Is it easy for you to forgive someone?Do they need to show you ....

I can't just forgive someone after they've done something offensive to me. I'll need the person to show some remorse or apologise. This is if i care about that person then i need that, because it matters to me how they treat me and how they see our relationship. If i'm indifferent to someone i can just let go and not care about what they do. Overtime, i'll forgive the person because i can't hold a grudge forever either, it's too tiring and i don't want that kind of strain in my life. In order to be forgiven one has to repent in some way otherwise they're not asking for forgiveness.

Do they need to show you they are worthy of your forgiveness? Its not that they need to show they are "worthy" of my forgiveness..they need to show me that they regret doign what they did and show me that they know better than to do it again...and that they truly wouldnt dream of doing it again ya know..

i think i can say that i am quite a forgiving person as long as the person doesn't repeat the same mistake over and over again... i myself also not a perfect person and need people to forgive me... so i think it is just the right thing to do to forgive other people who make mistake to me as well... take care and have a nice day...

I had to think about your question for a little while before I could answer... it seemed easy until I really thought about how I handle situations where someone has done something to me or around me that would bring my ability to forgive into question. I honestly and truly do not think I'm a forgiving person. This surprises me. I believe that I'm a very caring type, I will bend over backwards to help people, I try to be generous and giving, supportive and understanding. I think this is much of the reason that I find it hard to forgive. I don't think I'm overly sensitive and, while I don't get hurt easily, I do hurt deeply if someone I really care about is careless in how they treat me or my feelings. I've also been in a relationship with a person who used "I'm sorry" as the ultimate whitewash. He believed that simply saying "I'm sorry" erased anything he might have said or done and I was supposed to "forget about it." Not having your hurt or anger acknowledged makes it really difficult to forgive. Unfortunately, his behavior has also made it hard for me to find sincerity in someone's apology. But, to come full circle with the original topic, I also know I'm not always angry. If I can't forgive someone, I simply accept it and move on. Thanks for the interesting conversation :)

I think I've forgiven someone and I act as though everything is fine and I promise myself I will have better control and not let anyone hurt me again then something happens and the wounds are open again...some are still festering even though there are decades passed since the wound was first inflicted. The poison flows through me and I am sick ...sick with pain, feelings of worthlessness, feelings of being unloveable and all the time pretending all is fine.

I am basically a very trusting person. It takes a lot for me to actually get to a stage where I would even need to have to forgive a person BUT generally it doesn't get to this stage. The few times it has happened, there's been no going back - I've cut off contact from a few people deliberately because I had just given them too many chances (maybe I had forgiven them too many times already) - when I make the break from someone I do it permanently. Thankfully this has only happened maybe 2 or 3 times in over 40 years of being on this earth. But to answer your question, I'm generally quite a forgiving person so those who have wronged or offended me get 2nd, 3rd, 4th or even 10th chances most of the time to get back in my good books. Maybe I'm just a sucker for a sob story!...

For me to actually consider forgiving someone they really need to prove to me that they're worthy of being forgiven. I've seen it too many times where people say they're sorry but they don't actually get what they've done wrong is wrong and why it hurts so much. So, for me to say, you know what, maybe you are sorry, I have to have some sort of proof before I can forgive someone. If you forgive people too easily I think they'll think what they've done really is not such a big deal and will continue to do it over and over again.

Greetings xXxMikesWifeyxXx! I just really felt the need to reply better yet express my thought on whether or not it is always easy to forgive someone that has hurt you. It always depends of the situation ofcourse. Like it isn't always easy to forgive and forget, basically what I am saying it is easier to forgive your younger siblings for getting into your personal belongings than it is to forgive a your boyfriend who has cheated on you. It is easier to forgive an a friend for dating someone you like than it is to forgive your mother for saying that she should of flushed you down the toliet when you were born or that she should of had an abortion with you. I mean like you xXxMikesWifeyxXX I can forgive people for the small and pettie stuff that they do to hurt or cross me but for something like a lover cheating or someone lying on me it hurts a lot more so it takes more time to adjust to them again. I mean I eventually will and have ended up forgiving people who have truly hurt me but at the same time it did and does hurt and takes a minute. And it is always better to forgive a person because it isn't even worth missing your chance to go to heaven for not forgiving someone who hurt you. So with that said hoefully you liked my thoughts and views and NakitaLikely3617 is out!

Ahh yes, forgive and forget. OK I'll forgive. But that doesn't mean I'll give you another chance. Forgiveness is letting the past go and getting on with your life. If you have a spouse that has done something you can't forgive, you really don't need to be living with that person. They'll just keep doing things to hurt you. I was in a situation where "I'm sorry" just became a way to manipulate a situation. Then he would do the same thing over again. Finally I'm sorry didn't cut it. I did forgive him, but that doesn't mean that I'll let him back into my life.

It isn't easy for me to forgive someone most especially if they have done a very horrible thing.. they need to show me how sorry they are..

well for me...it's very easy..i don't care if he/she is worthy to be or not..i'm a very understanding person,,and i don't need if they're sorry or not,for me,everyone deserved to be forgiven.anyways,my forgiveness is 100% sincere and real.