Do you allow your teen ager to stay in the bathroom for a long time?

Yes, I think 3 or 4 hours is definitely wayyyy too long to stay in the bathroom, not only for a teenager, but for ANYONE! My son is 14 and he was spending way too much time in the shower so we ended up buying him a timer that he sets for 10 minutes. I used to have to knock on the bathroom door to get him to turn the water off! Teenagers are strange. I'm sure I used to spend quite a bit of time in the bathroom as a teenager... testing out make-up, doing my hair, re-doing my hair & then re-doing my hair again! LoL :)

i think it's totally normal ! when i was a teenaged i did the same thing ! i'd take marathon long baths (2 - 3 hours) just to get away from my parents and have some time to myself. i was never doing anything i shouldn't be doing. i would take a book, a candle, some bubbly bath, and a glas of ice water and read. when the water would get cold i'd start over. sometimes i even wrote in my journal or listened to music. so... definitely make sure your kid isn't drowning or anything... but this isn't abnormal.. i promise ! in fact... i still do it.. haha

this maybe just me, but when i was a teen, i had conversations with imaginary people, different people at different times and moods, and sometimes i lost track of time enjoying the "conversations". maybe not hours, but more than a normal bathroom visit for sure. it could probably be sometime harmless like this, so apart from being cautious, I am hoping you don't obsess..

[i]Hi Bebs, Wow...hehehe! We really can't tell what is the mind of our youth this time! LOL! I have no kids but I have a friend also who always ask her daughter to just open her door. She is 8 yrs old and she loves to lock herself in her room all the time!My friend is not comfortable about it and her kid tell her that she is mean! LOL! If I have a kid like this, I will try my best for them to be open to me! You know,,,,maybe they have some questions about anything. They tend to explore stuff! [/i]

I think that you should allow a teenager their space especially if they're in the bathroom. I think that it would be a huge violation of privacy if you were to just bust in on them while their in the bathroom. Also you might catch them doing something that you don't want really want to see. I think that the bathroom should be a privacy zone for everyone even teenagers.

whahahaha sorry to say.. i was once like this.. like being a teenager.. i own my time right.. and its so carefree.. what i usually do that's taking me so long.. is i sit on the bowl.. then read novel.. i like it.. i don't know why.. my mom would say.. " are you done reading?!" then i laugh.. lolz and so i decide to get out the bathroom.. coz sometimes i tend to forget how long I've been there..

no i will not allow anything like that. NOT IN MY HOUSE. first we only have one bathroom so they can not stay there or live there, second they have their room, third that is not normal. i have four teen kids, and if one will manipulate me into doing things like that, then the three will do that to me also. can you imagine if i will not disipline this children of mine? so far they are good and they are doing their chores and following rules. yes of course sometimes something happened that leads to me shouting at them but so far so good.

That is really not normal. What would that teenager do at the bathroom that it would take her that long and at the time? Something must really be wrong? If I were the parent,I will investigate. She must be sleeping soundly by that time and not staying inside the bathroom. Well, I'm glad I have no problem with my son.

No, I will not allow my teen ager to stay a long time in the bathroom. It will scare me he would do something to hurt himself or whatever. I don't like to think about that but it is not good to stay inside the bathroom for a long time. I might keep on banging the door until he will open it.

Hey Bebs! I think that if a child is spending that much time in the bathroom that a parent definitely should find out what they are doing in there! Especially if they are in there for half the night! They do have to sleep sometime and get up to go to school! Parents should monitor a childs suspicious behavior! I know mine should have! lol

I don't have any kids as I am a university student and young still. However, when I was a teenager, my mom used to occasionally call out my name if I was in the bathroom for a long time. I never spent too long in the bathroom for non-bathroom activities other than talking on the phone to girls! Yes, those conversations sometimes were hours long but my mom knew what I was doing!

I opened this discussion because this is truly abnormal behavior. This isn't just going to the bathroom and showering. This individual is, more than likely, doing something he/she is not supposed to be doing. Either that, or it is depression to a new extent. The first thing that really needs to be done is his/her parent needs to talk to them about it. Though, do not be quick to judge, either. It may just be a place he/she enjoys being in. I am still in my teens and I know that even I enjoy just being alone in the bathroom (where no one bothers me) and writing in my journal/notebook among other things. The concerning issue here is the time period. Three to four hours is way too long to be doing that. I spend, usually at most, an hour in there with showering.

my daughter tries to do that i have no idea what in the world she is doing in there after 15-20 minutes i am beating on the door ordering her out of there I give her a little longer for showers but I dont let her spend more than an hour in there I hope this isnt a normal thing because I still have 4 more kids to go through the teenage years and only one bathroom

3-4 hours ..?that is really not normal.

My daughter is 15 and she takes a little longer than earlier to get ready. That is quite normal as they become conscious of their looks and want to look their best. So it is good to give them some space. But 3_4 hours is way too much and maybe a sign of something alarming which needs to be handled sensibly.