Would you carry your girlfriend's bag...
By migsmartinez
@migsmartinez (1293)
Philippines
January 29, 2009 7:47pm CST
or for the girls out there, would have your boyfriend carry your bag? Personally, I wouldn't carry my girlfriend's bag unless she is unable to or if she needs me to just for a while so that she could do something else like tie her shoe or something. My reason for not is that it's a bit emasculating. Why should the guy carry a girl's bag? If the girl can't carry it in the first place, shouldn't she have left it or removed some stuff? I don't think it is the guy's duty to carry around a girl's bag.
To the guys, would you carry your girlfriend's bag? Why or why not? If yes, are you comfortable with it?
To the girls, would you let your boyfriend carry your bag for you? Why or why not?
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33 responses
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I don't really like making my boyfriend do anything unnecessary for me. I don't even want him to carry the stuff I have if I can manage by myself - but he likes to help, and I'm glad that he does so I let him :)
As for bags and purse - I think I wouldn't want him to feel uncomfortable having to carry those girly stuff so I wouldn't. It's not like I can't carry my stuff by myself!
I think it's natural for guys to NOT want to carry their girlfriend's bag, and you're right that it's emasculating. I end up laughing at guys who're carrying silver bags with huge ribbons on them, which are obviously their girlfriend's.
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@migsmartinez (1293)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Seems like your boyfriend is a gentleman! My girlfriend doesn't make me carry stuff either but I like to help. I don't offer to carry her bag for her and I made it clear that I wouldn't carry her bag unless she really needs help. Thanks for the response!
@vijayanandp (682)
• India
30 Jan 09
well i dont carry my girl friend bag, well its away to test you if you start carrying her bag once then next time they will ask you to carry some thing else and in this way they will dominate you and see that you work for them like a dog. well never help girl friends or never feed them else they will always try to take benifit from us.
@migsmartinez (1293)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Hey there! I guess it might be a test and if you start carrying her bag, she might have you carry it all the time or make you carry all her stuff all the time. I still carry things for my girlfriend though. I don't think my girlfriend takes advantage of me or will take advantage for me so it's alright for me to carry her stuff as long as it's not her handbag.
@cynicismatitsfinest (41)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
i would not let my boyfriend carry my bag or other stuffs (unless i really need help) since it is a "feudal" thing. i do not consider it as a sign of being gentleman with a girl. hey, we should break the feudal situation that exists even in this simple kind of "carrying your gf's bag" situation. :)
@benhilo (871)
• Tripoli, Libya
30 Jan 09
Of Course! I do not care about what others think, I care about what she thinks. Part of a relationship is being supportive. Carrying her stuff is being supportive, sensitive to her needs.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
if he wants to, but I beg to disagree that it is "emasculating"? On the contrary, you'll be a real man (gentleman)and a sweet boyfriend to most women because you're so confident of your masculinity it wouldn't bother you to carry your girlfriend's bag. How would it make you effeminate? I'm sorry but I don't see your point...anyway, it is your concept so I don't question that.
A questionnaire was floated at work, asking exactly the same question about how women perceive men doing that and you know what came up? "The man was a true gentleman and that he is a sweet boyfriend." Cheers and happy myloting. 
@migsmartinez (1293)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
I think carrying a handbag while walking around the mall is emasculating. Handbags were not meant to be carried by guys. If it were, then there would be handbags for men. I think carrying stuff for your girlfriend is being a gentleman but there's a limit. I think carrying a handbag for your girlfriend is not right.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Yes i do but only when it's needed like when her hands are full. Nope, it doesn't bother me at all. I'm quite comfortable with it for as long as she's there with me. lol! Carrying it along might give some people some misconceptions about my sexuality. Sometimes i carry it just for fun lol! I don't really have hang ups and things like that is no issue to me.
@migsmartinez (1293)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
What if your girlfriend made you carry her bag while walking around the mall? I see so many guys carrying their girlfriend's bags and it's really awkward for me to see. Thanks for the response!
@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
30 Jan 09
You are not very gentlemanly. You should carry your girlfriends bag in public. A group of women will probably assassinate you in the night for being such a dirty rotten scoundrel.
@migsmartinez (1293)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Actually, I am. I open the door for people, I take care of my girlfriend when she's sick, I treat my girlfriend with respect and give her all the love I can, and I carry heavy bags for people when they need the help. My girlfriend doesn't want me to carry her bag in public. If I force myself to carry her bag, would that be gentleman-like? I don't think so. That wouldn't be respectful to her.
I'm still waiting for that group of women to assassinate me. I don't take kindly to insults. Good day to you.
@mansha (6298)
• India
30 Jan 09
I think my hubby will never carry a purse of mine all the way , thohg he wont mind holding it for me for few minutes or so. Infact I won't even want him to hold it too. Its kind of freaky to see a guy carrying a women's purse. May be its a stereotyped thinking but thats the way it is.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
30 Jan 09
I would never let my boyfriend carry my bag for me..
If I am not busy doing something else..
I really hate those girls who treat their boyfriends or even friends as "walking hangers" around them!!
And I have very storng arms and I can carry my weight my self!!
And it is surely not a duty of the boyfriend to carry his girlfriends handbag.
But yea when I am going some where say checking in a hotel or may be bording a train I would really love it if my boyfriend took all the duty of carrying the luggage for me.
But definetly I would never let him carry a ladies bag!!
But definetly I would never let him carry a ladies bag!!
@migsmartinez (1293)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Hey there! Your boyfriend is lucky that you won't let him carry your bag! My girlfriend feels the same way! She doesn't like the idea of girls that bring their boyfriends around just so that they can carry their stuff for them. It's the right thing to do to let your boyfriend carry luggage for you when checking in to a hotel or boarding a train. That is, of course, if he's not carrying his own luggage or if his luggage is not too big! Thanks for the response!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
30 Jan 09
My hubby is always willing to hold my purse when we are shopping and I will be fitting some stuff I like, he has no problem about that and sometimes, when we are walking in the street, I will ask him to hold it if I am fixing my shoes or jacket and he will try to hold it as if he is a gay, as a joke! LOL!
@migsmartinez (1293)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Hey! I think that's OK. When my girlfriend is busy or needs to do something important, I wouldn't mind holding her bag for her. We're both reluctant at first but since it's important, we both agree that I'd carry her bag for the short time that is needed. That's a pretty good inside joke but if someone else were to see it, it might look bad for your guy! Thanks for the response!
@makeupbycher (165)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
if i have a paper bag which is heavy my husband (even if he was still my boyfriend) caries it for me. but for my bag, i don't really like the idea. my husband is not my slave. i wouldn't want him to feel less of a person or anything. i know that's going overboard but i was never for the idea of my companion carrying my stuff.
even with helpers, i wouldn't want them to do that for me. it's a simple thing and i am fully equipt to do it cheers!
@migsmartinez (1293)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I agree with you. I don't want to burden other people either! I think other people though, like your husband, offers to help you carry stuff because that's the chivalrous thing to do. I always offer to carry stuff for my girlfriend like her gym bag and groceries when she has them because those things are heavy and I don't want her to have to carry heavy things. Thanks for the response!
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Depends on the situation my purse is my purse. I may ask him to hold it while I try and grab something in the store to check it out more or say if I'm on crutches and can't carry it. But even then I make due. I have to be injured or just momentarily need him to take it in order to check something out or deal with the kids in a store. It's like there are times when our youngest only wants me and I carry her. But 9 out of ten times i don't have him carry it.. I may ask him when he wants money out of it to bring it to me if I'm doing something in the house. But really it's very limited.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I wouldn't ask my boyfriend to carry my bag unless I needed him to for like a second. I had him hold it a few times while I put my coat on and then I took it back. I couldn't have him just carry it around for no reason, and I don't think he would do it either for that matter.
@smooch091784 (973)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
First off, if I have a bf I wouldn't let him carry my purse for no reason. It may be cute for some people, seeing them at the malls or parks, but I find it not cute. I'd ask my bf to hold my purse when I have to fix or to do something if I know it's bothering me, other than that, no. It's so uncool seeing a guy at the mall walking hand in hand with his girl and his gf's purse is on his shoulder, yea it's sweet, and gentleman of him, but it's just not proper. PURSE ARE MADE FOR GIRLS! I said it enough! Unless your man is gay! Lol
@soundfreak22nd (475)
• Malaysia
4 Feb 09
my boyfriend hates it when i let him carry my handbag for me. he said that i should buy him a bag that suits him and he can carry around for me instead of buying myself a new handbag that costs me hundreds and he's the one ending up carrying a girlish bag for me!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 09
I have no qualms about carrying a girls bag or purse for that matter, what does it matter anyhow? It's the 21st century after all, and the macho, alpha male image has faded into the past, it's more accepting now anyhow and I certainly wouldn't give any guy any hassle or a look to say that they were weird if I saw them carrying their girlfriends bag, I would actually admire them, so what, no big deal is it!
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
30 Jan 09
Dear friend,
I do not hesitate to carry my girlfriend's bag if I have a girl friend and is she love me and if I love her I do like to carry her bag. Moreover if she love me I love to carry her too. More if she have reasonable justifiable reasons for not carry the bag I would carry the bag with much pleasure.
@VoteforPedro (301)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I have carried Debs stuff from time to time, mostly when her hands are full with other things. I've also carry Tina's things. She never carries anything so I always have to carry it for her.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
No, I will not allow my boyfriend to carry my bags.As an independent woman.I really practice not to be dependent on anybody. Because, on the first place I hate to overload my bags with heavy things.It will surely weighed me down and I cannot move freely as fast as I could, like walking briskly, meeting a deadlines. I am more comfortable in carrying small bags that suit in my lifestyle as go getter. Except, when I do travel and carry a luggage. I may not reject any help from any guy.I will take it as a compliment and as a sign of being a gentleman.
