Will I Be Alone For The Rest Of My Life? Really?

whoa.. Girl I think your lucky taht you got out before it progressed to abuse. YHour ex sounds like a complete control freak. What ever you do don't let his hurtful words get to you. You are loved by people and I'm sure that even if you don't every marry again (and i'm not saying you won't) that you'll still live a happy and healthy life. I gave up years ago on finding a husband, but I'm trying to live life to the fullest and if in the future I do find a mate, hey great! What I'm saying don't let anyone control your life or your hapiness. (this is the depressed girl giving advice on being happy, now if I could just learn to be happy)

Wow...what a man he is! Honey...I say you are much better off! There is no one in the world that should have to put up with that type of verbal abuse! I will tell you a little story...hope it helps. I too am recently divorced. My ex used to be very cruel to me as well. I finally threw in the towel when I found out he was cheating on me. I can tell you I was feeling very down as well but you dont have to be alone...unless that is what you want to be. I will say that you need to start you healing process by doing things that make you happy as a person. I know that is sometimes hard to do when you are feeling down but I assure you when you are truly happy with yourself and your life someone will come into your life when you least expect it...and it will be better than you could have ever expected! Good luck and keep your head up...your worth it all!!!

wow your husband has a lot of pain and anger in his heart. so after the divorse he is the only one who has the right to be happy? EXCUSE ME!!! i am a mom, a single mom of four children. and a life with my ex-husband is not even considered as a life. so if this is the price i have to pay for being alone then i rather be alone to be with someone like him. there are a lot of man who got interested with me. but i was the one who told them that i am too busy working for my children. i need to feed them and i need to send them to school. of course someone will love you even you have a child and you dont have work.... but nobody who will love your ex-husband because he is a pain in the neck. and having a child does not mean that you are alone. you will find someone in Gods given time. you dont need to rush. plan for your child right now and be the best mom you can ever be. you will find someone.

You will not be alone for the rest of your life, I can just about guarantee that.. You have a great personality, you are a good mother, a strong woman, a very nice looking woman, a christian woman, a woman with values, morals and so much love to give.. There are many men who are looking for a woman with these qualities.. So, no, you will not be alone forever, however, you will be alone for awhile until you meet the right person.. So, enjoy it as long as you can, single life is not all that bad, especially when you have a perfect little girl to take care of, love and raise, enjoy her and life will all fall in place.. I am sure this is the advice that all of your Mylot friends are going to give you, so trust us, all will be fine for you.. And as far as your ex, he has to take some of the blame for himself, he is responsible for not standing up for you and your child and for not telling his dad to butt out, just wait and see, he is the one that is going to have trouble finding someone that will have him.. Good luck to you and don't let it get you down, take care of that little girl and spend good quality time with her, you will not be sorry about doing that..

friend I know you believe in God so as for miracles remember hge is still inh the miracle business so never say NEVER HE MAY JUST HAVE A SOUL MATE JUST AROUND THE CORNER

Your husband is just looking for reasons to make himself feel better and to justify his actions of wanting to leave you. He comes across as an insecure person and he is wanting others around him feel insecure. People bully others due to their own insecurity. And the fact that he takes his life decisions based on what his dad says, just reinforces the point.Whatever he says to you shouldn't matter. He should know how to treat women better. With this attitude, he should be the one who should be asking the question if he will be alone for the rest of his life. Marriage is not an obligation and whatever he is trying to tell you is a load of nonsense. I don't think he is the right man for you anyway. You should be independent and try to look for a job and also take care of the baby. Lots of women do it and you can do it too. You need to be confident and tough. I do realise that the circumstances are not easy, but confidence and belief in yourself would conquer anything in the world. Anything! And whatever you are wanting to achieve is very much possible. And nobody is perfect. Everyone has their own flaws and likewise they have their strengths too. You should concentrate on your strengths,be positive and boost your self esteem up. Doubts are your enemies, don't forge an alliance with them! Positivity attracts positive things and negativity attracts negative things. So it is your choice of what you want to attract. As Henry Ford says, "If you think you can... or if you think you can't... you're right!" I suggest that you shake off what others try to say to you and become free and independent. Marriage is not about being dependant, its about being interdependant and that is possible when you become individually independant. You will get the perfect man for you if you want and Rome wasn't built in a day so it takes patience, courage, confidence and positivity. Take one step at a time. You have the responsibility of taking care of your baby and she should look up to you and see a confident and a strong woman. Just go for it! Its your life!

This is a very touching story of yours. How could he say such things to you when the love has turned sour and the marriage fallen apart. Doesn't he remember the beautiful and passionate moments he shared with you? His action to chase you and your kid from the house is inhuman. Even animals have strong compassion but this man is nothing but a savage beast! And who is he to predict what lies ahead of you? And you seem to take his words as bible truth and surrender yourself to his negative thoughts about you. By saying such things to you he is trying to cover up his weaknesses and it should instead spur you to bounce back and proof him wrong that you are someone far better than what he thought and make him regret his actions for life. Do not be consumed by his words. He is a loser from the beginning to the end. Let God punish this man who acted against His law. All is not lost for you, miraclefreebies, when love has brought you loss and pain. There is refuge! It is God! Seek God and he will restore your soul, for so He has promised. With soul restored, the world takes on new meaning. The love which you were ready to give and which seemed for a long time not to be wanted - finds that it is needed - many times - in many places-by many people! For when you trust in God, your love and marriage problems begins to change. When you have faith that God wants you to have a happy marriage, a new peace enters your soul. The way of love and marriage is the way of God. God never closes a door open upon any love, but to open it upon another. Just remember your prayers and talk to God your inner feelings. He will find that person who will share your love and future.

Don't listen to him. There is nothing wrong with you and there is no reason why a real man would not want you. From what I have read about him, he is not really a man. I am a single mom of 2. I was single for about 4 years before I met my daughters father and I was fine with it. I was not looking for a man. I have been single for over 2 years now. I am fine with that too. I don't (and you don't either) need a man to make your life worth anything. Keep your head up, stay strong for your baby, and keep on living your life the way you want.

I just don't understand how your ex can say all those things to you, does he think he's the world's greatest man or something, he thinks your nothing without him. Like I said before, I know it hurts, but your probably better off without him, I wouldn't want someone telling me all the time that I'm worthless, and nobody else would want me, thats verbal abuse. I would say that yes, at least you do have your beautiful daughter, and you need to concentrate on taking care of her for now. I can't say that this has happened to me before I did get cheated on by a man I truly loved for two years, and he acted like he didn't do anything wrong, like I didn't know about it. It really hurt, and I didn't think I would ever love anyone again, or that I could find someone that loved me back, but a few years later I met my husband, and we've been happily married for almost 6 yrs.now. It did take me awhile to get over the cheating boyfriend, but I did, and I know that with time, you will also, so don't give up on love, there is someone out there thats looking for you, someone who shares the same beliefs and morals you do.

Well girl, you will never be alone for as long as you remain in faith. God is always there for you. That is one great trial in your life but I know God will see you through all this. You do not deserve that man. Trust that this terrible event that happen in your life will turn for your own good in the end. You have a daughter and that alone is a big thing to be thankful about. You can survive my dear, don't worry, just trust God!

hey miraclefreebies, try to use the mantra of AIM, to attract more men. just chant it 108x a day. just believe and it will happen. chant it and imagine the kind of relationship that you want in life.

It only seems like that at first. I felt the same way when I got divorced, which is about 18 years and 5 or 5 boyfriends ago. So cheer up and be happy you rid of him. He didn't sound like a very nice guy anyways, and there is lots of guys who like children.

Who wants a woman with a child? Plenty of men! Who wants some one who doesn't have a job? Lets rephrase that question. Who wants a woman who is willing to sacrifice her personal pleasures and independence for the welfare of her children and family, but does a few things on the side to earn something for those little extras? Plenty of men! Your soon to be ex-husband (hooray!!!) has spent the time with you demeaning you, belittling you, shaking your self confidence...and the list goes on and on. The correct question is, Who wants a man like that? NO ONE. You highly doubt if you'll get lucky again a second time? Girlfriend, you haven't gotten lucky the first time, other that gaining a beautiful child out of the deal. What kind of man kicks his family out? Just look at his father, who apparently has no problem doing that to his own grandchild. It's going to take some time to heal from this experience...but you will. And each step you make will rebuild your pride and self confidence. For the time being, concentrate on beautiful you and that beautiful child you have. Be selfish for the both of you. Don't rush into another relationship until you are ready, if you are ready. After you start getting on your feet, you may LIKE your life the way it is. One thing I would suggest if you are up to it, is joining Parents Without Partners, http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/ They have a wonderful organization offering support, resources and companionship for single parents.

Your better off without him!!! He's said those things because he wanted you to feel bad & make him feel like he had achieved something. The good thing is you managed to get out of there. Don't listern to him, I was a single parent & I got married to my soul mate in 2007. Keep smiling, look after your baby who will bring you all the happiness in the world & when it's right, your soul mate will turn up. Don't look for it thou as you'll miss it, things happen for a reason, normally for the right ones x Best wishes to you and baby for the future x

That's too bad he has to be like that! It seems evident that by putting YOU down, he seems to think that makes him a better person. Really though, it just shows what kind of person he is deep down inside: insecure and vindictive. Also, the word controlling and mysoginist comes to mind too. I applaud you for being a stay at home Mom, and also for having your own set of religious beliefs. Please don't ever feel that what he says is true though. Like they say 'for every pot there is a lid' and someday you will find the type of person who doesn't put you down, and values you for the real you. When somebody feels the real spirit of love for you, they will love you enough to treat your child with love and respect too. And yes, I have felt this way before too. In the long run, it's good to be rid of such a fellow who has no respect for women like that, and personally speaking, we're much better off without somebody like that in our lives. Just keep being the best you that you can be, keep believing in God and love, be happy with yourself and the way God made you, and you might be nicely surprised one day. True love usually happens when you're not looking for it and you least expect it. As far as being happy alone...we have to be able to be happy with ourselves, and by ourselves, before we can open our hearts to love another. I'd rather spend my days alone than be with the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Stay strong and may God bless!!

your husband has some real serious issues in his childhood, i would assume. He just can't accept the fact that you won. people are like this if they are rejected or they felt that they lost. my dear, that chapter of your life has ended so let it stay in the past only to be remembered and not to go back to. i know it is kinda hard for you. do you know what he did? he had suggestively put a curse on you and psychologically if a person is emotional and you heard something from someone that struck you , you will think that it will be or is true. my dear, it is subliminal and you have to believe that it is not true at all. anyone can be someone whom they want to be, no one and no one can tell who you are and what will become of you. where you ok before you knew him? i would say yes, so what is the difference now that the monster is out of your life. does it feel good now that he is not around to say such abusive words? of course,YES! so, what is stopping you to be who you are? he said those things to despise you, he does not want you to be successful than he is, he wants you down begging for him. girl, you have a full life ahead of you. someday, mark my word , you will find someone better than him. someone who believe and respect the way you are. someone who would protect you and be by your side when the rain starts to pour. this is no fairy tale. but you know there is one thing true about fairy tales, all you have to do is to believe in yourself and everything will become magical in your life. let him rut in his own misery, that is his reality. and do not worry because worrying only makes your life miserable. ask yourself this what would you like to be? to be happy or be miserable the rest of your life? you do not have any choice but to be happy . so, move on and work on it. there is no turning back. this is your chance to be YOU. i am cheering for ya,girl!

I think a lot of us have felt that way. It's a very normal reaction after what just happened to you. Your life has taken a very sudden and unexpected turn so you've been thrown off your feet, you know, like a rug being pulled out from under you. You have one of the most wonderful personalities I've ever met, miracle! I mean that... and I've met a LOT of people in my 56 years on this planet! It won't take long before it's noticed by many, many others. You have the kind of personality that an HONEST, SINCERE, LOVING man would want. Besides, both you and your daughter are so darned cute! I wouldn't suggest going out an looking for a man, just enjoy what you have for the moment. I honestly don't believe that you'll be single for long! Oh, you may date a few guys along the way, but I truly believe, deep down in my soul, that you are going to meet your soulmate. I've been married before, you know, and I had two kids. I had PLENTY of marriage proposals! Well, okay, a few. I could pick and choose. There are a lot of honest, caring men in the world (although they do hide themselves pretty well) and I don't see you being a single mom for long! DO NOT let that scum of a soon-to-be ex-husband pull you down! "Jealous people try to belittle the skills of others." He is jealous of you! He definitely has some serious mental issues to allow himself to be lead like he is by his father, AND the fact that he wants nothing to do with your daughter except to show her off on Sundays! He threw HER out, too. Any man who would do that to his baby daughter is a disgusting, disturbed, inhumane loser! He's just trying to bring you down so he'll feel better about himself. That type of man can't possibly feel good about who he is unless he's pulling others down. Some people use reason, others (like him) have to use brute force (even if it is just emotional force) because they're too stupid to be able to use reason. Nah, don't you worry about anything, miracle. You're gonna do okay. I've been called 'psychic' before and I will admit that I have a pretty good intuition about things. I do not see you being single for long!

My goodness! This supposed man you were married to is certainly hateful and evil. Why does he want to hurt you so badly? That to me is just evil. I hope you are seaking some professional counseling and that you do not take in these awful things he is saying. I really hope so. For your own better well being. And even your childs.

Do not listen to anything that man tells you, at this time he is the enemy. As the years go by, since you have a child together, you may even become friends, but right now it's best just to ignore as much as you can. Life brings what you need to learn and if it's to be alone then treasure your independence and learn to enjoy what your situation is. Even when things get hard, which they will as any single Mom can tell you, dwell on the good things in life and enjoy your child.

I have felt this way before. It was when I first moved to PA. I had just broken up with my live in boyfriend. I thought he was the only person that would ever love me. I got used to the idea of being alone and was happy about it. I finally felt like I didn't need anyone but myself to be happy. Then I met my (now ex) husband. That ended but now I'm happier then I've ever been in my life with my kids and my fiance (their daddy). I believe in the sayings "good things come to those who wait" and "good things happen to good people". It will happen for you, eventually. It's just way too soon to be thinking about it right now. Just focus on you and your baby for now. That's all you really need now anyway. You'll find someone when the timing is right. You'll prove him wrong someday.