Does looks matter in a relationship?

I would say that it doesn't matter once you get to know the person, but looks have a lot to do with original attraction. Let's face if you are bar hoping with some friends and you are looking to meet someone. You notice two people at the bar one is hot the other is not... who do you approach first? There is also though a level of confidence required to approach some one and confidence normally comes with your own looks. For instance in the same situations let's put numbers to the two targets let's say the hotty is about an 8 while the notty is about a 4. If you think of yourself as a 4 then you will probably only have the confidence to approach the 4.

Looking good for someone is quite ok, but being in a serious relationship with someone because of their good looks is not right and you can never fall in love with someone because of their looks. How that person makes you feel, the kinds of decisions that person makes, the way that person holds you; these are the things you look for in person wether its a friend or your lover. Someone's looks should have absolutley nothing to do with choosing your partner or your friends.

Hi akangirl Though we are first attracted by the other persons look easily,finally it is not the look that decides our relationship. One is liked more not for the look but for the behavior,character,simplicity,humanity,kindness,helping tendency,pleasing words etc..etc.. Outward appearance is always deceptive only. I have seen many lovers who are actually not better looking but they loved strongly. Because they saw the heart than the body. Happy mylottting

At first..looks really matters..because we have to accept the fact that it is the first thing that we can see on the people around us, we are very particular about his appeal, the way he smile, the face as well as her breathtaking body. But after that...we can assess his personality and decide if he really suited for our personality. If we are compatible..but still its the look that make us proud when we are walking down the road!

Hello dear akangirl, once a relationship is established, look becomes immaterial. As mind is the one and only one consideration in ultimate judgment. But a relationship starts, look plays an important role. May not be always, but most of the time. Perhaps, everybody will agree that without knowing anything about a person, we feel good about some and we feel bad about others. Even when we see a person for the first time, this notion comes in mind. I think the look, here, plays the role. One person liked by one may not be so to others. But once we start dealing with the new one, we change our person according to his/her psychological responses. Good luck

looks play an important role in a relationship for me. i admit it and i dont care if other people would say about me. ofcourse, being a girl a guy's look should be handsome and simple. ofcourse it comes with love and faith. this aspect can serve as an inspiration for me for living everyday. honestly, before when i was aroung 14-16 my boyfriends (2) aren't that handsome. i swear but you know when i keep growing i suddenly realized that looks play an important part in a relationship. it can help/boost your faith in a relationship. hope this can help! wy

I don't put a whole lot of emphasis on looks when picking out my friends. I mean I need to be attracted to my partner and I am attracted to him, but it's more his personality and interests than it is his looks, not saying he isn't a good looking man, but his personality adds to his sexiness.

Looking our best for someone I think is very important. But love is blind. Loving someone is accepting his/her ALL including the looks. There is a tendency for love to diminish I think only when you've been with the person a long time and he/she became too comfortable and familiar with you and start to neglect his/her appearance.. I mean we make efforts to look nice when we date someone the first time right? and I think its important to continue to look nice and neat or do any extra effort to look good.

LOOKS or the beauty you see in someone is the primary ATTRACTION. I would be such a hypocrite if I say looks don't matter to me. Most of us want to get to know someone because we're physically attracted, this happens MOST of the time but not really all the time. First attraction is SHORT TERM. When you get to know that someone and you think he/she has something in her personality that you like, you want to BIND more with that person. Looks fade, this is a cliche but it's true. What makes a relationship stay strong is not about the physical beauty but rather that person's attitude, personality and life disposition. Although my bf is so good looking, what I like most about him is not the external part but what's inside him.

Looks are initially very important as there has to be something that draws you to that person. Personally I have found that as the relationship develops the other, more important factors come into play. As you get older looks aren't always the thing that attracts you as in most cases you mature and learn to look beyond. For example my current partner is not the best looking girl I have gone out with y a long chalk but we get on fantastically and I could never imagine having the same love and understanding with anyone else.