i am so jealous with my guy's officemate!

I would have thought I was reading something written about me, by me! This is just crazy! You and I both are smart, beautiful, intelligent women and we should not let our fears control us! I wish I could say, don't feel up tight about her, don't get jealous and remember that he is with you. But I am struggling with that exact same thing, and am constantly looking for a way to improve our relationship. I am married to my guy (not sure if you are married) and I just keep thinking that he is bored with me so she is something new to try on and flirt with, who laughs at his jokes and spends all day with him. It's nerve wrecking!!!! Today, however, I made up my mind to hold my head up and walk forward. Not to nag him, think about her or what they do when they are at work, or even get curious in my heart. I know it will be a struggle, but I am willing to stop being the woman he hates me to be, needy and possessive and jealous.... Maybe we can hold our heads up together and walk the walk of proud women who have already conquered love in our guys and are willing to fight for them tooth and nail but not to lose ourselves in the process?? It is worth a try, what do you think? It's better when you have support! I wish you luck! Remember you are beautiful and worth loving, otherwise he would not be with you :)

Always remember, there is still something missing in another girl that I think you have that is why your guy sticks with you until now.. Yes, she is prettier, smarter, outgoing as compared with you but all those would not be enough if the guy thinks that it would not make her happy. You just have to make sure you spend enough time to your guy so he would not have the time to get closer to another girl or dream of her. But, if something bad happens do not regret of losing him. Losing him will soon make you realize that if it did not happen, you won't meet the right man.

you know what , i hate to hit you with a bat to wake you up but here it goes. it simply shows that you are selfish, you are not understanding and most of all you do not trust your mate. if you love your mate then learn to understand the situtaion and most of all learn to trust, more. in any case, it has not happenned yet so why are you badgering yourself with all this none sense running around your head! you should stop watching a lot romantic movies, it is getting into you. girl, start growing up.

Hello girl, i know how it feels getting so insure because of the other person and the reason why you get insecure is because you have your fears that your man will fall for her. This is just normal but if I were you don't over do it because your guy may feel that you do not trust him. Guys seem to be attractive with a beautiful face but i bet your man loves you because there is something in you that he didn't find in some other girls. Be friend his office mate before you know it she maybe beautiful but doesn't have any personality. Hope this helps.

Get a hold of yourself girlll, I doubt he has any interest in being with her, he is just forced to work with her and that is no one's fault. I doubt she wants to be with him either, people have their separate lives and I doubt they would even try to mesh them together. If you know that your boyfriend loves you, then you should not worry at all. My boyfriend has a very attractive girl he is coworkers with in the Swedish navy, and they have to sleep in the same room each night, along with another guy. I have doubt about this though, I know that he loves me with everything he has got and would not even think about her like that, I doubt she would either. I am sure that your boyfriend will be just as faithful, don't worry about it.

Our own thoughts usually break our hearts. It's just normal to get jealous and men felt flatterred knowing this as long as not so excessive that annoyed them. By just reminding him your worries and be yourself letting him feel your love and your trust, I think he'll remain to be faithful. You have the edge over her, she's only an officemate and you're his girlfriend. As long as you remain to be you, the girl she wanted and loved that would differ than the girl she used to see most of the time since she's an officemate. Be more caring, thoughtful and loving and show him you worth to be his girl, trust him and pray to God to bless and keep your relationship and next time, we'll be happy to read and know you're an altar bound.

I expressed to my boyfriend how I felt that a lot of his friends that are girls are better looking than me and have um better or bigger assets than I do. And he told me that doesn't matter and like yours said that I should stop thinking about that because he loves me not them, so i am working on not being jealous. Try to remember that he is with you; try talking to him again and tell him it is really something that concerns you that he may choose her over you.

you have to trust your mate and hope he will not cross the line you have realize you are sexy and out going as well.and you are condfident within your self you have nothing to be jealous about.but a woman is not stupid she has gut feeling about things so don,t just dismiss your feeling so quickly but remain neutral how you feel at the same time.

You should let it go or it will make matters worse.

May be you r imagining things as he said.., it normally happens when you r jealous.. Take my advice.! keep all those imaginations on the side, and start observing your husband behaving normal n romantic with him as if you were with him before office girl came into picture... then make a note of changes that he has made in his personal life after meeting her.. if the changes r major,strange,he keeps questions unreplied. Eg:..change in hes office timings, un described meetings..etc..! then may be chances r that he is having affair.. N u have to keep a deep eye on him, n should convey it to him only after you catch him RED HANDED.. Good luck! KEEP IN TOUCH !

Hi, Do u think Boys only go for the outward beauty?smartness etc?Inner beauty(which can only be felt)has no impact?U r wroong dear then.Donot feel insecured, U must have that INNER BEAUTY uncompareable--I'm SURE! =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

relax... i dont think your boyfriend has any interest with his officemate.. and plus dont let your insecurities eat you up.. hehehe when am jealous.. what i usually think is this.. "baby when your out in the club, dont think am not.. coz baby when your out making love, just dont think am not.. coz when your feeling good in somebodys spot dont stop.. just dont think am not.. " hehehe i even told my husband this and he wouldnt dare to cheat on me.. coz he knows what i do.. hehehe though i really cant do it.. hehehe but i just pretend that i aint affected and am tough.. hehehe

Dear Donna , I think you don't need to worry.You are beatiful girl, so enjoy your relationship and don't always think about that it's can make you stress.Believe and trust in him.You can do that girl.Take care

Boys will be boys? So are you saying that your bf is NOT a man? Look honey, boys can be boys though it doesn't mean they can just be dogs. You might just be jealous and imagining things. You shouldn't just take this from anyone. I know I never have and I never thought that if I was with someone he would just be cheating on me whenever he can. I think that's pathetic and to label it as boys will be boys. That is such and cop out and you shouldn't put yourself down like that. You're worth more than you think, and no one should treat you like that.

Yeah i know how it feels.. but don't be insecure, girl.. your insecurities will just affect your relationship with your boyfriend and don't let that happen.. i mean, if you can really feel that he's faithful then there's no need to worry..

Don't be jealous now. I can your photo and i can say you're a cute lady. And i think you're pretty smart too! There's really no reason for you to be insecure about things that you already have like beauty and brain. Much more, when everybody knows that he is your boyfriend. Do you think some ladies aren't jealous of you? Maintain high self-esteem then you'll be fine. I'm curious as to how sexy that other girl may be. Hehe, just kidding!

just believe your partner, and just observ him!..ok?.. Pray God.

I say you should keep trust on the person whom you love. If you see them in suspicious manner you will suffer. So please believe in whom you love and pray for God . You must have a social nature. In this century if a boy talks to a girl they will create some nonsense. But most of the cases they are only good friends. So have trust and proceed. good luck.

There are just two things attached. 1.Who your patner is.2.How you take or see things. If your guy wants to leave he does not need to see someone else everyday before he does that(although that could make it faster).But if he does not want to leave.Even if they are sleeping on thesame bed and you are on the other side of the globe he will still not leave you.So it depends on your guy really. On ur part you just need to be honest with yourself. As a guy i can tell you that beauty does not count much in true affection - u'll always be the best in his site. So you just try not to offend him or make him think you don't love him. And don't be too jealous. Because that could make him want to look at what you are jealous about. BE YOURSELF AND BE HONEST AND WAIT TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS .....I WISH YOU AL THE BEST

I don't think you should worry about this so much. I know that's easier said than done. Maybe it would help to think about the things that you and your man enjoy about each other. Obviously he's with you because he wants to be. I know that it's hard, but worrying about his officemate isn't going to help anything. And questioning him about it will be more likely to cause problems in your relationship than it will be to help anything. I completely understand your thinking that the more time they spend together the more likely they will be to fall in love. But just because she has good qualities doesn't mean that he will want to be with her more than you. Besides, does your boyfriend even find her as pretty, smart, sexy, etc. as you do? He might not even be interested in her if he was available, nevermind already being in a great relationship with you! The bottom line is that obsessing about her and asking him about her is not going to help you keep him. You should focus on your relationship and keep it strong!