A certain point in married life
By bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
United States
January 28, 2009 12:20pm CST
Have you reached a certain point in life where you don't mind if your husband is still looking at other women or did it not ever really bother you in the first place? I realize that a husband is going to look. I look at other men also and it does not have to affect the marriage adversely. I appreciate your opinions. 
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@scarletrose_2000 (192)
• United States
28 Jan 09
The truth is all husbands look at other women and all wives look at other men. I have never denied that I do and neither has my husband. Why deny something that the other knows is a lie in the first place. Our open communication about "looking" has allowed us to both accept that it is a part of natrual human reaction to look at people you find attractive. There is no harm in looking as long as you make no moves to pass that looking on to touching or being with the other person. As a side note it is ok to glance with your partner but do not over do it with one of those stare down walk bys. The way I look at it we were given eyes to see what we like and a brain to make the correct decision with how far we should take it. Happy "looking" but please don't "touch" LOL.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
28 Jan 09
You are so right when you say that we were given eyes to look but the brain to know the difference between right and wrong! I know that it is probably normal for all people to look once in a while as long as it isn't taken too far. There is no harm at looking at all.@scarletrose_2000 (192)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Thank you very much for your comment. That is right there is no harm in simply looking.
@nancygibson (3736)
• France
28 Jan 09
I think that as long as you are both open and honest with each other, that its perfectly normal to still find other people attractive. The difference is that these days its 'academic' in as much as you don't plan to follow up on the observation that someone is nice looking, you just recognise that you find them so, and get on with life as normal.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I definitely agree with you and your explanation of not following up on the observation. You put the idea in a good way and I believe that as long as a husband or wife just finds someone attractive and does not act on it then that is the best thing.
