Other People's Houses...
By singlemommy
@singlemommy (2955)
United States
February 2, 2009 6:02pm CST
I've heard people say before, "I would hate to see what their house looks like" just by looking at someone. Personally, I don't care about how another person's house looks, I don't live there, I don't go there, so why should I care? I know some people keep house better than others and personally, I don't keep my house spotless. With two children it is impossible to keep a house TOTALLY clean because there is always going to be a toy here or a book there, etc. So, my question to you is, do you look at people and wonder what their house looks like or are you like me and you don't really care?
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14 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
3 Feb 09
No and I don't understand the comparison. And I really really don't understand why people care. I don't care how a person dresses or keeps their home. I visit a person because of the person and nothing more. If you were to come to my house it would be all depend on the day and what I have going on. Somedays my house is shiny clean and that is usually when no one stops by. Some days it is mildly cluttered and others it looks like a hurricane buzzed thru it. I assume that all my friends are like I am....they don't care.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I really don't care what other peoples houses look like. Especially strangers. Now, obviously I would not want to go over to some ones house and have it be a complete mess and actually really dirty, but I don't judge people about it. My house is not spotless either.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
3 Feb 09
i don't really care about other people's house as well as i don't want to be a nosy person... i just want to care about my house and that is all that matters the most to me... other people's house is not really my business... how they keep it and how it looks depends on the owner... i also don't like other people commenting on my house too much as i am the one who live in it and i have the right to do anything i want inside my house... take care and have a nice day...
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@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
3 Feb 09
Hi there Mommy
Well, just like you I have also heard people make similar comments. To a certain extent I have the same opinion that you do. I do not base my opinion of how someone is as a person, on how clean they keep their house.
While my home is not dirty, it is certainly not immaculate. I am a messy person, but I am a clean one. You will find things out of place but I think that is different than things being dirty or unclean. For example, I do not leave dried food under the couch or spilled juice on the counter. That to me, is dirty if not unhealthy and could attract bugs and rodents which are something that I certainly do not want.
I agree with you, I don't judge a person by how cleanly they keep their home, but on the other hand, a person's home is one way that they present themselves to their friends and family and it does say something about who you are as a person even though it is only a small part. There are going to be people who will make a judgment about a person's character on superficial things. I can not control that, but chances are they're not somebody I want to be associated with anyway, so they're certainly free to their opinion.
As I am writing this response there is one exception to everything that I've said so far. On occasion, I do have to go to people's homes that I think are unclean. When I am forced into a situation like that I must admit, that I may be selective about where I sit and whether or not I will stay for dinner! The truth be told... There are indeed some places that I would not eat!
Now, that doesn't mean I don't like the person as an individual or even as a friend, just that I might be a little more creative in where I spend my time with them. For example I may suggest we go out to eat or that they come over to my place instead. This way I am happy and so are they.
That's just my 2ยข worth, happy Mylotting!
@sammy009 (259)
• United States
3 Feb 09
HI. No i do not look at people and wonder what there houses look like. I met people who had reall nice houses and some who did not have really nice houses. All of them are very nice people. My house is not spotless, and its onl me and my husband.
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@vonvonex (283)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
I don't care at all because in the first place, it is not my house and I don't have any rights to comment on it. But, when I go to my girlfriends hous and see all the mess in the kitchen, I help out on cleaning it because it bugs me to see a messy kitchen. Hehehehe... I also help wash the dishes if I eat at their house.
@oldboy46 (2129)
• Australia
3 Feb 09
Yes that is a sentence that I have heard numerous times and like you, I simply do not care because it has nothing to do with me. It isn't my home and I don't have to go there and even if I did, it would be to see the people and not how they are living. Our home is clean but not necessarily tidy all the time, simply because we don't always have the time to put everything away. Also as I am away from home often, my partner leaves the mail out for me to read when I come home. It might be stacked up there for some days butit is always neat until I come home and start to go through it.
My mother was a very proud woman and our place was cleaned every day, floors mopped daily, windows washed every week etc. However she used to say that anyone who always had an immaculate house did not have a home. A house is just a place where some people visit to see what others have whereas a home is where people are comfortable and can relax.
Over the years I have come to realise that Mum was right. I have visited some people and have felt so uncomfortable as everything had a place and everything was in its place. However there are other homes where I am totally at ease because the atmosphere is different and the home has that "lived in" feeling. That is my time of home.
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I don't look at people & then wonder what their house looks like, but I have made that same comment "I would hate to see what their house looks like."
The reason I have made that remark would be after someone left my house a mess & in the back of my head I would wonder becaUse they left my house a mess, so I would wonder if they leave their house the same way.
I don't look at people & point people out though...
& I also have 2 kids... I think a toy here & there doesn't mean your house is un-clean... toys are toys.. at least it's not food all over the house on the floors & so on. So who cares if toys are laying around... "WINK"
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I have looked at a few people in my life and thought that I would love to see what their house looks like, I'll admit that. The CEO of a company I worked for and saw the mortgage payments hit the books each month, people like that.
But never just your average person. That being said.... I do believe that you can tell A LOT about a person by the way they keep their house. If I were interested in learning more about a person, yes, I would want to see the inside of what they call home. I'm just a person interested in people and I like to glean information about people in a variety of different ways.
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I do not care how people keep their houses, it is their home, and how they keep it is their business. I prefer to have a house that looks lived in as opposed to a magazine house. A house is not a home, if it is not lived in. My house looks lived in, if something is out of place, it is out of place, it is not the end of the world. I do not look at other people and wonder how their house is, well that is not quite true. I am curious about the parish house at our church. I would love to see what my Pastor's house looks like Afterall, the church is paying for it.
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@zandy985186 (434)
• China
3 Feb 09
I have never cared about the house of others.Because other's life and business should neither can interfere be appraised.
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@puddytat101 (657)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Well, I've seen some pretty strange places to live. In fact, some probably need to be condemned or simply burnt down! I mean real eye sores....c'mon, clean your yard up and make it look decent, even if you're poor! You can still find ways to recycle and eliminate waste.