What is friendship conditional or unconditional?
@anjalisharma_iipm (805)
India
January 27, 2009 10:17pm CST
according to me friendship is conditional. when we do friendship we expect a lot every time from our friend. expect a fair deal every time want every truth should have been shared to you like that all stuff and much more what to think about it share because i want to know what is friendship all about because i still dont know what is this or is this the way to be happy and when it become painfulll it got break
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5 responses
@crimsonladybug (3112)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I definitely think friendship is conditional and some friendships are subject to stricter conditions than others. My best friend of 10 years gets a little more leeway than someone I just met six months ago. Or the girl I worked with.
Not everyone deserves a second chance. If I just met you six, or three or two, months ago, and you make a pass at my (*ahem* imaginary 
) boyfriend, we're done. You don't get a second chance. Same with someone who is just a friend at work but not outside. If I bring the aforementioned imaginary boyfriend to the company Christmas party and I catch Rita-who-I-talk-to-on-my-lunch-break hitting on him... We're done. Rita doesn't get a second chance (PS Rita is just as imaginary as my boyfriend).
) boyfriend, we're done. You don't get a second chance. Same with someone who is just a friend at work but not outside. If I bring the aforementioned imaginary boyfriend to the company Christmas party and I catch Rita-who-I-talk-to-on-my-lunch-break hitting on him... We're done. Rita doesn't get a second chance (PS Rita is just as imaginary as my boyfriend).@anjalisharma_iipm (805)
• India
28 Jan 09
yes i am strongly agree with your pointthat in case of friendship the condition part become more stronger and expectation become very high. which is become very public aas well that the both partied are expecting a lot from each other.
@crimsonladybug (3112)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I believe that trust, and therefore the right to a second chance, is something that has to be earned. The point I was making was that if someone I have met only recently who is calling themselves my friend does something to betray me... whatever that may be... then are they really someone I want as a friend? Likewise, someone I only associate with through work. But my best friend and I have been friends for 10 years. If she were to ever betray me, I couldn't bear to not give her a second chance.
@anjalisharma_iipm (805)
• India
28 Jan 09
hay thanks for your good length response but i am getting on the topic of conditional or unconditional friendship why you putting the comment on boyfriens and girlfriend and about their second chance. about their right of deservance.
@digerati (286)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
hi,
whether it should be conditional and uncoditinal, that really depends...
but in general, it must be unconditional, if we love, we just love.
it does not mean we can ask the one we love to do something in return..
friends,
gerald
@anjalisharma_iipm (805)
• India
28 Jan 09
yes you are right but in this world there no any thing left which is unconditional. yes in case of friendship it is in the unconcious mind that some trade off is happening.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 09
You are on the dot, when make friends, we expect a from them. In fact, we expect from everyone, with whom we have relations, be it our parents, siblings, cousins, partner or kids. I think expecting something from friends, largely depends upon our nature, if we are honest, frank and down to earth and share everything candidly with our friends, we also expect the same from him/her thinking that he/she will behave like us and when the other fellow does not (it may be due to so many reasons) we feel disappointed and dejected. I think if someone does not turn out to be like us and does not come out true to our expectations, we need to console ourself that 'everyone' is different and they might act as per their own thinking level.
Good Post!
@wraithhime (75)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
friendships are supposed to be unconditional, so as any other relationship.
expecting nothing in return should be always the motto, but i think that's not always the case.
just being there for a friend, taking time to appreciate each friends individuality is a big plus for your relationship.
true friends are hard to find, but it isn't that hard to understand someone who is different from you, with that in mind, that may be a start of a lasting friendship.
