Should i say something?

Definitely your call. You know him and we don't so it's hard to give advice on how to approach him. But, from my own experience, if your friend isn't ready to come out to "real people" he isn't going to say anything. He'll tell you when he's ready, and it will probably be in a ripping off a band-aid, "I want you to meet Ted," sort of way, because just as much as you are unsure about how to ask, he is probably unsure about how to come out.

I wouldn't say a word. I had a coworker many years ago that I just knew was g-a-y. I never saw any proof he was, i just suspected. So even though there was gossip around work I always just smiled and kept quiet. Well, sure enough, about 2 years later after I had been promoted to be his boss he walked into my office one day, obviously distressed, and said he wanted to talk to me. He told me that he was not straight and I listened to his story and at the end I just hugged him and thanked him for trusting me enough to tell me. Then I said "and by the way, I've known for years." He smiled and said, "really?" And I told him yeah, that I had my suspicions. It made him feel even better that even though I had known for all that time I hadn't treated him any differently.

It kind of depends on if you think he would get super embarrassed by it. You don't want him to get all upset and freak out that you are asking. He would probably deny it if he isn't ready to tell you. I'm sure he knows that you would be ok with him being gay. If he doesn't you could find ways to show him that you would be ok with it but let him come to you when he is ready. Or if you think he might be ready to be out with you about it then ask him.

Keep it a secret if I were you.Pretend that you know nothing about it.Wait the moment he would like to tell you , then say something to let him know you are still good friends. Good luck!

Well, If it bothers you enough, I say go ahead. I think that it might of been just a spam e-mail or something like that. But If you really wanna know, Go ahead. don't be afraid! :)

If it was me in your shoes I would probably say something. I'm just like that though. I would probably start out by saying something to the effect of when you were on his computer on his msn, his email came up and were say this stuff. You're just curious to know if he is or not. He may like to have someone he can trust to talk to about it since he's obviously not out if he is.

It's his private mail. I know it was an accident that his email was opened but it wouldn't say anything because he probably didn't intend for it to open for you. I would just let it go. If you don't he might not trust you after learning that you saw his private emails. Besides you had to read the email address so you were there longer than you should have been.

Well, if he lets you see his MSN account, then I guess it really doesn't matter to him that you know he's gay or not and if you really cannot cease thinking of that, better then to ask him in a nice way; he's your friend and friends do that, you know, asking things about themselves to make them even closer. Besides, I don't think it's a big issue, being gay or not, if he's truly your friend, you'll accept him for whoever he is.

No. It is his private business. I am sure if he wanted to talk about it with you that he would bring it up. I don't think you should say a word.

I would not make a big issue out of it if I could help it but I guess I would be really curious to know why they were on there. I mean you could broach it with him gently, I mean it is not like you were snooping as he allowed you to go on it so he is obviously not hiding anything or else he would not have allowed you to use it.

I think that the best thing is to wait for him to tell you, if he has something to tell you, and you're so good friends. Just wait and see . You'll probably know for sure in a short while. Or, you might try to talk about gay people, in general see wha's his reaction. Anyhow, if he's a good friend and you don't want him to be your boyfriend, it should not bother you too much. You'll know what and how, in the proper time.

ok this is BIG news!! if you ask him he could take it the rong way... but if you dont say anything it will come out sooner or later.. it depends what your friend is like....and you should know him best to call it

Personally I think that you should let your friend come to you first. Talking to him about it when he hasn't brought it up, make make him feel uncomfortable. If I were you I would just leave things be. If that doesn't wound like your cup of team you could always make up an imagionary friend that you know that is gay and talk to him about it. Let him know that you are comfortable about the whole thing and maybe he will open up to you about it. I know a few gay guys and they have told me that one of the reasons that they never came out of the clothest about it was because they were afraid of loosing their friends. I hope that everything works out for you.

If it truly does not bother you either way and will not affect your relationship to him I do not believe it is wise to say anything. It is not necessarry and could hurt the friendship. However if you feel you should or really want to discuss it with him perhaps it would be best to watch closely for another opportunity that does not come so close to invading his privacy. Something he says or does that you could use as a starting point maybe. Also it could be a mistake kind of. For example my husband gets tons of emails from dating services now. I know he was not looking fo rthem. HE did a quiz thing online and apparently they diecide that you are single if you do those even if you list yourself as married. I know I have gotten some because of that too. ahe might have gone to something out of curiosity or even by accident and been receiving emails ever since even if he doesn't want them.

I don't think you should say anything. If he is gay, and he wants to share that information or talk to you about it he will. Otherwise he may see it as an invasion of his privacy, despite the fact that he signed you on to his computer on his own, and it might affect the friendship.

kezza246, In the first place, you have stumbled into this personal part of your friend's life by accident. Furthermore, it was through his ingenious grace of letting use his personal computer that resulted in this discovery. So, as far as personal space and privacy is concerned you should leave the matter as it is. It is also important that you abandon that tinted glass look on your friend here as there is nothing to it for you to know about. I am sure when the time is right he will share and let you know. In the meantime, just remain a friend to him as you have been respecting and supporting him. It does not matter what he does, so long as it is not harming or cheating anyone - answering to his own conscience. Take care and have a nice day.