Have you been hurt in church???
@karenlapniten (83)
Philippines
January 28, 2009 3:46am CST
Have you been hurt by your churchmate?? What did you do??
I have been through it. Until now, I am not comfortable going to our church so I decided to attend in my boyfriend's church. I have a churchmate who is jealous to me especially because I am the president of our youth circle in church. He is a 40-something man who verbally hurt me. He acts like a teenager. as if he is not a grown up. He is jealous because I know how to organize my group and he is trying to look for a loophole to destroy me. When he didn't find anything, he just said some hurting words which aren't true. My co-young people were even shocked when he said it. That happened last year. I was really hurt because of it. I don't hold any grudge in my heart now but I don't want to go back to our church anymore. I know that I can still serve God through other churches as long as I keep my faith in the Almighty...
Did I do the right thing?? If not, what can you suggest for me to do???
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5 responses
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
Hi there Karen!
I am sorry to hear that. That's really unexpected but maybe that person have some issues that he needs to resolve within him. I understand how you'd feel really uncomfortable after that happened.
I would suggest that you just go on with your church though. I think that that insecure man needs understanding and maybe if you wouldn't mind him, he will get tired of what he is doing doing to you. What's important is that your churchmates know better than to believe what he says.
I have been there. It's nothing major though. My churchmate, also a girl just completely ignored me after I said an enthusiastic hi to her. I don't know why but that hurt me. I almost wanted to stop going to church because I was turned off by her attitude.
But our pastor told me that we are not going to church for our churchmates alone and the major part of it is God. So I tried my best to just forget what happened and it worked.
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@hopejordan (3561)
• Australia
28 Jan 09
hi there karenlapniten
i think i have been hurt at times at church i have back slidden because i have hashimtoes diease and have not spoken to god done things that i am not proud of
and i know he forgives you its been a year that i have not been to church.
i have been not happy with god but i know its not his fault we sin so thats our own fault but in church people can look at you funny and sometimes they ignore you as well but they say so many people are busy with the church that.
but they are elders that do it too but god will deal with it.
but we all sin even elders do and pastors sunday school teachers as well.
take care happy postings.
@FDBrister (115)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I don't think it's God you're unhappy with, I think it's circumstances. It can be hard to see your circumstances as separate from what God may actually want for you. Things often happen in our lives because of OUR choices, not what God had in mind. We are absolutely fortunate to have a God who loves us and cares about what happens to us from day to day. What's unfortunate is that we don't do our parts; we are supposed to have a relationship with God, but that takes willingness on people's part, not just God's. We miss out on so much because we neglect our role in the relationship and expect God to do His part AND ours.
@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
28 Jan 09
If you quit your church then the bully wins and will do it to the next vunerable person he comes across. Be strong inside and stay with it. If your are helping young people then you are doing a very good thing and it does not matter what one idiot says.
You are a bigger person than that. Do not complain to anyone and do not talk to the kids about it. That will only cause them damage.
Some people go through life always doing the wrong thing others do the right thing. Try to be the latter always.
Shalom~Adoniah
Shalom~Adoniah
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I've actually just been hurt at church. Funny story. I was racing a friend of mine to sunday school when i was like 12 years old. I ended up falling on the last slab of cement right before the door and going completely thru 2 stain glass windows and the door. I ended up breaking my nose and needed 40 stiches on my left arm. It totally sucked because my mom was the sunday school teacher and i was totally balling and swearing my head off because i saw all the blood and muscle coming out of my arm. I mean i seriously was looking at the bone and stuff. Crazy story huh. Very true though i still have the wicked scar on my left arm to proove it. Pretty gross.
@derry123 (610)
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28 Jan 09
sounds like you have had a bit of a bad time karenlapniten.. so pleased you kept your faith through all of the upset ... try to remember its him that has the problem not you ... get back to your valuable work with the youth church . Is there a person you can talk to at your church , not to moan about the person upsetting you , but to plan ahead for your group and get support for yourself . Work with young people is so imprtant to the world and the church at this time dont let this set back spoil your mission *
