When should I start dating again and how do I go about it?

my advice is that you should find yourself first. it seems that you have never been alone in your life... i am sorry about yours split up. cant imagine the pain. however, it is true what they say that time heal all wounds... and you need to give yourself time to reflect about things. what do you really want in life? what are your goals, do you have a list of things you want to do in life? maybe you should make one and try doing them so you will know yourself better. the fact that you are asking the question means you are not ready for another relationship. dont worry about being alone for a while. meet with friends, make friends... enjoy life by yourself first. watch the runaway bride, there is a concept there i think... hope this helps.

Wait until the divorce is final. He might change his mind and feel that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence and that he was a fool for leaving you. It would also be safer, and he would not be able to use that against you. Just go out with friends, not with just one person, but a group of your girl friends so that you get used to being back in circulation, but wait until the divorce is final and there is no hope of him returning to start dating again.

I think you should wait until the divorce is final. If he is a jerk, he can use dating against you in the proceedings. Going out with groups of friends should be ok though, as long as you don't pair off. Church or work are your best bets for meeting a nice guy. You can also meet friends of friends. Good luck!

That is not a question that anyone but you can answer. If you still love your husband, that could be a problem since you will be comparing everyone to him, of course the bad will fade and he could become a super hero in your eyes if do that. You must first be comfortable with being single, get to know yourself again, you have changed since you were in school. The first year after my husband moved out, I did not see anyone, then I asked someone, out of necessity for a favor, and we became friends after that. We actually began dating each other about a year after we became friends. To make a long story short, we got married. How I met him - he was my son's first hockey coach about 4 years earlier, he too was divorced with 2 boys that played hockey. It was a match made in an ice rink.

In honesty, If it was me, I'd wait until after the divorce is final. At least that way you aren't going into a new relationship with unresolved baggage. If your soon-to-be ex-hubby is filing then it shouldn't take more than a few months depending on how complicated it is. As for where to meet ppl, talk to your family and friends...they probably have friends that are single that they'd set you up with. Don't rush it and let nature take it's course. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]

I agree with what some of the others have mentioned to wait until the divorce is finalized otherwise he could make things difficult and could use your dating other men as another cause against you. As for where to meet someone...LOL...I sure would like to know that too..heehee. Somehow for someone like me...and maybe you, perhaps a place where you might meet people in general who have a brain and intelligence..like a museum, bookstore...bars definitely NOT. Are there any community type functions around you??

Well if that would just be friendly dates then you can start right now. But if your intention for dating is for serious relationship I guess it would be better to be sure that the love for your husband is already gone. It is as if your just looking for a replacement of of the love that you're missing right now and I guess replacements are far more different from the one you have right now. So my guess is that if you are really sure that you won't jump back to your husband if he get's back to you then I guess that is the right time to look for one serious relationship. I suggest go on a friendly dates with friends and relatives first and pamper yourself and start discovering yourself first. And when you finally learned to love yourself again then maybe you can start loving others too.

i would wait until the the divorce is pretty much done,or at least almost. i knew someone who had that used against them in court,believe it or not. it just made a further mess. i guess you could try something like eharmony later? they're supposed to find people with at least common interests.

Being single after being married is tough. In your case, you don't mention children so you have less to be concerned about. Don't worry about what looks good to him or others. Make sure that you are completely over him before you start dating. In fact, I would not even set a time frame. I would advise getting your life back on track and be comfortable being single and on your own. Greive your marriage and don't bring that baggage into a new relationship. I found that when I was ready to date and make wiser choices is when I really didn't care if I did or not. I am finally at a point in my life where I am ok without a man but I sure do like having the right one there. I don't NEED one. I'm older and wish that I'd come to that way of thinking much earlier...would have saved me much heartache but we live and learn. If some guy turns your head...by all means...go out and have a good time...just don't get all caught up in it while part of you is still thinking of your husband. And be honest to the guy ...you are still going thru the process and still have feelings for your husband. You don't want to be his rebound.

I think that it mainly depends on you, in the sense that you should feel ready to start dating again. When you do feel ready, then you'll know that you can move on to someone else other than your husband and essentially move on. You are in the best position to judge when the best time to start dating is.

You should start dating again when you are truly over your husband. Seriously, if you go out dating again and your heart is still with him, you won't really enjoy yourself, and not only will you be cheating yourself, but it wouldn't be fair to the guy you are dating. As far as how to go about it, you should be honest with whomever you decide to date. If your divorce is not final, tell them so. If you are only looking for a good time, and nothing with strings attatched, say so. I am not sure where to go to find a date anymore myself. I do not recommend tha bars because normally, if you meet a guy there, there is areason for it. I never went out looking for a date. The guys I dated after my divorce were people I met through freinds, or already knew, and the man I married just showed up on my doorstep, literally! LOL I know that you are probably feeling very lonely right now, but believe me when I say that if you wait until you are emotionally divorced, whether it be on paper or not, before you begin dating, it will be better in the long run .

I think you can start dating whenever you feel you are ready to do it. That is totally up to you, there is no right or wrong time. You can meet people anywhere. You usually meet someone when you are not looking, when you least expect it and where you least expect it.

I think you should take a vacation from men for awhile . Get to know yourself again. But to be honest with you I would wait at least a year . Here in my state you have to be legally seperated a year before you can file for a divorce. So take that year and rediscover yourself . Take a vacation if even for just a weekend . Or a day at the spa. It wouldn't be a good idea for you to start dating right now if you still have all these strong feelings for your husband . Wait till you can see him or talk to him without crying or becoming depressed . I hope this little bit of advise helps you . We are here if you need to ralk more about things .We will help you get through this . Cheryl

Your situation isn't good. If I were you and my wife had gone I would cry without stopping. But in your case, I think you have to start dating immediately. To forget your bad husband.

I might ask myself where does a 58 year old man meet people. Just go to a bar or club and sit down with a drink and chat with whoever comes by or talks to you. I do this and I have met women who hang out in bars with or without friends and that does not mean they're there for pickups. They just decide to go out and have fun like you should be doing instead of wondering what to do. Doesn't enjoying yourself sound like a good idea ? Just do it.

Hi aurone! Well first let me start off with I'm very sorry about the situation your in Its not very easy to go through at all. I think truhfully its really up to you when you want to date, but I believe it would be best to wait till after the divorce goes through or he can say that you were cheating on him. Im not trying to be mean just truthful I had a freind go through this once and she dated before the divorce was final and he ws saying she was cheating. Well Since you don't go to church you can meet people by going to the park, or a little stroll down the block. I don't know if you go out to clubs or bars but sometimes theres some good guys there. Or you can ask one of your friends about setting you up with one of there friends. I really hope all goes well for you and I wish you a lot of luck.

Only you will know for sure when the right time will be for you to begin dating again, but let me give you my take on things. Having been married before and divorced before and married again (this time for good), let me say that it's vital to any relationship you have from this moment forward that you take some time to be alone. Take some time to yourself and enjoy being by yourself. Take some time to learn who you are and what you're all about. You say that you've never been single, it's important that you explore that part of your life for a while. When you're in relationships (not just marriage), you're always a culmination of you and the person you're with. It's important that you find out who you are outside of a relationship. Once you have that information, you'll know what you're looking for in your next partner, you'll have time to think about what went wrong in your last marriage, and you'll learn to love yourself and be happy in spite of not being attached to someone. When my first marriage fell apart, it was about a year before I began dating again. When that relationship fell apart, it was about two years before I dated someone else. Only you know for sure when the right time will be for you, but let me tell you that rebound relationships NEVER work. Two months is too soon to begin dating again. Give it time and the right place to look will reveal itself along with the right person.

In my opinion you can start dating whenever you feel comfortable. You didn't walk out on your husband so you have no need to wait for anything, you could start dating right now if you wanted to. Personally I would think some alone time might be benificial. Sometimes the reason that our relationships don't work is becuase we are not happy with ourselves and the way that others see us. If you are ready to date then I would suggest that you start close to home, go to places that you go, you will be more likely to find someone with similar interestes that way. I have an uncle who ctually got hooked up with his wife through online dating so if you are open to that I say go for it. My only suggestion for hooking up with someone online, is never agree to meet with them alone until you get to know them. I say this because you never know what someone is like, it's always a good idea to be safe rather than sorry. I hope that my advice has or will help you. I look forward to being updated on how things are going. :)

Everything depends on how you feel, if you have done the pleases and ill change theories to him and nothing works i personally think its time to dust your hands off to him and make yourself happy again. Granted it sucks to know that your getting divorced and your having to change your whole lifestyle or adjust. You can go to upscale bars where the older crowd is at or you just take things day by day and let that right somebody step up to you. Keeping your attitude high is the most important thing to do when you just get out of a relationship because most people revert to baggy clothes and looking like they just live on the street when it should just be the opposite. Dress nicely, dress like your going out everyday that way your image and new open mind show with your clothes. Sometimes even going out with some of your friends are good starters. I have been married before and don't get your self down over it, you only live once so use your experience to help you not hurt you.

I think that first you should take a break, where you can re-discover yourself, adapt to this new situation and make up your mind. Divorce may have brought a lot of stress and changes in your life, and so you have to deal with this before commencing a new life. However, this does not mean that you shouldn't meet new people and form relationships. Just be sure that you are not escaping from your past marriage by entering into a new relationship.