Are you angry and annoyed?

An angry and annoyed species. It seems to be. Step out of the house. It's either too cold or too hot or raining. Then someone speedingly along nearly knocks you down. The exhaust emmission of the bus hits you straight in the face and leaves you suffocated. You go to a govt office and it takes you half the day to do a 10 minutes work. You land up at the office late and soemone gives you a lecture on coming late. This goes on and on.. Some mindless terrorist commits atrociteis and takes innocent lives. We get angry and yet have the fear. The security of the people is not taken care of. The politicians are corrupt. We go home at the end of the day having gone through all this and so much more. We tend to take it out sometimes at our loved ones. But at the end of the day a sweet smile and a few sweet words , a good meal, some amount of laughter and at the end of the day a good sleep. And the next day ? ?

Hello friend, an interesting topic and I read all the posts in response to it. Responses and counter responses I find here are quite attractive. And one more thing I notice is that all the stars are either red or blue having either 9 or 10 in them.I did not help myself from jotting down my feelings here. It is true that complexities and competitions of present day life has brought many harmful effects on our lives and we tend to loose our emotional equilibrium quite easily - not much provocation is needed. And the farther we are from our sweet home the more we notice all these things. Coming back to our home near to our loved ones brings a kind of assurance to our mind. However, every feeling we have in our mind comes from within. The same thing is viewed by different persons differently and by the same person differently in different times. The same stories of the great writer 'Sharat Chandra Chattopadhaya' when I read now reveals a whole new dimension that I did not notice earlier. I said this to support my point that feelings are generated inside us. So, if we can manage them (though very difficult to do) and cultivate a habit of looking at the positive side of life, we may enjoy our life irrespective of the external condition. happy lotting

Hi Mimpi! I have learned over the period of time to visit the places and people I am comfortable with to beat this syndrome. I have managed to choose the right shopping places where I am received with a smile and I am sticking to a handful of my friends who are really divine. And I have leaned the art of manipulating the human minds to my advantage by being nice and trying to surprise them a smile and courteousness these people may not have ever seen in their life time. This really works .So I am very confident nowadays and never get annoyed or angry that is bad for my health.

Hi, Iam neither angry nor annoyed. I always try to stay happy in all circumstances. Problems are always going to crop up no matter what and where you live but the key is to keep your mind stable and calm. As iam in highly engineering field i have learned that staying calm is something which you have to learn under all conditions. If you get angry or annoyed, its going to cost you dearly. Doing Yoga has helped me a lot and i would recommened it to everyone else. Cheers, Tutul

Do you mean violence on the streets? Here I think sometimes the streets are safer than people's houses. It depends on the neighborhood. I would move. I have moved quite a few times. But for the past 30 years or so I have only lived in gated communities, sometimes with people who sit at the entrance and check everyone coming in and sometimes in a community with a fence all the way around it and an electronic gate where the guest has to call my cellphone and if I want them to be allowed in I press a code on the phone that opens the gate. So the whole community is like our home and safe, but a few miles down the road maybe I would not walk alone at night.

I took a leave from work today to go to a government agency to work on some papers. I waited in line for more than 1 hour, and finally I was able to the person in charge for, would you believe, 2 minutes! All that waiting for the precious 2 minutes of this gov't guy. After my transaction, I left the building thinking of how these gov't people can do something to improve their service, the long line of people waiting was very annoying, surely there is a better way of servicing us, after all we, the taxpayers, pay their salaries. I just told myself to calm down, and not mind things that are beyond my control. When I went out of the building it was raining so hard and I heard there is a storm coming. I didn't bring my car so I had to brave the strong rain and wind to get to the train station. Then a speeding car splashed street water on half of my body. That did it, I was out of my wits! I went home sulking. What made things better though was the thought that I'll be home early and have more time to spend at myLot - which is what I'm doing right now. Cheers!

i have to deal with annoyance and angry face everyday from one of my classmate. he would complain about his unitmate everyday with very dirty vulgar languages. I have been in the same classes with him since 5 years. once I had enough of him because he somehow shouted at me in the classes because of a small matter. I wasnt in good mood the otherday so i shouted him back and we had a fight in the classes. he even threw at me his pen. It was really ridiculous. and I think he is really really ridiculous himself. when we sit back and think, actually the problem come from these people themselves.

well,if one looks at it that way,even our homes are not safe anymore..there are numerous people entering and leaving our homes and all these people cant be trusted.there are lot of crimes going on around,it is really dificult to trust anybody.but in the midst of all these,one can sustain,if one has faith in GOD and that all things happen for our good.

Well Mimpi ! I feel slightly different about this. The world will be what it is and what cannot be cured must be endured.I faced and am still facing a number of problems after my relocation to Mumbai.I was in a small town earlier, and first of all, there is such lack of integrity in this place and people just take you for a ride everywhere[I mean even the smallest vendor] And I keep saying that this is aplace is so full of aggressive people and even the mosquitoes here are more aggressive than anywhere else[I have always had my share of mosquitobites but only in Mumbai they boldly sit on my nose and enjoy their feast while I am busy cooking].Safety is the next thing-so, Ijust keep my chain at home when I go out and be at peace.[We have one yellow thread with the mangalsutra and one chain with mangalsutra].So, now I have stopped getting bogged down by these and just get on.What is the use feeling unsafe and annoyed?-just trust in God and in our guardian angel and get on .What has to happen will happen and God will be with us to help us be safe..We have to be with this firm conviction to maintain our peace. Otherwise there would be no end to this. Incidentally, this discussion had come on the top of my friends ' discussions , and having missed it I am responding one month late.Better late than never!

Hi mimpi1911! Isn't that sad when we have reached a very sophisticated and progressive time, the more we see people around us getting annoyed, grumpy and unappreciative of what they have and what they still want to have? Inconvenience and discontentment makes most of us annoyed, irritated and angry. I do know someone like that and she can never be content on anything. She will be annoyed, irritated and angry whenever she sees a speck of dirt in her house, if her grown-up children (who by the way are all married) will not do as she ask, if her maid would not be quick on her toes, and so on..She is a vexation to the spirit and being exposed to her almost on a regular basis will make me feel irritated and annoyed and angry too. But how do I deal with such person? I pray that God will touch her heart and mind and I pray that I wouldn't be like her. And of course, while I am waiting for an answer to my prayers, I avoid people like her because negative emotions and hopelessness can be really contagious. take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith210

Hi mimpi, My heart goes with your friend in feeling unsafe and annoyed almost everyday. i have twin daughters and being a mother, I will do everything to keep them safe. Days when I am also emotionally down, I feel the discomfort twice as much. I remembered one thing my father always used to tell me: If it is already a situation, then don't bother thinking of a solution. It's no longer a problem, deal with it. Now that I am a parent, I should also be strong for my kids. They look up to me for courage. One source which gives me courage for turbulent times is from the Bible, written in Isaiah 35:4 which says, "Be strong. Do not be afraid. Look! Your own God will come with vengeance itself....He himself will come and save you people." It comes as a refreshing cool water knowing that if ever we cannot do something beyond the uncontrollables,He is there for us to safeguard us as a loving Father, and a promised made that he will never forsake us.

Hi mim, No, I am not angry or annoyed. I sometimes find myself getting annoyed when I'm on the road and see people do stupid and dangerous things but then I make an intentional effort to change my attitude because it's not worth my emotional outburst. Believe me, I am working very hard on that one. That's the only time I really have to work at it because people are truley ignorant and rude on the roads and highway. You are right though Mim, there is a lot of anger out there and I believe a lot of people are suffering financially and it brings out fear and anger because they have no control over the situation. My husband has been out of work for over a year and a half and we've been through all the emotions over and over again. Now I'm trying to realize if we lose our home and everything in it, that these are all material things and most important to me is my Husband and Son. I thank God that my Son is in California and if need be, we could always go out there and stay with him a while. But most of all, there is always hope. That is the answer for me,holding on to my Faith in God and maintaining Hope. I fear that too many people have given up on Hope. leenie

Yes Mimpi we get always angry or annoyed over one thing or another and we go through these emotions when we do not have control over situations.We feel irritated,disgusted and livid.As we step out of our houses,the endless series of mental agony traumatize us and leave us mentally saturated. The best way to tackle this inevitable problem is to accept it into our respective lives.When we cannot change anything,the best way is to accept it positively and wholeheartedly. Even in our houses,there are people with different frame of mind,different interests and thinking but still we live with them because there is acceptance for them in our minds and we have got used to them.

Hi mimpi, I know exactly what you mean, i used to feel that in the UK, the stress of commuting to work on the train huddled in with a mass of strangers who push and shove, leaving the station to encounter beggars (and I mean strong able bodied young men who do it professionaly) sitting beneath the cash point machines, the constant rush at work, the commute back home, being afraid of kids loitering on the street looking menacing. Annoyance fuels the day. I moved to Greece where the pace of life is relaxed, courtesies still prevail, people help each other out, a simple walk to the shop is slowed down by greeting the many familiar faces, strangers rush to help when you are trying to get the car into the impossibly small space in the town, strangers chat in cafenions, the streets are SAFE, even late at night, there is no yobbish behaviour, teenagers respect their elders. The annoyance has gone - for the most part anyway - and leaving the house is a pleasure rather than an ordeal. Which goes to show the environment is influenced greatly by the attitudes of people outside the home.

Instead of being angry or getting annoyed amidst others .. I would rather prefer to be angry or arrogant with myself - for all the shortcomings,misgivings,lack of fortune and feeling of downtrodden.

my thing is if i get that way, i have to try at least to blow it off the best i can, i often will express myself to the person who's making me this way. and often there been a few who can't except the way we feel. so i had to learn ok i spoke my mind and told them and it's up to them to do with as they want. but often just like oh well, what the hell leave me alone for now

I am actually not annoyed of being out of home. I think every place is safe and thus sometimes I do a few things which should not be done. Specially when it comes to females, they should be more cautious but I am never cautious and always looking forward to adventurus things in life.

Hi mimpi! I get that way sometimes! I hate having to go to the grocery store or places where I know it's going to be crowded and people are going to rude and grumpy. It is hard to stay in a good mood when you know that you are going to get annoyed pretty much the minute you leave the house! It's true! People are always in a big hurry to get wherever they are going and when they get there they are still in a hurry and have bad attitudes! It makes it hard to cope and not very pleasant to want to be anywhere anymore!