Reward and consequence to your children

To me one of the hardest lessons as a parent is to learn to let your child take responsbility for their own actions. We do no favors when we protect them from this. The most you can do is stand behind them and hold them up if necessary when things get tough.

no, i never did this thing to any of my children. whenever any of my kids would find some difficulty at school, i will coach them and tutor them on the subject where they are not doing good. as for the time when they get to the honor's list, i encourage them to keep on with the good work. give them assurance that i am just around to help. as for their wrongdoings, they get punished, alright. however, i always make it a point to iron out things with them so they will stop the wrong thing that has caused the punishment to be carried out. for me, it is more a matter of open communication lines in order to bring up the child to walk the right path.

The children are rewarded for good grades the better the grade the more they get. If a "C" or below they get nothing. If it's a D or F they are in trouble. They have punishment of no games or tv and must do more homework given to them by me. Even if they have homewrok they will also have some from me. With this system the children do very well they are all either on the principles list(all A's) or on honor roll (A's and B's). They hardly ever have more than 1 or 2 b's and the rest are all A's on each report card. It gives them a reason for making good grades. If you tell them they will have a better job when older or get into a better college or have scholarships when they go to college means nothing to them while they are in elementary or middle school. At these young ages they need and ascentive that they can understand and use as they grow to their advantage. When they are older and in high school they are old enough to know what they must get and why.

yes i do. i punish, i reward. so far there is no disadvantage. i am a single parent and i really cant buy everything my children desires. so i buy them things they love to have as a reward. the child who does not get any reward does not feel jealous (i hope) so that child make sure next time he/she dtrives to do her best. i dont allow them to play games during weekdays so i dont really make not playing as a punishment. my punishment is for example the grades are low, they can not attend school's field trip. or if a daugther of mine has low grades i cut their hair short.

I don't give my kids consequences for low grades if i know that they are trying their best. I give them words of encouragement so they will strive to do their best every time. As for rewards, I don't reward for doing good in school either. Agian, My kids know that they are expected to do their best. Ones best may be getting all A's while the others is getting all C's. As far as behaviors go, I do reward and punish. If my child is extremely rude or does something that is not acceptable, then the punishment comes in. It may be not hanging out with friends for the weekend ( I have teenagers.) If they do something out of the ordinary that is extra special, I will always acknowledge it with words of praise.

I believe that rewarding a child for doing well in school is a good idea, it can help the child strive to get better grades. I believe that if a child does not do well in school, it is a very good idea to take away their tv or gaming privilages. I believe that there are a lot of advantages to be had if your child is properly disciplined.

I would like to say I do have a rewarda nd conquence for everything when it comes to my kids. But I don't. When my kids get good grades I praise them and telle veryoen hwo proud I am. I post their grades on the fridge. But low grades mean we have to have a talk. Plus more studying time is required.

As a parent the first thing i would do would be to find out why my child was achieving low grades. They could be many reasons such as bullying or maybe they are struggling with the work and am unable to cope. I would try to help them with the work and also talk to their teacher to see if we could come up with a plan to help them. If they were not doing the work because they were just being lazy or were mucking around in class. Then i would sit them down and tell them that they need to study more and take some of their privileges away. I am very lucky as my children have always achieved high grades at school so, so far i have not had this problem. I always praise them when they do well and tell them how proud i am of them.

As far as grades, yes we reward. For A's on report cards they get a cpl dollars each. Unless they have a bad grade. 1 bad grade cancels out an A. This incentive encourages them to work hard in all the classes rather than just the ones they like. For other things we do the usual...groundings from going to friends' houses or events, no TV or games, etc. It would be nice if just rewarding good actions was all the incentive needed, but in reality they have to learn to face consequences of bad actions too, therefore punishments are necessary.

If they do something they shouldnt then yes they get punished but importantly they get told why what they did was wrong so they know that im not just being mean but doing it for a reason. If they are really good yes they get a little treat now and again but generally reward comes in the way of praise and just letting them know that what they have done is really good and how proud i am of them

i have my own reward/punishment for the kids. both kids have brought home bad grades, for an "f" they are on restriction till the next report comes out. they aren't allowed to go out to play, they stay inside and study. if they don't bring home homework, i make homework up. they have brought home multiple "f"s and i've taken away game systems, the t.v. and radio. when they brought home "d"s they had extra studying time, but still had some free time. this has helped them keep their grades up. as for being a good citizen, when they have broken the house rules, they go on restriction, no outside play, game system play, no t.v., no radio, extra chores...they've learned, if you do the crime, you going to pay the time. it has never been just for a day, it's always done in weeks. this helps keep them in line. when they do good, they get extra time on the computer, or friends coming over for weekends or they get to go to friend's house for weekend.

Should you not encourage them whatever their grades are? Although you can push them to do better.. does it not depend on their learning capabilities as to their end grades anyway? A child will have strengths and weaknesses in any school subject so it's hard to punish on grades unless they..say.. didn't do their homework or didn't revise. I think it's with homework and revision and chores where you say if you do this first then you can do insert activity or freetime

That is a really good idea. Children will realize that its them who are responsible for their gifts and pocket money.

I absolutely agree with that form of parenting. I think it's important for a child to not only be disciplined but to also have some form of positive reinforcement for doing the right thing. It's not necessary all the time, but I feel like it balances out the two so the children aren't only hearing negative attention from the parents! I practice it with my daughter. If she is trying to get into the cabinet, I tell her no no and then ask her to help Mommy close it when I'm done. That's just one example of how I use positive reinforcement. It gets her out of the cabinet and she feels like a big girl for helping Mommy do something!

no I did not, getting on the honour list is not something every child can do, and when I was in school and young I was not on the honour list either. I wanted my son to do the best that he could do in school that is all I asked of him.

I always do reward and punishment to my kids, this is how things are done in the family. If they do something nice and positive just like getting high scores in exams, we (I and my hubby) treat them to dine out or else a new toy or gadget. But if it's the other way around, it's either they will be grounded or a privilege is temporarily suspended for their availment. I believe this works.

Yes,I have applied that concept to my children too when they were still young.Igive them reward when they do good in school.It paid off because all of them did quite well in school.I have treated them out too.Bought new clothes and toys they wanted.But the hardest punishment I gave was with my youngest daughter when she turned 18 I did not gave her a debut party because I paid six thousand pesos for a nonsense telephone calls she made with her classmates.But tried to make it up when she was 21.Rewarding them while they were young was part of their childhood.I was also very happy for them they have simple wants and dreams.Now they are all successful in life.

We try to with his son (my future stepson) but he usually acts out at our house. Everytime we plan on doing something special for him "if" he's good that week in school, he ends up going to the principals office. This happens even if he doesn't know that we are planning anything. The good thing is that we started counseling with him last week, so hopefully things will get better soon. I hope.

Well I sometimes do it with my toddler, I reward her when doing something good. She was potty trained like that, since evertime she used the potty I used to draw her a star, praise her and clapp to her and giver some sweets, she learned quickly. She is still young but she know that if she is naughty she will get punished, which is no sweets or no playing, children need some certain displine.

you dont need to reward your kid with toys and that sort of stuff, go and do an activity together (swimming,...). maybe you could go do something he like. but if you give him/her to much toys, he'll get spoiled and you'll have to give him/her a toy every time he does something good. on the otherside, when he/she was bad, you could give them punishments like disallowing him/her to watch tv. but you dont have to shout at him. you need to have a proper conversation. you need to solve all kinds of problems by talking.