What do you think of battered woman who sticks with her partner?

scared, shy to expose themselves to the world " like hey i am battered wife before". I wont call them stupid, there are a lot of heartaches that they cant share. Maybe we can assist them instead of calling them stupid. They cant leave their husband because of love, or because of other issues. But for all of the people out there who know someone who is being beaten by their hubby, talk to them. and this world must accept them.

i am from relationship that is like that. i tried to stay with him and to work things out. we are married and we have four children. after 10 years of sacrifice i packed my bags tagged my kids along with me and left him. i am a signle parent now for seven years and i dont know where he is. we have a better life than the life we had with him. maybe they are trying to work it out that is why they are sticking with their partners, or they have no one to run to. it is not easy to think what is on their minds. but my reason before was i am trying to make it work. got tired of hoping that it will work so i stepped out of it.

What is there to say? I used to think it was terrible, and in some cases it really is. But did you know, that some women want that to happen? There are even men who get battered by there women. It is like a game to them, a SM thing. They act sad, because they Crave the attention. It is hard to explain. I used to try and help these, so called innocent women. I new one women recently, she had a relationship with this guy for about a year. She would get yelled at and pushed around. People were all talking about it, they made no secret of it. I talked and talked, others talked and talked and finally she left him. He was this and that, he was so terrible. I even got into an argument with this guy and he is big!!! I don't like arguments. 2 months later, she is back in love with this terrible guy. No, no more for me, I have no explanation for these kinds of people. It is there life, and I don't want to come in between these kinds of fights. I am the one that feels bad, when two other people have problems. I was the one who could not sleep at night, because I was afraid he was going to beat her. No way, no more. It is her life, she choose it, she can deal with it. Once again, don't get me wrong, there are real situations out there that a person needs help. But beleive me, these that need help will find a way out! Look at Tina Turner, one day the day comes,that enough is enough. Take care.

i never imagine i could be here one day sitting and answering a topic related to yours! it is not an easy situation. lives are at stake. believe me, it takes a lot more than just saying leave your partner! of course no one wants to get hurt. we all want to be respected, to be loved, to be taken cared of. and the very person who promised you all that, is the same person who will do all these hurtful things to you! what a shame!!!! i think the very main reason is the hope that the guy who does the beating will CHANGE. But that is FAR from reality. Once the man hits you, he will do that AGAIN. ANd again. And again. There is no stopping. It is very important that the battered person will stand up, take the courage to leave, NO MATTER WHAT THE REASON IS.

i would say they are stupid and should leave him. but its possibly not as simple as that. they are probably scared adn have very very low self esteem after being treated like that they probably are still trying to seek his approval and hope he will change and start loving her. just theories