I really did something dumb
@rcrlforever2867 (29)
United States
January 15, 2009 2:29pm CST
On New Year's Eve did someting that I am really sorry for. I can't get my girlfriend to forgive for. I came home that really messed up in the head and took it out on her and I didn't mean too. I am trying to do everything I can to make it up to her. I really didn't mean to hurt her, I love her more then I can say. My world would be lost without her.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
15 Jan 09
For some people, there are certain things that they find unforgiavable no matter what. You don't say what it is you did to her, so I can't really give you my opinion on it. All I can tell you is that she may forgive you in time. If you are truly sorry for what you did, your actions will prove it to her.
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@rcrlforever2867 (29)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I don't think she will ever forgive me. I tried to put her 6feet under. If you know what I mean. I don't really want a harm to come to her. I love her too much.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
Well, I ammend my response. In your response to a Lynn you said "I tried to put her 6ft under". If that is true, I hope she doesn't forgive you at least not until you get control over your anger and rage so that it will never happen again. Perhaps it is best that she does not forgive you too easily. Whatever the specifics and the situation you're referring to, hitting another person in anger is always wrong!
I suggest you take a look at yourself and try to get control of your anger before you even attempt to become part of another relationship, with this girl or any other future relationship you may have.
That's just my 2ยข worth. There is no excuse for hitting another person!
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@rcrlforever2867 (29)
• United States
15 Jan 09
yes I know I was wrong. I have been with her for 14 years with her and I just can't let her go. I will do anything she wants me to do to make thing better between us.
@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Most women don't respond well to being physically harmed because at the time, you did mean to do it. And if it happens, even just once, the chances of it happening again are great. You have shown her that you have no control over yourself when you have had two much to drink and you hurt her and put her life in danger. I suggest you stop being selfish and expecting her to just forgive you. Stop thinking about how miserable you are without her and start thinking about why you don't deserve her forgiveness. Abuse is never ok, no matter what. I would suggest you leave her alone, seek some therapy, and avoid relationships until you are no longer a danger to others in a time of rage.
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@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
16 Jan 09
But it isn't fair for you to apologise to her and expect her to move on from physical abuse. I would offer to attend counseling first and do that before resuming a relationship. That is no way to have to live. It is not fair to her. You need to stop thinking about how miserable you are without her and start thinking about what you can do to make her life better, even if that means leaving her alone. You have to put her first and think about the physical and emotional trauma you inflicted on her. You need time to figure out your priorities and mature enough to put someone before yourself before you can truely make someone else happy and keep them safe. Think about weather or not you would want some other person in her life that had abused her and hurt her and then put yourself into that thought. What will you do to keep her safe from you?
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@rcrlforever2867 (29)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Yes I was wrong for doing physically harming her. I want to make our relationship better. I have been with her for 14years and I can't live without her. I know I got to cut out some of the things I have been doing.
@cursedsoul (925)
• India
23 Jan 09
How are things now rcrlforever2867? Did you apologize to her? What did she say?
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@rcrlforever2867 (29)
• United States
2 Feb 09
yes. she came back home and we are working things out.
@patms1 (521)
• United States
16 Jan 09
You don't say if it was physical or verbal If it was physical I hope she runs not walks a far away from you as possible. If it was verbal I hope you and her understand that its going to happen again. If I were her I would ask myself why you did it. My husband would come home and be as nasty as he could and I never knew why until I found out that some one has said something nasty to him and he did not have the nerve to answer them so he brought home to me. When I told him the next time it happened he would be talking to a lawyer. He still has his moments but I just laugh at him.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Jan 09
Listen, it happens that we do something stupid that we later regret. I've said several things to my fiance that I've later regretted. Sometimes it's not always easy to forgive. But keep showing her that you love her and telling her how you love her, and hopefully, with time, she will forgive you and you'll be able to work things out together. That's really the only advice that I can give you.
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@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Just let her know how bad you are feeling and that you are sorry for what you did. Most of the time we just want to hear sorry. I know I do. If not try and do something special for her to let her know you really mean it.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Apologize to her again, tell her how you feel about coming home that night and not with a clear mind. Give her a present. I hope that this helps!
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