How do you do it?

I think there are various factors involved. How many interests do you have? Do you read other discussions in lots of different interest areas? Also, you have to do a lot of reading and responding to other people's posts to draw attention to yourself and your own discussions. It sounds like you do this :) I always add new friends because you never know when you will lose one from someone quitting the site or they are busy and do not have time for mylot.com Just keep doing what you are doing and try to expand a bit each day and you will see the difference!

Me, It does help to have lots of friends. But not all of your friends are going to post discussions but several at a time will. I spend most of my time responding to everyone elses posts. Then once in a while I will post a discussion. I try to post something of interest to most people. I don't get 10 pages but the last one I had 85 to 87 responses. So it takes a long time to respond back to each person who responded to me. So be careful what you wish for. Since I do have a lot of friends, I don't respond to every post of one person. I try to answer at least one of each person but that is not always possible. So it's really up to you. Good luck. leenie

I wish you get more and more responses to your discussion, in the near future. Receiving large number of responses depends upon many factors. One of them, which I find important is - if your discussion is included in the 'Mylot digest', then it gets large number of responses. Because many members have subscribed to it and it is believed that 'interesting' and 'quality' discussions get included in mylot digest. And many members just respond to those discussions first which are in mylot digest, when they are for look out for some interesting discussions. I do the same. Besides, it depends upon your relations and interaction with your friends, here on mylot. If you respond to your friends' discussions, hopefully they will also support you in your discussions. I assume that at least 40-50% of the total number should support you, at a given point of time. More friends on the list is no guarantee of getting large number of responses, what is required is 'active friends'. If even half of the friends in your lists are active, you may get large number of responses. Also, as you grow older here on mylot, many members come to know about your discussions, even if they are not your friends, and will respond to you. Lastly, it also depends, how much do you respond to your friends' discussions, if you continue to respond to their discussions and if they have some sence of gratitude towards you and they believe in 'friendship' and give and take policy, they will surely respond to you. I on my part try to respond to your discussions, but sometimes, I may also miss due to paucity of time. Best of Luck and my best wishes.

Oh I have trouble getting alot of responses too, I think the most I've gotten is about 25, most of the time I can't even get ten..lol. So mostly I just respond, and If I think of something that may be interesting I'll start a discussion.

I try not to take these issues too serious, I write my discussions not really thinking how many people will answer. I try not to worry with the color of my star. I just try to answer to my friends when I think my opinion will help and try to learn a bit by people here and have fun in mylot. And that´s it!

I have been wondering the same thing now you have obviously used this site more then me so I cannot complain yet I guess. However I have been looking and reading and posting on other peoples discussions. I have been looking at the ones with lots of responses to see if a certain subject gets more responses and thier seems to be no method. I am kinda starting to think it's all luck, how many people end up stumbling across your discussion and then how many are interested in that topic. I have seem topics that are almost exactly the same one with 1 or 2 responses the other with pages it is strange. I guess the best thing to do is keep building our friends list, and keep posting discussions that we think would be interesting or just that will catch people attentions. But I agree with you it would be nice to get a discussion with lots of repsonses.

You never really know when a discussion will get responses. There are discussions that I have posted that I thought were going to get the attention of many and in the end only received a few responses. You never can tell.

hi there messageme. What a cute avatar you have! woah! If you already have a close friend, at mylot, you will very relax to say something in your friends discusssions.I got trouble too when i respond discussions about politics and religion. I am not 100% perfect , you know ... happy posting always , oxox'dian from bali island.

i want to know as well because i have wondered about this since i been here some people post some weird question and get a page of responds.with all the friends we have if all respond you will get a decent amount but most of the time your friends don,t even respond you have a limited few who responds to your discussion fron your friends list if they respond at all.i have friends on my list have never respond to my discussion and i know who they are.i get more responds from people not on my list then my friends thats on my list.iam not asking for them to respond to all my discussion but gagone you can at least respond to something.so i feel how you feel.i give up trying to get my friends to respond so i respond to whoever these days.

The longest discussion i started and which got responses was around four pages.i guess some topics are really really interesting and has catchy titles,thus grabbing a lot of attention.I also considere the discussion writers participation a factor.If the writer of that discusssion response to the responses he/she gets in his/er discussion,most likely,it will get another response,thus creating a conversation,making the discussion long and hot.But the first key for a succesful discussion is the title.Mext is the content,a great title is worthless if its content is not sensible. Hope i was able to help.Have a nice day.

you just do it by starting this topic! hahaha.. even tough it is still didn't reach 10 pages.. but better than mine :P i hardly can get any responses :(