What should i do?
By Harjotdoad
@Harjotdoad (212)
India
January 19, 2009 3:50am CST
Nowdays i am very stressed .. A lot. I feel as i am a total looser. I am not having any hope. What ever i do goes against me. I am a very poor performer. In class, i am at the last. In sports , i love soccer, and even there i couldn't perform. I like a girl but she doesn like me. My family life is not great. I think , there is no introvert like me. I cant make new friends. I even fight with older friends. I dont trust anyone. Recently i got detained in class due to short of attendance. There is on hope for me. I think there is no hope for a looser. I am very poor in studies. Should i take some drastic step? What can i do... Nothing.
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11 responses
@kedves (728)
•
19 Jan 09
Hey a few things .. firstly God would not give you anything he does not think you can't handle .. and secondly there are people around this world MUCH worse off than you .. so can I suggest you stop feeling sorry for yourself and get on with your life as you have a lot positive things .. good luck.
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@Harjotdoad (212)
• India
19 Jan 09
Hmm. Positive things. I dont know how i pass day in my life. I feel people around me are gifted. I dont know what i have got. I know only one i got that good nature. I am very humble. But there is nothing much i can do with that. I cant get accademic success with that.
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@justicescomrade (29)
• United States
1 Feb 09
well put, i have been told time and time again, there are so many more people that have it much worse than you. many people have the same condition as you, so on so on, i suggest for you to calm down slow down and take each day slowly, dont overthink everything, listen to music. thinking is my problem with depression. i overthink all stuff that comes into my mind and once i think about depression in any way, i just go into a depressed state. so again i say, dont think so much. i hope this helps man, good luck
@joekid (87)
• United States
20 Jan 09
WOW!!! You are really ard on yourself!! You are 22 and your going to be a doctor next year, thats awesome, I mean it really is truly amazing that your so young and your going to be a doctor!!! That is a great accomplishment. You have to be positive because being hard on yourself only makes you feel worse. I am almost 28 and I havent even begun college. Did you ever think of coming to the states??
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@Harjotdoad (212)
• India
20 Jan 09
Yeah., i will be giving USMLE in about 2 years time. USMLE is United States Medical Licensing Examination. After clearing USMLE , i will be doing my residency in states. Yeah i will definitely come to states. I will be around 25.
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@snowy22315 (180479)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Maybe if your life is not working for you you should try doing something else. It is not good to stay in a situation that makes you aware of all of your failings. Are there other classes you can take? another job you can get, like another girl.
There are alot of options out there.
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@newuser_99 (377)
• Nepal
20 Jan 09
I have one single word for you "Yoga". If you can do.
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@chulce (1537)
• United States
19 Jan 09
You have a lot on your plate right now, going to school and trying to keep up with everything isn't easy. I have a lot on my plate and there are times I feel like I can't keep up.
First off, you may want to try and take time out for you. In other words, take a walk in the morning to clear your head or in the afternoon, where ever you might have a little time. Focus on other things that you enjoy, for example a new book that you just started to read, go over what you have read and see if you can figure out what might happen next.
Look into something different. Maybe there is a group that you might be interested in joining at school for example, poetry, maybe you can check out poetry readings and stuff. Sometimes, even a subtle change can help you get the rest of your life in prospective.
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@Harjotdoad (212)
• India
19 Jan 09
I had thoughts that way also. I thought may be i am , an important person. And god has something good for me. Nope. Everything is going from bad to worse. There is absolutely nothing i can do. I cant even present seminars. I dont know why. May be i have social phobia. Oh.. Nothing.
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@cursedsoul (925)
• India
23 Jan 09
Please do NOT take a drastic step. Instead, give more time to yourself. Do all the things you always wanted to do but couldn't. Now is the time..go on a weekend trip, make friends with random strangers, do volunteer work..make the best use of your life. Spend atleast an hour a day on yourself..pamper yourself, eat your favorite food..look into the mirror, listen to music, sing. Love your life. :)
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
22 Jan 09
We all know that every tom, and harry cannot be chosen for a medical college. The fact that you are in one, speaks volumes for your brains and IQ. Dont be discouraged because you cannot cope with a particular subject, or that you are shy. Do you know, the best scientist and discoveries were made by losers, people who kept failing in exams. That just means you are not a book worm and are destined for a greater discovery. Study to the best of your ability. I know you are competiting with the best brains, so you will have to study harder, but believe me its worth it. When you are called Dr. and you cure people and they look up to you, every bit of extra effort you put in will be worth it. Everybody has family problems. Dont let it get you down. Girls will be plenty when you are a doctor. And you will be. Think positive. When you think positive, the universe contrives to make it happen. Good luck and keep smiling.
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
22 Jan 09
When you feel depressed, read my mail again or write to me. Dont let depression get you down ever. You have so much to look forward to, you are young and life has plenty of pleasent surprises for you. Problems will come in life. It just makes us stronger and better p erson. Id like to know when you pass out with flying colours. Good luck pal, and keep smiling
@Harjotdoad (212)
• India
22 Jan 09
hey, thanks for those inspirational words but one thing i must tell you. like after reading here , i will get charged up but then something will happen and i will be back there i was. now this is the major problem. and thanks for some BEAUTIFUL words.hope some thing change my life.
@Margajoe (4728)
• Germany
22 Jan 09
What you should do?
Is start learning to accept yourself the way you are.
You don't need to be the best in everything.
You are not a looser.
I have felt like you as well.
But, it does not help to keep telling yourself your a loser.
Because by doing this your making it worse for yourself.
It is time to start excepting yourself.
You want people to start liking you and being your friends?
Then you need to start liking and respecting yourself too.
Why should anyone else do it , if you don't?
Do you judge others the way you judge yourself?
Or do you make excuses for other peoples behaviors?
Please wake up.
We are all born naked and we all deserve to be happy.
No one is more than the other.
You are worth it to be happy, just the way you are.
Except yourself, so that you will be excepted.
My friend, if you are still feeling this way later, please talk to a doctor or a close relative. Don't hold it all in.
Take care.
@bekosfc (235)
• India
22 Jan 09
A lot many had written many good suggestions and helpnote. Just a couple frommy side my distant friend. 1. Kindly stop listening to your feelings, feelings seldom are reliable. 2. Act upon the now,do what is needed at the moment. 3. Stop worrying over tomorrow.
Dreams are good but we don't allow dreams to enslave our internal world. Rather we act upon them in the now/moment.
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@Harjotdoad (212)
• India
22 Jan 09
Yeah. But somehow life is not on the track where it should be. I dont why. I deserve a lot better than this but you know.. I dont know what life wants from me. Whatever i wanted never happened. In whatever class i went , i feel i am at the bottom. But in i am very funny person. I always talk happily with my friends but this feeling is .. You can say killing me.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
8 Oct 10
Well depression is common in this busy world..though its bitter fact. So dont take it emotional to heart and try to come out of the past. Please dont give up confidence. Do yoga, you will feel a great heal and confidence. God bless you friend! Things will be better soon, dont give up.