, re-did the baby decors, cleaned the floors and re-arranged more stuff. my husband was bushed, because he would keep asking me what to do next so that he could save me some effort. so anyway, we got a lot of things done because we worked together.
thankfully, we only have these areas to maintain. anyway, i am so happy that the room looks more tidy than it was before and that it is so much cleaner.
do you also share in the housework? if you are a husband, do share your thoughts here too.
take care all and God bless you! :-)
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22 responses
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 09
Yeah, my husband does help me in the housework, we actually share the housework, as both of us are working. Since I am pregnant and work at home now, so I have more time staying at home, and I do most of the housework now. Unless when I am tired or not feeling well, then my husband will also cook for us, and also clean the stuffs. I am really happy that my husband does housework, it's his family that trained him to do housework since he is young. Some of my male friends do not do housework at all at home, they always thought girls should do that. 
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
12 Jan 09
My husband and I do share alot of the house work, but I mainly do most of the work around here. Because my husband works forty hours a week and I am the only one home since I am now out of work and looking for work. But I know before when we used to both work, we shared the household chores. I do not mind that I do the most work, because I am the only one home at the time.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
12 Jan 09
oh yes... my hubby also shares in the housework but i have to tell him what to do as well... both of us are working full time and it is impossible for me to clean the house by myself... i will be too tired if i do that and my hubby knows that... since we earn money together, i think it is just fair if we do the household work together as well... take care and have a nice day...
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
hi spoiled,
I am the one who does the cleaning around the house because I fully believe in the saying.. if you want something done right.. do it yourself. I have let my hubby clean the house before but it's not the way I like it done. I have a weeks schedule made out for myself every week and I follow it.
There are a couple things I get my hubby to do which are scooping the cat litter and taking out the garbage when it needs to be taken out. He doesn't mind doing that so it's all good.
Have a nice day
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
12 Jan 09
since we both work, it's a family effort. each child is responsible for their own room and share the work in the bathroom. we all pitch in with the kitchen, living room and dining room. i take care of our room and bathroom. when i have to work and he's off, he'll "straighten" things up but will make sure the kids get their chores done.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
12 Jan 09
No, my husband does not share in my housework. That is the only thing I grudge him. It sometimes becomes too much for me but then he either comes back late in the evening or on Sundays, he wants to take some rest or go to the market or do some of his personal office work. So all the housework is left to me.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
My husband and I have always shared the housework. We both work from home so we get to spend a lot of time together. When it is time to do household chores, we do our share. My husband is a good cook so he does most of the cooking while I do most of the cleaning. Taking out the garbage is another thing though. My hubby gets to take out the garbage. I hate to do that job so he has no choice but to do it. LOL
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
Good for you! My ex-hubby prefer to sleep! 
I was actually an unpaid helper before, I do all the housework, hahaha! But oh well, that's the past. I'm glad I got away. Hey! Take good care of that hubby of yours, he's a real sweet man to be helping out 
I was actually an unpaid helper before, I do all the housework, hahaha! But oh well, that's the past. I'm glad I got away. Hey! Take good care of that hubby of yours, he's a real sweet man to be helping out 
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
12 Jan 09
Hello spoiled311,
My husband is getting lazier nowadays. Last time, he would helped me out with the house chores. But now, I need to ask him many times and then only he will do the stuff. When I asked him why he changed, he told me that he has wife now that can help him with the house chores and why need to worry? He better concentrates on making more money. Well, I think it is just a pure lazy at his part. That's only a reason...
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
12 Jan 09
Dear friend,
After the person I married left us I and my parents have to manage all in house and my parents are bit old too. In our it is a team work and we manage it well with our team work. I help my mum in Kitchen and other household works. Also my father too help us in his own way. A totally team work.
@kRehan007 (4)
• India
12 Jan 09
if yr wife work in office y u cant help her working in house u shud help each other
@chenella0811 (70)
• China
12 Jan 09
[b][/b]You are the happiest woman.Your husband is great.My boyfriend doesn't do anything before,but these days ,he always help do the housework,i don't know why ,but i am so happy.
@secretsdemaman (2)
• France
12 Jan 09
unfortunately, many women like me do everything alone... most of the time, because my husband work more than me outside the house. So we try to spend our time together differently ! not doing housework !
@youless (112561)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Jan 09
Your husband is very nice. My husband and I will share the housework. As it is not fair for me to finish the housework all by myself. Since we are couples, then we shall share it. Actually we had talked about it before marriage. This is better as it may avoid some arguments about this issue after marriage.
I love China
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
12 Jan 09
hi spoiled..most of the time my husband to the housework..he is a good cleaner and if he map the floor 3or 4 times he can also help me tp put the clthes to the washing machine and dry it afterwards..he also do some washing dishes..but he cant do it if my mother inlaw was there..
and if he map the floor 3or 4 times he can also help me tp put the clthes to the washing machine and dry it afterwards..he also do some washing dishes..but he cant do it if my mother inlaw was there..
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
12 Jan 09
Not really - not the general cleaning and washing. It's only the so-called heavy duty stuff, like painting, fixing or repairing anything, garden works. And ya, washing the floor of our master bedroom - he does the scrubbing once in a while!
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
We always do the sharing of house work because we are both working outside to earn so there is no maid at all to do our household chores. We have kids but they are too busy in their studies and during weekend we are all together working inside our home. cleaning all the dirt that stained in our wall and many more to do inside and out. All of us are required to work.
@zandy985186 (434)
• China
12 Jan 09
Hi, congratulations on you to become a mother.All members in my family need to do housework everyday.I am responsible for washing the bowls,wash and cut the vegetables and meat and so on.I am tired of these jobs.But my sister or brother would not like to change with me. Because they think my work is too hard.One of them only cooks and stir-fry every meal.Another one tidies up the rubbish only after the meal and sweeps hygiene once every week.Sometimes I will complain. But unhelpful. So I have to work obediently, Haha.Just unsatisfied little by little.
@sahmof2 (274)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Ocassionally my husband helps me with the house work but for the most part I do it being that I'm the one home most of the time. After a hospitalization or the such he picks up around the house thankfully. As a little side note the redocorating, rearranging the closet, and all of those things you stated you did seems as though your in the nesting stage of pregnancy preparing for your bundle of joy. congrats.
