Going back to work?

I hate working, so I will never go back...I will stay at home, watch telivision and enjoy my life! How do I get money? You don't wanna know, baby! You don't wanna know!

I completely empathize with you. I could only get a 6 week maternity leave and that wasn't completely a paid leave. The day I had to go back to work I cried when I left my son - and my parents watch him! I totally knew he was going to be taken care of wonderfully and with so much love but I still cried because I was going to be away from him. He's now 7 months old and I miss him terribly each day. I don't cry anymore every time I leave him but I also wish I could make money from home so that I could be with him all the time.

I cried like a baby when I had to leave all of my children for the first time. I had my youngest when I was only 17 and still in high school. So I had to return to school six weeks later. I was so worried about someone else keeping my baby. But I was fortunate enough that our school had a daycare for the teachers and they allowed me to take the baby there and go see him during the day and hep the teacher during lunch, etc. Good luck. I hope you can find something to do from home and hope your husband can make enough so you can be home with your little boy.

A year before I got married, I decided to resign from work. So I can spend more time to my very own family. True enough I became a first hand mom for more than six years now. It is so fulfilling. But I never quitted in thnking that I will go back to work. Considering the prices and expenses nowadays. But I am considering to put up a business. So I can still spend more time to my children.

I'm feeling this right now. I just got hired yesterday and going back to work in the next few days. I'm worried that my daughter will need to adjust too. She's used to see me everyday for the past whole year. I worked abroad for the past 8 years and had to give up my job primarily because of her. When my husband got relocated, I decided to leave my job too. I couldn't afford to leave her with the nanny for more than 8 hours everyday. Then, I tried working for home but I just thought it isn't for me. Though it's a lot more convenient but I still prefer working in a real world where I see my colleagues and the whole picture of the job. So, I decided to go back to the corporate world after a year. I hope it'll work out fine.

I'm a mother of six, the oldest one is 14 and the youngest is one. When my oldest three were babies, I did the in-home childcare thing. But, I soon found out that I don't like being stuck at home all the time, and when you need to go to the doctor or something, it is very hard to get a day off when other people's jobs are depending on you being available. I now work outside of my home, and with as many kids as I have, I need to for my own sanity. I enjoy getting to talk to grown-ups (although some of them are worse than my kids). I need that time to myself to be a better mother to my kids. I do have flexible hours, so I can be at every school function and sporting event that I need to be. But, I still work full-time, and love it. I know it can be hard to find good childcare, I went through six before I found one both me and my children liked. My suggestion is to ask friends who they use, or go to your local church and see if any members offer in home childcare. If you only need a sitter part time, go to your local high school guidance counselors office, and ask her for the name of a reliable teenager.

I'm sorry you feel guilty for leaving your children to go to work. Many women struggle with this issue. But I think often we worry about it more than we need to. Granted, I don't have kids so this is just my opinion and not based on actual facts that I have experienced but I feel that kids often benefit from daycare and a little mommy free time. This allows them to grow and develop a life apart from you, which is necessary if they want to become fully functional people and in my opinion it's never too early to start. My worker's little boy loves it when mommy comes to work even if he can't come because he gets to stay with the babysitter and then when mommy comes back or he comes over here to visit, which he does often I love it, he can tell mommy and lady, which is what he calls me my name is too difficult for him to pronounce he's only 3, what he did on his day apart from them. This makes him feel important.

I did go back to work and then I ended up quitting and staying home. We still needed the income, so I had to figure something out. I decided to open an in home daycare. It worked wonderful for my situation. I was here to raise my own children and then they had playmates to play with all the while I was earning a nice income. It has been 4 yrs since my last child went to school and I continue with the daycare. It allows me to be here when my daughter gets home from school.

it was really hard;the first time i went to work after a month of maternity leave. i cant seem to find the strength to leave the house...knowing my child will look for me..the bond between a mother and her child is really intense...at work i couldnt concentrate and i struggle to go through the agonizing hours at work..lol. at lunch break i go home to feed him and just to see and hold him for a while for me to have the strength to endure the remaining 4 hours of being away from him... my son keeps on looking for me too...and it took a while for me to adjust...

I know exactly how you fell, Xtine. I just got back to work after my baby was 6 months old last September. I missed her so much that I phoned home every day and beg my mom to tell me everything about the baby. I didn't want to miss out things in her growth either but then I have to work and help support the family. Now I'm allowed to finish my lessons before Thursday and after that I can commute back home and be with my baby--I work in another city 2 hours' drive from home. I think the time I do spend with my baby is very precious and I would take every chance to make both of us happy. We would go out and play. We read and sing and laugh. Whenver I'm back from work, my baby is so exciting and happy. I think I have managed to work with my mom's coming to take care of her and I have been a happy mom when I'm with her. It's a happy compromise, anyway. I do hope you find your ideal job and still have much time to stay and take care with your son. You'll make a great mom for him.

It must be really hard to be apart from your child after you've spent so long being together after carrying the baby for nine months. I know it might be hard, but if you think about it, the more you work, the better life you can afford for your child, so your child will thank you in the future for doing what you're doing! I am sure your child won't mind being looked after by either another family member or a babysitter. It could be a great experience for your child to get to meet other people, and will help him develop his personal and interactional skills.

hello xtine i wish you all of the luck in the world at finding a part-time job. i work from 8:30 a.m. till 2:30 p.m. and i am home in time to get my youngest son off of the school bus. i love working. it helps out with expenses around the house that we might have. and extra money is always nice to have when one needs it. in the mean time, post, post post here at Mylot to earn you some extra money. it might not be much in a day's time that you can earn around here, but it adds up at the end of the month. take care and have a beautiful day today!

Indeed,go back to work comparing a waste of time and a waste of energy,but also no way to take care of their familiers,this really is quite contradictory,but it does not work,family pressure is relatively large,i would like you to find a relatively easy task,such as said finishing the house for other people,or to take care of children,this can also take your child.

i like working,it makes me feel so good,and give me so much.

When I went back to work after my first child was born my younger sister came to my house to take care of him and I hated it so much when he reached a developmental milestone and he did it for her first! Years later, when she had her first child, I told her that she had to send him to me so I would be the first one to feel that first tooth, or to hear that first word or see him take his first step. In all seriousness, you get used to it if you have to go to work and leave your child in the care of someone else. I have always made sure my kids had quality care and also made sure I enjoyed the time we had together in the evenings.