Married and NO ROMANCE!

This is what marriage does to a relationship. It happens to everyone...

Both of you are still young. Maybe both are you are too tied up on work as well as the burden to take good care of your kids. As all your kid are still young and need ample of times to take care of them. Are both of you enjoying the time spend together to bring up your kids. Maybe what both of you need is to find sometime together going out for a short tour to bring back the old memory when you both spend good times together. Get somebody to take good care of your kids, maybe mother in law to take care of them. Sometimes you might need some refreshing or to get wawy from work and kids.

Wow!! You are very young to stop that thing! and 30 years old it doesn't mean he is old 30 is still young. I think there is a problem between you and your husband you must talk about it communication is the best solution of all problem. Ask him why and talk to him that you need that. or you can make a move to get his attention on you. try what ever you can. But talk to him first about the problem of what you wants. I believe that romance is the best tool to have a long relationship.

Well how can you say there has been no romance when you have three kids! It must be hard for you all to get it on when you have little ones like that. Here is something maybe you could do, get a babysitter for a night and go out to dinner, when you come home watch a nice movie that the both of you would like and give each other some good massages and I think that might put you in the mood. I know it would for me. I hope this helps you all in someway, welcome to mylot and I look forward to seeing you around.

hello there marie,..what kind of job do you have your husband?..maybe he get tired of having a romance..instead of romancing,his now focusing on his job.. you have already 3 children and i think he always thinking of your children's future.. but anyway,make your first moves marie and do the romance first,i hope he will respond to you..! tell him that you want romance..

Oh, then you have to make it happen. Well, when you husband comes for work, through him a candale light dinner or go outside from for dinner and only you two. Just 1 day away from kids. Talk to your hubby about it. May be he is facing some kinda a problem. Realize that you really love him and that kinda stuff.

me and my hubby went through a thing like this years ago and it was just because we had 2 kids under 6 and we both worked and were just tired. We have been married now for 17 years and have a now 2 year old so we got over it. Just do not make the mistake I made when I first started noticing the romance dwindle which was to nag about it and always ask why. That is such a turn off.

It is called getting into a rut. You have gotten to a point where you take eachother for granted. This may sound awful but it is actually very common. I have written an article that may give you some ideas. Here is the link: http://www.ehow.com/how_4492037_be-romantic-everyday.html So, this is just the beginning. Do some research online and see what else you can come up with. Talk to your partner and see where he's at. Tell him what you have put down here. Good luck!

have you done any thing spontaneous lately in your relationship. i dont like whats happening, even though i am not married i hate it when things like this happens to some people. why do people feel like after marriage the fun days are over. true be told its just the begining. people should not be pinned down by marriage. i know that it can be stressful in dealing with three kids, but you guys have to try and make time for each other. have a romantic night out, surprise him with something, or even just rub his back when he come home. sometimes with lifes challenges we get so caught up with other stuff.

Your case is just like mine! :(... He is not a romantic person, none romance exists...

You could try being more romantic. Like, a) you can post little notes of ILOVEYOU under weird places that he would find like under the cover of the toilet seat, inside his polo shirt etc... b) then you can surprise him by doing something that you have not done before like for example if you don't know how to cook, cook for him or you can try his favorite dishes I am out of ideas but I think you get the picture of what I am suggesting.

Maybe unconsciously you are afraid that romancing may lead to another pregnancy. Maybe if he comes home from work and finds you still in towels after a bath with your favorite scents, it might set the mood. You could tell him , before he leaves for work in the morning, that today is your are "safe" day. Maybe if the anxiety of an unplanned pregnancy is absent you could be more open to romance. A clean and relaxed home is conducive to romance. Romantic music helps.( I'm talking from experience of 33 years of happy marriage here!)

Really? so you have the one who make first move seduce him as much as you can(hehehe) do am i weird? There are also couple without romance but it's not too late you are still both young and it can be learn...LOL.

I've been married for almost 10 years.. I'm 28, husband is 34, and we used to have a wonderful romantic life... then we hit a rough spot... our first child come... another rough spot... and then we got back in the groove of things and it was great.... then well all that greatness turned into another child... and we are stuck back into that rut as you are... Wondering what happened, where'd things go, and how in the heck do we fix it.. He worked for 10 months straight at 16 hours a day, 7 days a week, until recently and there was no time for anything (between the sheets) but to try to get some sort of connection... we'd go out of our way to write little love notes and stick them in off the wall places so when we'd find them it would hit the spot... We'd text each other, mushy gushy notes... When he takes his lunch for work, I am the one who makes it and I always stick a note in there, whether it be just an I love you, and will be thinking of you.... or a note of things that I'd like to do, when he get's home (HA HA)... It brought back alot of the connection we were missing. We don't get a baby sitter but once in a blue moon, so I understand if you find yourself in a rut of not being able to go out, so for us we will... wait for the kids to go to bed.... and set up a blanket in the living room floor, eat popcorn, watch a movie and cuddle... We've gone to our bedroom and just sat and played board games, laughed like we were still young and kids... We, or well I buy cosmo and we read it together, and try out some of their ideas, just making every moment special is what brings back the romance. Taking time for each other, even if it's just a wink, or a smile... between changing diapers, it's the connection that counts... Good luck and happy romancing!! :)

I say make time for little dates out and make some romance, let grandma take the kids for the weekend or something and go away to a special b&b or a night of dancing. Talk to your husband about it, he may have some ideas too.

Start talking it out with him again. I guess there are times that romance would slumber especially when at your age you already have 3 children it somehow dampens those romantic moments. But it is always possible to rekindle the past but then you just have to make slight adjustments of course to your children since they are part of you two already.

You already have 3 children remember that always. NO problem in doing romance i cant understand whats the problem in doing romance? Hope so you have many ways to do romance if your 60 also all wish to do romance right there is no end to do romance ok

Getting away from the kids would probably be a good start because they are usually mood killers, no matter how sweet they are. Next step is to buy some sexy lingerie and wear it unexpectedly. Do little things like wear an outfit that your husband finds very attractive. You just have to be creative and you both have to be willing to do a little work.

Well, remember, it's not just on his side, it's on yours, too. Have you told him how you're feeling? Do you take special occasions and set aside times just to give to him? I think that helps a lot, you can spend all the time together and have a pretty good time, and yet when you make special time for him, it feels fun, exciting, and special. If anything, you being the first one to spark up some more romance will encourage him to do the same. If anything, just have a plain and honest conversation with him and find out how he feels, too.

Lucky for you guys you have three kids now. But since you mentioned you have a problem how to flame back the romance, why not try to go out on a date with your husband this valentines day and spend the night that only you and him are there and just keep the kids with the nanny.