how do you define a open-relationship
By lovesummer
@lovesummer (1162)
Malaysia
January 21, 2009 7:07pm CST
my theory is like this,here being "open" is more than love,it is just one shouldnt stick to one person before he/she is settle down, cause nobody wanna miss the chance of meeting someone better than someone now she/he is having or just someone who is as great hahaha,,, that she/he might regret for the rest of her/his life for just dated one or a few person for their whole life and get married to the person. that might keep them wondering.. Though, i think it must be clear that till what level can you take the other person in this matter, til which level it is considered as cheating and what can you do and not. and both partner must know what is happening,as being honest to each other. Plus, sometimes it is good to have more friends, close relationship is good too but people sometimes dont know how to spices up their relationship and take things for granted so why not get a bit of fun,depends on your level or tolerance for what can you take and do . hehe
lastly, i think it is a real higher level or taking a relationship, both partners must truely love each other and trust here in other to make it happen.just my points, hehe,
how would you think?
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7 responses
@tooincome (345)
• United States
22 Jan 09
from experience and from observing others, and open-relationship is a relationship where you see multiple people. i don't think this type of relationship is higher than a "normal" relationship because you're supposed to be committing yourself to 1 person. going out with other people and possibly sleeping with other people is cheating, which is why people go into open relationships. hence the term "no strings attached".
if a couple truely loves each other and trust each other, then there is no need for an open relationship. it's like saying "i really love you, trust you, and want to spend the rest of my life with you. but because we're in an open relationship, i have the 'right' to go on a date and sleep with someone else. don't worry you can do that too if you wish."
so i'm against open relationships. id rather have 1 night stand which brings up a total new complicated issue lol
@reciporkate (37)
• United States
22 Jan 09
An open relationship is whatever you define it as. It is important to go over guidelines with the other person so no one's feelings get hurt.
In my experience its just like dating. When you are just dating someone you are free to date as many people as you want, and until a more serious relationship is defined, your free!!
@roberten (3128)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Well, to me an open relationship is a non-committed relationship, i.e. no relationship at all. Open is like a greenlight to be unfaithful. No matter how you spin it, it opens doors so people can walk out or into a relationship without a sense of permanancy-kinda like having one's cake and eatting it too, so to speak.
I'm sure it works very well for the non-committal and rolling stones of the world. Whatever floats your boat I suppose. 
@morticia1 (42)
• Australia
22 Jan 09
I always thought 'an open relationship' meant you could go around and see anyone or sleep with anyone.To me this is not a relationship at all,to me a relationship is when two people are with each other and only each other.And I can not see how an open relationship could possibly work,and I personally would not call this relationship love and certainly not more than love!
@soundfreak22nd (475)
• Malaysia
22 Jan 09
i think for me an open relationship for me is you are commited to a person but the both of you can actually date someone else.
@miasorada (22)
• United States
22 Jan 09
great question. An open relationship is when all parties of the relationship are in open communication with each other about their desires, aspirations and feelings about commitment, and most importantly everyone voluntarily agrees to the condition of an open relationship. This can be healthy if it's the right situation for everyone in it. It takes maturity and unselfishness, like every relationship. When people get hurt in something like this is when someone isn't upfront about what they're doing and why. I fell in love in 2003 and dated someone. Then I found out he was married in an open relationship with his wife. Now, neither he nor his wife were hurt, but I was because I went in under a different premise. It also requires extra special health attention, because you are dealing with a larger network of partners and are more susceptible to disease.
@dettedeguzman (85)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
My notion of an open-relationship is being able to stay out of the relationship when one of you finds a better one. Sounds risky but others prefer this type of relationship. The loser in the end is the girl. It is the girl's body which is exploited by her partner then what, dumped so easily when a new and better one comes along. I don't like this type of relationship. It favors man.
