Men and pregnancy, how much is enough?

We went to Lamaze classes which were only sleeping classes for my husband. I also got a dvd on Lamaze and childbirth. I thought my husband was going to be horrible and I told him so - afterwards. However he was the best! I couldn't have gone through childbirth without him. He was so calm and collected and comforting. He really stepped up to the plate and said that it was the most amazing experience of his life!

I was there for the entire thing & was even the primary caregiver for a good while after the birth of my youngest daughter. My wife really needed the help.

With my first child, his father was there for amny of the doctor visits, the ultrasounds, and he was right by my side the entire time I was in labor and delivery. He was just as filled with emotion as I was, and I was greatful for him being there with me. With my second-born and third children, their father was there every step of the way too. He held my hand, rubbed my back and talked me through the contractions. He was the proud father that I expected he would be. With my daughter, her father was not able to be there, so my Mom,was by my side, and my Dad and littel brother were in the room until it was time to give birth, then they stayed on the other side of the curtain encouraging me. I think that the father being involved with the entire pregnancy and birth is wonderful and helps to build a bond between him and the child. I know that if I were to become pregnant again, my husband would be certain to be there for me, and with me. He may not make it every doctor visit, but he would be to as many as he could be, and would want to know everything that the doctor said. I think he would not only help me whenever I needed him too, but he would be great at encouraging me to keep pushing when I felt I could push no more. Knowing him, he would take every bit of pain and discomfort from me if he was able to.

Hi Violeta, first let me point out that the comment from kent was completely in bad taste! Very inappropriate... In response to your asking, I can say that my partner was terrific thru my pregnancy. I can't say he attended every dr appt, and I didn't really expect him to. I think a man should be as involved as both he and his partner are comfortable with. It's a very personal decision. He did attend the first ultrasound, which he insisted on. See, I was almost 4 1/2 months along when I found out I was pregnant. So we were both really concerned and wanted to be sure the baby was okay... And together, we saw our baby for the first time and found out it was a boy! My partner insisted I use one of the best hsp around, not the local one, because of the reputations and the facilities. I wasn't alone though during the first few doctor visists, as my MIL is a nurse and she attended the visits. It helped because as a first timer, I didn't know what questions to ask, what to worry about, what to expect. And it helped my partner because he knew that his mom was there, when he couldn't be. My partner did attend a few visits as I got closer to D day and he was there the entire time during my labor and delivery. He was great.

I saw a very tough time during my pregnancy.I was bed ridden for 7 months and thanks to my husband who took proper care of me during that difficult phase of my life.He always accompanied me to the doctor and took proper care of my medication. I had a cesearian operation and prior to my operation i was calm and composed and it was he who was crying bitterly. When i came out of the theater he was crying and my mother was consoling him.In India no relative is allowed to accompany patient to the operation theater and my mother told me afterwards that throughout my operation he kept saying one thing "i am responsible for her condition" He is such a darling and i always thank God for giving me such a wonderful,loving,caring husband May God bless him.

My husband came to lots of doctor's appointments when we were pregnant with our children, including of course the ultrasounds. He was very excited and very involved, and has continued to be that way with our children. I think it completely depends on the couple, but it sounds like your husband wants to be involved, and I think that's great. My husband was present for the births of both of our children and neither of us ever considered him not being there. Yes, he was a little bit squeamish about the whole birth, but he was very supportive and I loved having him there. I couldn't imagine doing our next one without him there.

My Husband went to every doctor's appointment with me a well and was a huge help at the hospital during the birthing process I was so thankful for him and would not have had any else! I think it is good when the Dad is really involved! ~Heavens~

My partner was very much involved with me when i was pregnant with our son. He came to all of the appointments with me and was there for the birth. He stayed with me for the full 7 hour labour. I did enjoy having him there, apart from when he started flirting with the midwife and the nurses,he had them all in fits of laughter with his antics.

I have two girls and I think my partner missed maybe one or two of my appointments with our second children if he was looking after the first, and I had a lot of appointments due to a kidney condition I think men should be invloved I loved having him there and him being a part of it after the girls are 50% him too! He was there at the birth of both of them and i know it is something he is glad he was there to see he did feel a bit funny at how much pain was in but it didnt traumatise him he got to cut the cord both times and it was perfect having him there, we are planning a third child and he will be there at the birth

With our first baby, I was so grateful for my husband. I never would have been much stronger in bearing with it all if he wasn't there to support me. I remember the look on his face when he was holding our first baby and I just thought to myself that I am lucky, that my son is lucky to have him as a father. He seems strict sometimes with the kids but I know just how much our children means to him. With men and pregnancy, their involvement with the whole process can never be too much. Just as in any experience in life, it is much more meaningful and memorable to have it shared with the ones you love and love you back in return.

Well...us women dont climb up on top of ourselves and get pregnant now do we? The fathers should be there whenever possible. Mine was, and I wouldnt have it any other way. Pregnancy is a very emotional time for women, we need a shoulder to cry on or someone to laugh with during those 9 months because nobody but us know how hard it really is. Its nice to know that someone is always going to be there when you need them, and you definately need them when your pregnant.

I had a very tough time during my pregnancy.I was on bed rest for 7 months and i thank my husband for helping me lot during that difficult phase of my life.He always accompanied me to the doctor and always took proper care of my medication. I had a ceaserian section and though i was calm prior to my operation ,it was he who was crying bitterly.In India you are not allowed to accompany patient to the operation theater.I still remember the time when i came out of the operation theater,he started kissing me on my forehead and he was crying profusely. I thank God for giving me such a wonderful husband .Without his assistance , love and care it would HAVE been very tough for me to pass from that phase.

pregneancy is very difficult. how ever face this problem they the pain. outside people dont that are all. but what to do this a nature and god grace. every female must and should this one.