I'm having this tendency to shout when I'm angry, any tips to control it?

Sometimes you really just need to walk away for about five minutes until you can calmly talk to people. Shouting does make people not only loose respect for you, but it also makes people fear you. It is something that you have to consciously say, "I am not gonna be that way today" and every day say that. Once you get your anger under control and can control the shouting, people will start to notice and they will respect you more for that. God bless

Shouting whenever you feel angry isn't a solution at all. I know it's easy to understand it when you look at it from aside but difficult to concentrate when you're in the process of angriness. Well, I firstly make myself relax, I try and don't shout because it gets me more than other around. As you said, kids have got used to your load yelling and ignore it, but you still are in the same level, after shout you fill up with bad energy. I would suggest to train yourself to relax, count till 10 if necessary. Anything weird or silly could help actually. Kids bugging.. well, I would think of why they do that. Maybe they need more of your attention. Next time when they bug you while you are working, try to speak with them that everything has its own time. Mum have to spend some time on doing work but after I have finished I will get back to you and we will get things you need and do things together. Usually calm and adult smart talks make kids relax and understand the point.

Maybe the kids are begging for your attention and they would rather hear you hollering then you not paying them attention - I am not saying that you ignore your kids - kids want your attention 100% of the time which is impossible. At least my kids do. But you are right - if you are hollering and they are not paying attention to you - you may need to try a different method. You will have to learn to control your anger - that is a learning disability. Again - I am not being critical of you - everyone has learning disabilities - We just have to learn to overcome them. I had to learned to control my tonality. I talk loud - especially if I am passionate about something. To me, I am just talking - to everyone else I am screaming. So I had to learn how to take it down some octaves. (I still talk loud st time tho - but if someone tells me that I am I make it a point to focous on it) . I came up with a good trick that works for me when my kids are bugging me at the computer - I start quizzing them about what they are having problems with in school - like when my daughter won't chill out - I start asking her he multiplication she has problems with - like 8x7 - you know - the more difficult ones that you pretty much have to memorize. I will print out a good worksheet from the internet and put her to work - by the time she finishes that - she does what ever she can not to have to do that again. But to keep it from being a negative experience - I will reward her if she does a good job - like take her to the store and get her some candy or a slushie -(she is easy to please).

It is good that you have realised this and are trying to do something about it. I used to shout at my children as there is a pressure with being responsible for them constantly - even though they may be at school part of the time you still have the house to keep right. Children wise it is better now that they are at university and have both turned out really well (inspite of the shouting or perhaps because of it - who knows). It is really difficult to remember not to get worked up when the things are there annoying you. I wish you all the best of luck in your efforts. Shouting is better than hitting though so well done for that. Children are very good at bugging until they get their way and the lack of respect is because you give in eventually. Decide on some rules and stick to them. If you say you are having 10 minutes/half an hour on the computer and are not to be disturbed point out the time to them and make sure you finish and do something with them when the time is up. Then they will start to respect you again and you can extend it.

Shouting isn't always a bad thing. I understand though, as I tend to shout when I get angry as well. The best thing for you to do, besides the count to ten thing, is to remove yourself from the situation. Give in if you have to, but then leave the room for a few minutes, lock the door and have mommy time if your kids are old enough to be left alone for a few minutes, or if you feel comfortable with doing so...

I have had the same problem ...the only way to control it is to get meek and laugh at the conditions that make you arrogant ......this will surely help

You know what? We are on the same boat. I shout at my kids when I am angry especially when I am teaching them their lessons. But when I am dealing with other kids and people I am not like that. I can completely control my temper and shouting. The bad side of it is that I noticed that my children are jumpy and over strung because they are nervous because of my shouting. There are even times that they won't seek for my help because they are anxious that I will get mad later when they commit mistakes. Try deep breathing and relax yourself when you are about to shout. It's hard when your child's state of mind and self-esteem is damaged already. Manage your anger.