This girl arm pit,,, ewh please

Hi dian, you have started a discussion with lengthy description and I think I have to take some time to read and answer paragraph by paragraph Ok I know you are quit lucky to have a nice and helpful friend who is always so enthusiastic to help you even though when you don’t need any help. I think she is too caring about her bf or she wants to behave much better or might be she is lack of confidence as well so she always needs your opinion to have more improvement. Surely we would feel annoyed and could hardly tolerate anymore if our friend keeps on asking us the same question repeatedly and never accepts our suggestion totally. So it’s quite normal that you show such attitude toward her. Yeah, I totally agree with your suggestion if she really dislikes shaving away the ugly stuff in her armpit, she is better to put on shirt with longer sleeves. You couldn’t blame her that she is reluctant to buy the suggested products for there might be some reasons for her to do so I suppose. Or you can ask her the reason for her refusal in this matter. Anyway it’s forgivable if due to her financial difficulty. Different people have different opinion of value on money as well as expenditure. When we are taking food with friend outside we always take turns to visit respective favorite food stalls. In this way both of us can have chance to enjoy individual favorite food. If you really feel unhappy to go out with her too often you could go out alone a bit earlier before she visits you as usual Happy posting and have a nice day.

I would just tell her you don't have the money to keep buying her meals all the time. She sounds like she is some what of a mooch when it comes to something like that. As for the advice, be honest with her, when she asks you for your advice on something ask her if she is going to take it this time? What is the point in asking if she don't ever take your advice. If none of that works I would find a new friend. She may be really nice, but maybe its just to get what she wants. There is no reason you should have to listen to her all the time if she isn't going to listen to you and you definitely don't need to be paying for her meals all the time!

Personally I think there are some issues there that she is not wanting to own up too, but at the same time looking for others to always cover for her as well. I hope that she is wanting to change and is genuine instead of just trying to use you for your kindness and $$ and that you end up feeling Hurt and rejected in the end as well. If I were you I am not sure what I would do, but I would feel like it would be time to distance myself if someone started not wanting to listen to me. Maybe she feels you are too pushy, but if this is bothersome if could start affecting you and your looks and thoughts as well.

Hii...Mrs diansinta.. I don't know what a good solution for U about ur friends.. But U must be patient in face of him..giving clarification with as good as its goodness, and see growth about him without having to takeconfused with its attitude

Arm pit hair is really gross. Tell her she can buy a whole package of disposable razors for a couple of bucks. It sounds like she is quite a mooch and is taking advantage of you, by allowing you to pay all the time. Next time she wants to go with you to eat, tell her it is her turn to pay, or tell her that you are broke and see if she steps up and offers to pay. Or you can tell her you only have a couple of dollars to buy food. See how she reacts to that. She will likely bail out, or come up with some money herself.

Well it seems to me that she hasn't mature enough as a person. She's too shy at the same time not shy about getting hair on her armpit. I think she must do something with it because it would be embarrassing even to you since you're her friend. I think in time she will learn to stand on her own. Just give her time.

geee,its not easy to tell her honestly i think. is she your best friend? if she is, you should tell her frankly about your feel about her. but you should tell her in good manner. you tell her cause you care of her and as human, you also need her caring about you. i know it will difficult for the first time but if she really considers you as her best friend, she will be understand and back to you. when you advised her, i believe she listened to you although it seems she asked you repeadily about the same question to you. she needs that to assure the decission that she made in her head. but if you don't feel that she is your best friend, so you should make some distance with her, as like common friend. i hope you able to handle this situation, dear friend

i think she needs to find herself i mean find herself worthy it seems to me that she is having low self esteem.. maybe tell her to shave off her armpit get some shaver for her and deodorant..

Few things... First, may be it's her choice to let hair grow out of her armpit... I think that would be a personal choice & you, or anyone else for that matter, have anything in saying what she should do with it... It's her armpit, let her be... Second, don't be around the bush... Just be direct with her... If she asks you for your opinion, give it to her... Then tell her straight out that you only give your opinion once so don't ask again... Just as much of a right as she has in what she wants to do with her armpit hair, you have every right not to have her get to you... With a lot of people, I noitced how they really can't be direct with someone but yet they complain about things not going their way, as far as relationships with others go... You tell her flat out honestly & she doesn't like it & doesn't come around, that might be a good thing... That way, you don't have to look at her armpit hair again & she will leave you alone with those annoying questions... If you are willing to help & stick it out with looking at her hairy armpit, then suck it up & do so without complaining...

Buy her a magazine that teaches about looking your best but say nothing, just tell her you read it and thought she might, too. After that, say nothing. Maybe she is embarrassed.

Well your friend is funny and a little bit foolish hehe, my suggest is i think you should bring your friend to myLot, so if she has a problem with money, at least she can afford some shopping for her ownself, if she doesn't want to hear some suggestion to you, i think you need to be emphatic with her, you need something strong to make her listen to you, a power to punish her for her own good, and i think it's an emphatic/resolute, my suggest is when one day she came to you again, just makes a silence, if she ask you why did you do that, you can tell her, i don't have words to tell people if they don't want to listen it hope it may helps

You should tell her to look at herself then look at another girl. When a guy sees a girl with armpit hair, its like looking a guy. I mean its like a turn-off when you see that. Maybe you should sneak into her room while shes sleeping and shave it all off lol....or maybe not. It just makes you not want to stand next to someone with their hair showing everywhere.

Maybe she's ignorant about such stuff, which is by she doesn't feel very embarrassed about having hair under her arms. Maybe once she is more mature, she will be more aware. So give her some time. You could try giving her some girls' magazine to read too so that she can understand that having hair under her arm is not very pleasant especially for a girl. About her being uptight with her money, maybe when you go eat in the future, you can suggest to her to buy some cheaper side snacks first? At least she won't be drooling in front of you.

As a guy I really can't say how girls feel well since they are very complicated.lol! But I think your friend has some self confidence issues. She doesn't think highly of herself. That will affect not only her present but also her future. It will affect with her ability to succeed in this harsh world of ours. There isn't a whole lot that one can do to get someones self confidence working. Please make sure that no1 ends up reading a self help crap. Those things are a waste of money. Try giving her some responsibilities that you know she would struggle with and make her stick with it no matter what. That should help with the self confidence.

how is that any worse than when a man doesn't shave his armpits? why is it not clean? nobody says that a mans unshaven armpits are dirty? so long as she washes, it's not unclean. it's entirely up to her if she shaves her armpits or not. I shave mine, but why look down on people that don't. or more specifically, why look down on women who don't. because men don't shave their armpits, and no one finds that disgusting or dirty, and what makes people think that a womans armpit is dirtier than a mans? it's only cultural conditioning that makes people find something as natural as womens body hair to be disgusting. we're told from an early age that women should be hairless, in order to accentuate her difference from men, but the reality is, it's just as natural for a woman to have body hair as for a man to. now I'm no ranty feminist, but if someone doesn't want to shave their armpits, what business is it of anyone else. and when you're out together, maybe it would be nicer to let her choose where to eat, so she can pick somewhere in her budget.

The arm pit problem isn't really a problem. It is her personal choice and you need to respect that. You've tried to help her, but maybe you would be better off accepting it is a part of her and ignoring it. The more of a big deal you make of it, the more likely you are to upset her more. If you are always paying for her food etc, then stop. Start going on outings together where you pack your own lunch (and hers if you are so inclined) it will be cheaper. Either that or point out that you are always doing this and that it is time for her to start paying her own way. You aren't her boyfriend after all, and you aren't going out on dates, so she should be paying her own way.

..hi diansinta.. maybe your friend really need your help to find herself.. maybe she has different things going on inside her that mess up with her thinking.. and maybe, she is a very thrifty person that's why she doesn't want to buy anything which she feel is not important to her.. About her armpit, try to convince her in a nice way telling her that it is very awkward for a lady to have an armpit like that.. It is very disgusting to other people specially the guys..