Hanging out with friends after 40

no, i don't & i miss that. seems like everyone is so busy w/their own families or whatever. i use to have so much comppany. of course i cooked for them back when. that sort of tells you something, don't u think?

My kids are pretty much my life so I don't hang out much. Lately, I have been seeing a lot more of my best friend but I think it's because we both have kids now and we want them to grow up together. They're close in age. My girls are 2 1/2 years and 6 months. Her boys are 14 months.

hello dfollin my hubby and i have friend's that we like to go hang out with lots. they live out in the country and it is a drive for either of us to get to each other's house. but when we do get to spend time together, we always enjoy each other's company very much so. they have an above ground swimming pool, and my boys love going to their house in the summer-time. i take them as much as i can to their house in the summer to let them enjoy swimming and their summer break from school. take care and have a beautiful afternoon.

My wife and I love to entertain so we have friends and family over from time to time but not as much as we would like. Sometimes we do manage to actually get out with another couple for a movie and dinner. We have learned to truly appreciate those times that you can get out with friends even if it is only for a short while.

Hello dfollin! I am not 40 yet, but honestly, right now, I rarely hang out with my friend. Not because I don't like to hang out with them but because they don't have time to hang out with me..hehehe..But I admit I only have few friends so I know my friends are quiet busy right now.

No. It just seems too hard to get together. What with working all the time, meshing various schedules, coping with kids and life, you just wear out. Friends seem to be the last thing on one's mind after you've exhausted yourself. It's very sad to say. Even when we do get together, it's hard to find anything to say. What's on everybody's mind is work, the economy, the kids, etc. There never seems to be any urge to talk like we used to. About how are you, what are your dreams, what would you like to be doing. When we were all younger, it was the thing to talk about. Now, if you bring up something like that, they look at you like you're a freak. We're over 40, dreams are for children. It's so great getting older. Now we're not even allowed to dream about the future. It's already here, so shut up. I hate that.

We don't hang out with many friends. Most of them separated from us when our son was born with a disability.

It does seem to go in stages I have found. Young and newly married we had a fair bit of time for many things and that included socialising with friends. Then came the babies which meant we didn't have enough time and when we did, we were too tired to go out. As the children got to that "wonderful" stage/age it meant getting a babysitter because if the adults were having fun, the children weren't and would soon get all whingy and tired. In amongst this was meeting the mortgage payments, working to put food on the table, saving for the children's education etc. In a nutshell that meant not a lot of money to spare so our outings were limited to playing sport once a week or having picnics with friends who were in the same situation. Neither of these cost a lot of money which is why we tended to do these things I guess. In our 40's we were still educating our children and also at that age my now ex-wife and I separated which was a whole new ball game for me. I did meet my life partner and we were friends for a couple of years but money was still an issue so socialising was limited. Same in our 50's but by then the children had pretty well grown ip and were starting to lead their own lives. However, we came to realise that we needed our friends in our lives so as none of us had a lot of money, we looked for alternative ways to meet and socialise. For about the past 10 years we have met on a sort of regular basis and often we will have a bar-b-que where everyone contributes something for everyone to enjoy. It does not cost a lot of money either. The other thing we do is have a meal at someone's place and in fact take it in turns to "host" the event. Again everyone brings something to eat but all the hostess and host do is provide the venue and a few nibblies. Those that don't cook are responsible for the washing up and general clearning up after we have finished. So as my partner is the cook most of the time, I have to help the others clean up afterwards and the cooks can relax. I highly recommend either of these 2 ways to socialise as you can see friends, chat about anything at all and not have it cost a fortune. Oh and we ban talk about politics and work at these get togethers as we all have times when both of them annoy us. With our friends who do not live locally we try to see them a couple of times a year and often it is more regularly as several of them like to visit the country and so stay with us for a weekend or whatever.

I have not hit 40 yet. I am getting closer to it yearly though. I am in my late 30's and do not hang out with friends. I do not have the time and cannot trust the people I have tried to be friends with.

I do have a friend that we have a standing dinner time for the 2nd Monday of each month. We have done this for several years, and then didn't do it for about a year, but back on track for the last several months. I've known her for about 25 years and we have always kept in touch. So I do, but not as much as when I was younger.

I don't have a lot of time to meet with my old female friends. I see my best friend from High School once or twice a year, we always try to meet at the mall and go shopping at least once a year, but we email and talk on the phone. It is difficult to plan time to spend together around the kids schedules, we live about 40 minutes from each other, so it is not impossible to see each other just difficult. We play cards every Saturday night with some of our friends. Our kids are here at home and they can bring their kids too, so we all have fun and still get to socialize.

Thankfully I am past that stage and am now into hanging out with freinds again. I do remember the years when the family seemed to consume all of my time, but as we get older, our responsibilities lessen, so we have more personal time.

Its funny you say that. I am 44 yrs old. I had my children early on. My youngest is 18. I am beginning to do the things that I was unable to do while raising them. I actually have a life other than my children. I enjoy it. I have many friends and enjoy each one of them emmensely. We do lots of things to gether like bowling movies theatre bars sporting events reading and the list goes on. Im extrenmely happy with my new life. So yes Im just beginning to hang out with old friends.

Yesss!!!of course friends is everything hehehe But i wont force them to hangout, If we busy with our kids, than take our kids too..Like picnic together, I know it doesnt sound "hangout".. But it's worth to try..The important thibg is keep good communication...

We do still hang out with a friend from high school and that was over 40 years ago.. She is getting older than we are, we don't admit to getting older, and sometimes she drives us up the wall with her ways but we are still friends and probably will be until the end, I hope so at least..