I wonder how many really
By maildumpster
@maildumpster (3815)
United States
January 14, 2009 3:03pm CST
I wonder how many people really mean it when they say "if there is anything I can do to help; let me know".
I know that when I say it I mean it. If there is something I can not do for the person I tell them upfront. Say they need financial help; I can't give them money cause I don't have it to give, I tell them but see if there is something else I can do.
I honestly don't think that there are many people who really mean it. Like my family is good and they are supportive of one another BUT when I have had need no one but my mother has ever really helped. My brother has but not without being difficult about it.
I have an account with an online bank. If I get others to open accounts I get a bonus from the bank and my family member or friend does too. Yet when I sent out invites to friends and family members only my sister in law opened an account.
I earn money here and at myPoints. (a few others too but not so much) I have invited friends and family alike. Only a few people (less than 10) even joined one program. And most became inactive right away.
These are ways they can help me but they don't. Only costs them a little of their time. Especially if all they join is MyPoints. It never costs them money.
What are your thoughts on this? How many people do you think mean it when they say they will help any way they can??
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4 responses
@kerri1981 (133)
• United States
14 Jan 09
Oh my gosh I so know what you mean. I get so fustrated when my friends and family tell me that then when I go to them for help there like I can't help you. I ask them well then why did you tell me you would if I needed it they say well its a nice thing to say. That really ticked me off. I know when I say it I mean it all the time. Ive helped out so many of my frends and family beacuse they were in need and it made me feel so good about myself.
@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Sounds like you and I have had similar experiences.
I spent a month in the hospital during my pregnancy. We had no money as my hubby had lost his job. I could not get the tv in my room cause of this.
My sil knew this and yet kept saying if you need anything ....... well duh I could use some money for the tv!!!!
@techgurl (451)
• Greece
14 Jan 09
There have been probably couple of times that I have said that without really meaning it, just out of courtesy. It is more ofen that I regret saying it since few people have abused it. But if there is something that I can do to help, why wouldn't I, especially if it is for a person that I care about.
@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I am sure that most people have said it at least once and not meant it. As you say out of courtesy.
I fully understand about people abusing it.
Just seems like all people have something they can do to help a person. Sometimes all they can do is listen and they don't even give that.
This is the reason the country is a financial mess .... no one wants to give anymore. Everyone wants to get more and more and not think of anything else. Such a shame .... ok climbing down off the soap box!
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
14 Jan 09
I am already a member of mypoints. I do mean it when I say it, and I never promise more then I can do, but I do what I say I am going to do. I think some people mean what they say and some people do not. I am sorry more of them arent helping you with this. Blessings and happy Postings!@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Honestly I am not too upset about people not helping me. Have grown used to it over the years. Just was curious. I am like you; I mean what I say.
There is an expression I am trying to get my daughter to remember .... Say what you mean and mean what you say!!
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
14 Jan 09
I am guilty of occasionally making promises that I just don't want to go through with. It's not that I can't help, it's just that I might not really know the person. When you do things for people you don't really know, sometimes it makes them want to use you. Not all, but it's happened. How many people only seem to talk to me when I do something for them? I never feel comfortable having other people do me favors, and I guess I've just missed out a little bit then, but it's better that everyone kind of takes care of his or herself for the most part.
@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Why would you make promises you don't intend to keep? Wouldn't it be better to just say you are not comfortable helping or even you don't want to help; than to be seen as someone who is not true to his word?
I certainly understand about being used. It has happened to me when I have tried to help people. Still I do try to help those I can.
MyPoints and myLot help my friend earn some money she really needs. I referred her so I helped her that way cause I can't afford to help otherwise. It in turn makes her happy cause it gives her a way to help me; which she couldn't do otherwise.
We aren't meant to take care of ourselves we are made to take care of each other. Don't know if you believe in Adam and Eve but Eve was created as Adam's helper and mate.
