Should You Let Your Teenage Daughter's Boyfriend Sleep In Her Room?

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Just stumbled upon this article here and found it an interesting read for all quarters. Starting from parents right down to the child I just felt this article is indeed so enlightening and practical. Here the mother's (DIANA APPLEYARD) answer is a firm No and she explains. She is strictly of the ‘not under my roof, thank you’ brigade, whereas her husband thinks she is being absurdly old-fashioned. He seems to think that she is trying to artificially preserve her growing children in a kind of Peter Pan-like state, in which she refuses to accept the fact that they no longer play with Barbies or love pony club camp, and that they still bruise their knees falling out of trees. But like all fallible individuals, we tend to forget that there's a saying that goes: All mother's knows best. So just like every mother the author knows that her beloved elder daughter is a fully functioning adult, that she effectively lives at university, not at home, and that they must allow her to be responsible for her own actions. She further quotes that: I know all this in my head; but in my heart, and in my home — and especially in her bedroom — she remains my child. and on the part of her daughter's boyfriend: He’s perfectly welcome in our house, and is a lovely boy, but I refuse to accede to the trendy liberalism of immediately showing them both into her bedroom and closing the door on all parental responsibilities. This is, after all, my house, and my rules apply. Whereas her husband's (ROSS APPLEYARD) is a YES and he explains. Basically he is for and don’t have a problem with his Beth sharing a bed with her boyfriend, because he claims that he knows that they are in a healthy and committed relationship. That things would be very different if they didn’t know the boy in question, or if she had only just started going out with him. He finds it quite endearing, when he comes to stay and disappears at the end of the night to the spare room, although he knows he’s not going to stay in there very long. How does he know? He claims that: "Because I am a man, and what would I have done in the same circumstances? There’s a tacit understanding between males. Which is why I think it’s just plain daft not to accept the fact that our daughter now has a love life — an enjoyable relationship with an equally mature young man. Why shouldn’t we treat them as adults, not like children? " So, what's your take on this here parents? Will you agree and go along with the wife or the husband? For children, which parent's decision will you support? Why? Ref: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1131292/Should-let-teenage-daughters-boyfriend-sleep-room-A-married-couple-argue.html