fights in relationships

all i can say is good luck relationships never work out the way u want them to. Relationships are based on trust honesty faithfulness and i havent seen a relationship yet that has all of the above. I have learned that having a relationship is for the weak ur better off hiding and lock ur heart away they will always hurt u no matter how much they say they love u. Believe me run dont trust anybody

Fights are very normal in any relationships,it's one fact we have to face a part of life. When me and my husband fights or lets say just have little arguments I tent to isolate myself, want to be left alone and don't want to talk on anything; I want some quiet moments when I can cool down. We are the total opposite because he wants to talk about the issue immediately and try to resolve it as much as we can and he gets cool down very quickly like a heartbeat while it takes quite a long time for me to do so; it even takes me a day or two to be really cooling down. However, I learned a lot from my husband's approach in solving conflicts and I appreciate it very much although I admit its quite hard for me to do so. He wants to talk about the issue and try to solve it by accessing what happened and how can we possibly solve or at least lessened the odds; he also asks my suggestions as well. While I harbor grudges and anger he cools down quickly and let go of negative things. I wish I can do that but honestly am still trying to.

I guess youjust need some time off with each other to remove those steam off your hats. I really do not encourage confrontation but a good and peaceful talk would work in cases there is a conflict between you and him. This cannot be avoided but what can be avoided is hurting each other with harsh words. So talk as much as you can to air your concerns but never get too emotional in it in the process that you lose each others temper. Moderation is needed when you wanted something from the relationship.

One must adjust to one another. You have to know each other more. if you know each other well you'll come to understand him in every little ways that will avoid arguments. If his opinion on little issues against yours then avoid insisting yours at the same time. Listen to him first then later in a nicer way say yours. Don't insist contradicting him to avoid arguments. In another time where you think he has a cooler head you can lay down your opinion or decision on things. In case you argue, don't take it as a quarrel, talk to him as if nothing happened. By this you'll both forget the little argument you did. The communication goes on. You love him and all you want is to stay happy together, learn how to understand and adjust to each other. Listen to him and he will listen to you. Talk to him and he will talk to you. Hope you'll have a smooth and better relationship as days go by, by then you can stay happy together...

The easiest way for you to avoid fights in realtionships is to be the bigger man and let your partner win your heated argument or whatever. You have to think about if your point that you're trying to prove is worth more then making your partner angry about. I don't the best way to avoid fights is to just agree or to just keep your mouth shut.

Assuming you both DO love each other and that the thinks you fight about aren't relationship threatening (cheating, for example) then fighting is really a healthy part of a relationship (so long as it is not in excess). When two people are around each other a lot, sometimes they can just rub each other the wrong way. When my girlfriend and I get like this, we usually just take some space from each other. Everyone needs alone time, no matter how much the couple loves each other. It's pretty understandable too. I suppose the best way to help with arguing is just trying to be nice, take some alone time occasionally, and learn how to openly communicate your feelings with each other. However cliche it is to say, communication is a key to relationships.

We usually talk it out. I can't stand not talking and letting the day end without us patching things up. But there are fights that can't truly be patched up for the day, but the next day, he's open enough to talk to me about it and we resolve things with a kiss. I know everyone wouldn't like to fight with our loved ones, if it's avoidable we'd do it, but there are just moments when our head is too hot and we can't control our tongues, that's why there are conflicts. But taking time to cool things down is needed. But I think the best solution for this one is to try to assess what we want to say first. Remember that regardless how 'sorry' you are, you can never take away the hurtful words you said to the person. So, it would be best if we watch out what we say.

i guess what you need to do is to talk to him first.. don't just start yelling.. just talk to him about what you're not happy about.. and talk about it... then there will not be fights.. :) Sure it's going to be hard... but do it slowly.. and it will be fine.. :) Good luck with this..

Hello There. How are you? I suggest that you tell him how you will about the fighting and arguments. Maybe he feels the same way too but both of you are not willing to listen to each other. REmember small things or small fights end up big time that can cause break up or so... It happened to me, we always fight over small things and then I started to keep it to myself until one day it all just burst out like a bomb... Luckily, we were able to save the relationship and we mature. SO, my advice to you too is be open to your partner. And learn how to give and take especially trust each other. It is hard but if you love the person you have to give him your best and trust him completely. That will narrow the fight... hope so.. Thanks for the discussion.I hope you will sort things out with him. Goodluck and Stay happy. Have a great day! Happy Mylotting!

My fiance and I too have arguments. It's normal in a relationship, though neither myself or mt fiance enjoy fighting. We don't want to argue, but we know that it's inevitable. After a fight, what we normally do is we go into different rooms and cool off. Sometimes, my fiance will go for a walk, I might watch a movie, or something. But the key thing is that we're apart, we're in different rooms. once we've cooled down, one of us will go to the other, we'll apologize, and talk about it calmly, basically like adults. That's how our arguments go really. And like you,henahuda, our arguments really are about small issues. Issues, like our wedding, how many kids we want, having a dog, what type of house we want, all those issues we never fight about. We fight over nothing, which somewhat sad to say.

I wana say i have a good temper,nobody around me can argue with me for anything,not mention to small issues,which is what i am proud of.if there should be really someone i can't tolerate,i would leave him/her alone?that's all.sorry for sharing nothing.because i have no such experience

I have fights with my boyfriend we are working on getting along better. Lately we have been fighting a lot. The weekend was really bad. I say you must work thru things and find what works for both parties involved. So stay away from each other but I feel that does not work for everyone. If you need help I would contact a consuler in your area and see what you can do to improve your realtionship. I hope this helps you in some way. Good luck with the discussion and happy mylotting to you, henahuda,

You and your bf have to prove your love and care for each other not just when everything is plain sailing, but more importantly when things get hot and stormy. By actually resolving your arguments together you'll be making your relationship better! Try not to snap on each other on simple things, if you talk things calmly and quitely you'll be more likely to listen and understand each other. Make it a point that both you & bf have time to discuss how you see things from you own view and that this may not necessarliy match your's bf's views. If you happen to get in a rowdy fight just end it immediately as it won't get you anywhere. Then when both of you are in a more calm state you can dicuss it more freely. My point is not to try to avoid arguements as this will only get things worse, but if you both work towards an agreement you will grow a stronger and more loving relationship!

In every relationship humility and communication is needed. It is very common to have fights and arguments over small or big things because of the individual differences.However, if you learn to accept your mistakes and as well as accept that your partner is not perfect you'll do better. Just keep an open communication line and hope that soon you'll work things out to lessen your fights and arguments :).

I totally understand your feelings.As a girl,maybe we want to get more care from the boyfriend.Maybe you hope he will apologize to you.But there is no right or wrong lots of things in my life,just as you say,only some small issues.So maybe you should stop waiting and take the first step,Call him and tell him your feeling.If it doesn't work,you can try to see him,you know,face to face is different from thinking and judging each other alone. Good lucy!

Sometimes you just have to overlook the little issues. If he forgets to put the toilet seat down, you can just overlook that instead of starting an argument. Someone once told me something and it stuck with me for all these years. They said "What's more important, the person, or the battle?" You have to decide if your relationship is more important than this little issue you're arguing over. If it is, then just move on and forgive him, or apologize if you're the one who's done wrong.

Hello henahuda! I guess when you have an arguments over something, someone must give way and respect each other. In our case, I used to initiate the arguments because I want to test my husband's love for me, and all he did was try to change the topic and not to talk about it.

well i think that if there is no fight in relationship then that is not a healthy relationship because in truthness only the fight goes on but don't make so big fights that will not help you out to be again with each other and if you had such small fights then your relationship will strong more and more