Do you have an open communication with your parents? Especially with your father

i was raised by my grandparents. Both have passed away now. When i read your post i can relate to your feeling of around father being scared or shy. I also felt that way about my grandfather all my life. Even though i loved him. He was very quiet and hardly ever said anything unless it was to support our grandma side of things. "Do as your grandma says." "Dont talk back to your grandma.",etc. Years later i annilized this fear. I believe it was the constant words from my grandma; "Im going to tell your granddad." She never did but she instilled a fear of him. So he never had to say much. I dont know if it ever was planned that way but it worked quite well to keep us in line. I feel that i had too much fear that i didnt really have a good relationship with grandpa because of it.

I do have a good relationship with my parents. My mom and I are like best friends and talk about anything and everything. My dad and I talk and have a good relationship, but we arent as close as he is with my brother and that is okay.

i am sorry for your loss. my condolences to you and to your family. as for the discussion, i am very distant with my father though my mom used to tell me that i am a daddy's girl but i ended right after i found out he has a mistress. though eveything's fine and forgiven, i still chose to be distant to him. i don;t know why. i can't find in my heart to forgive him.

I am close to my mother and I communicate with her very often. My father I rarely speak to. I think he did a crappy job at raising us the little bit of time when he was around. We only visit for holidays.

Hello Theresaaiza! I must say that my father and I have a good relationship. However, there are things that I prefer telling my mom and not to him. My father and I share a lot of things in common. We share some common hobbies too. But then again, when it comes to certain things, I do not open up to him that much. What's great about it is that he understands and he is even the one who convinces me to tell my such things to my mother instead.

i am not open to my father..but i love my father so much..my father is a disciplinarian and he is really strict the reason why i am afraid to him most of the time..

i am so sorry to hear about your mom. Anyways, i grew up without having a father at my side thus it is obvious that we aren't close. In fact, i hated him so much. I wont tell you the detailed story but it's something that he abandoned us for someone. The hatred grows deeper until I've found out that it's not healthy to have that feeling for a logn time. A few years back i started to forgive him and started to get in touch with him. I just realized that we can't deny the fact that we only have one father. God or bad, let us just be thankful we still have time to make peace and time to show the love we had for them. Life is too short, try to get close to him and you'll find yourself sharing more moments and stories together.

We do have an open communication with my parents but as you said, we tend to be closer with my mother than my father. I think it's because fathers are known to be detached (but doesn't mean they don't love us) while moms are known to be emotionally linked with the kids.

Me not really things jut dont stay the same as they once were and you finally see the true side of a person when u look back at it all.

I would have to say I am closer to my mom than my dad. I consider my mom to be my best friend. There are a lot of things that I can tell my mom that I would never tell my dad. I wish my dad and I were closer, but I didn't get to spend much time with him when I was little. I don't feel I know him very well.

I'm so sorry for your lost...sadly,I don't have an open communication with both my parents.I've tried,though,but they're the type who think they always know better and children for them are there to always listen and obey...but that's all in the past because I've learned to accept that there are things you can't change no matter what... Now that I have my own family,I make sure that my relationship with my daughter is relaxed.I spend a lot of quality time with her and she knows that she can always speak her mind up and share with us her views on anything.

I am sorry to hear about your mom. with me and my dad, we used to make jokes on each other but I am not that open to him with my problems because I am shy. But If i were in your situation, I would come to him since only the two of you are left behind. You might regret something someday when you do not get close to him.

During my childhood, I was not that close to my parents too. In my thoughts, I was thinking that my parents were too strict and even would shout to me whenever I made a mistake. Things change when I grow up and I have been busy studying at another city. I am not sure how this happen but I feel closer and closer to my parents. Sometimes, I feel that my parents are my friends where we can share, discuss, and even joke one another. I am happy and grateful to be given such a family.

My Dad is a good listener. I love to talk with him and have some discussion about my life, politics, films, food, and so on. Sometime I miss him because he gives me a lot of suggestion to be kind people. Me and my dad has the same favorite foods. I always go out to have dinner in our favorite place, I think my dad is great dad. Some conversation that I enjoy with my dad are education, religion, and so on. With my mom I tell about my feelings, my sadness and happiness, how to cook something, and about my sister and my brother but not about education. I'm very lucky to have them in my life. My mom and my dad is one of my precious peoples in my life.

With my mom yes. My dad doesn't scare me. He mostly makes me angry. No I don't have communication with him. We barely talk because he knows nothing about me. And never really tried to find out. I talk to my mom daily. She is probably the best friend I've got.

I do. We always talk and discuss things. We even talk about family secrets and problems. I'm closer with my mom though. My dad is more reserved and shy. Plus he's not tech savvy so when I'm away from home we don't talk much. He has to wait for my mom to o online before he can "chat" with me. I think these days technology knowledge is so important because it helps to keep people connected all the time.

i do.. am married.. but every day.. me and my mom would always talk.. and my dad.. he would just but in and would like to ask about my kids.. but if he has problems or he needs something.. i wouldn't wonder anymore that he will be the one to contact me right away.. hehehe

I'm working on this open communication with my dad. He is quite serious all the time but make jokes but I can't start to make fun of him. I just don't know why. Maybe I just respect him as my father or something. He is the person that I can talk to about life and business and maybe some problems.

you all seem really lucky.... my dad is just a flat out (i hate the mylot censor)

i can feel what u feelin' right now coz that's what also am wondering with my father..good thing is i still have my mom that i could open up to whatever may my problem is.my dad and i are not really open to each other unlike my younger sister,they are close.but we aren't in troubles anyway,it's just that i have a hard time to be with my dad..and i don't like my relationship with my dad would still be like that my dad is not getting any younger so i decided to make my own ways to be a little close with him,gradually.for example i cooked his fave food and buy some stuffs that he likes.and one time i asked a little favor from him and he gave it!well i know it's a start to build a good communication to my dad..y not tried it?i know our dad just wait us to our approach..