my husband is driving me crazy!

It really is odd how much we get used to having our own lives when our husbands are away. My husband went threw a spell not to long go where he was working 16 hours a day 7 days a week, and we never seen each other... He finally had enough of working like that and went to another job, and now he's home more. I love him dearly but dang, he sure can drive me nuts. But I know the feeling is mutal, he had his routine, I had mine and now it's coming to a common ground so we both can live with each other again, it's been almost like starting all over again.

bless your heart! my husband is off two days a week and he gets on my nerves too but i love him so anyhow. you know what i do when he gripes about stuff i cook or fix? i tell him to make it his self. oh and a trick i learned about the tv, you know you can lock certain channels and put a code on it that he cant figure out. hehe thas mean but you could watch your shows. i done that one time to my hubby it drove him nuts! i hope yours finds a job soon so you can have your quiet time.

I dare say your retirement years are not looking very good are they? LOL What you may consider here is his point of view. I know after having all that piece and quiet this is difficult for you to adjust but consider the adjustment he is making. Now I spent most of my working career at a desk. Your husband spent it on the road going her and going there. While not always exciting I am sure he was presented with something new often and it kept him going. Now what does he look forward to. Not much. I do agree he needs to be more considerate of you. You had your routine and he has messed that up but perhaps if he better understood your adjustment he could make some compromises for you. I don't know him so this is all just guess work but the only way we ever work anything out is through communication and you really need that now don't you. Good luck to you and him in finding another job.

haha I feel your pain. When my husband was sick over the Christmas period for three weeks, boy was it a long three weeks. I couldn't do a lot of what I normally do when I'm home by myself LOL He's away overseas for a month, so that makes up for it LOL I miss him though!

when my husband was in between jobs for 5 months (i was at work) i guess i'm pretty lucky we was not a bother. he always found something to do. and bought a puppy that time. so basically his day comprises of playing with the pup, cleaning house, cooking, and when there is a schedule, go into interviews. i try not to bother him about it. as i know he's making an effort. and i kinda know he was burned out from his old job so i think he also savored his "vacation" time. maybe if he's in a good mood, your husband can do some projects in the house. gardening, or fixing stuff. something he could take his mind off the tv. your husband may act that way because he is kind of being defensive of out of the job. like before you can retort something about it, he pulls a fast one on you, like criticizing something you did so you'd be too busy dfending yourself than mind his situation. really, men can act like children sometimes! lol! good luck....

The joys of married life! lol

I will call it a very common thing. When at work, your husband would have been interested in working, taking rest and having some quality time with you. He would get all these in small chunks of time. But now that he is at home, he has got plenty of time. A regular worker earlier, it would be very difficult for him to pass time. I think its just a bit of frustration that he has developed now. As soon as he gets a new job, everything will be fine and as good as it were before. And then you'd again get the hold on your kingdom (your house) and your fingers dancing on the TV remote. All the Best!

I can relate, not that my husband was laid off from truck driving but that he is a truck driver and when he comes home it has been times that he has gotten on my nerves and I couldn't wait for him to go back otr. I know that sounds mean when your husband spends so much time out there on the road trying to make a decent, honest, living and then when they come home you can't wait until they are gone. It's not that I don't appreciate my husband its just that he complains so much at times, it must be in a truck drivers code of conduct. I just know a lot of truck drivers and they seem to all have coming home complaining in common. My suggestion is help him find another truck driving job and fast, hearing constant complaining from someone is extremely nerve wrecking.

oh I hear you Sweetpeasmom... I have been there, the month of January my husband did not work at all, there was no work he would go in and they would send him home... they said we will call you when we have something, so he was home everyday... ugh!!!! We have a small house and 4 people live here, and we were tripping all over each other, which is fine, but it is cold and we are closed in, and since he wasnt working I started to look online to find work on here... and he was over my shoulder every step of the way!! He started a job this past week, but he is still going to look for something else, but until that "something else" comes along he will work here...and he has been gone all day... I kinda got use to the help he was giving me with the kids, LOL --cant win them all can ya!! LMAO have a great day!!

I thought I would go crazy when my husband retired from work! From having been away six days in the week he was at home all the time, wanted to change everything, could not be alone for a moment... He was very restless and bored. It took him about a year to get used to the new situation and find other things to do, but I must say I am sometimes happy I have my job to go to.

My husband has been out of work twice for extended period because of surgery. The first time we didn't have kids so I just kind of dealt with it and said well he doesn't feel good and moved on. But the second time we had three (yes, three) kids and I was working, doing all the cooking and the cleaning and he was doing all the whining and complaining. I finally had enough one day (it takes me a while to get mad enough to do something) and I sat down with him and told him straight out that he was driving me nuts and that he was either going to have to listen to how and why he was driving me crazy and stop it or he was going to have to have an extended vist with one of our parents. I told him I felt like he had higher expectations of what he thought I should do than I could ever hope to live up to (even if they invented 48 hour days) and that he needed to learn how to be appreciative of what was being done around him and for him and see what kind of sacrifices were being made on his behalf. We had a very long talk (and I'll admit I was harsh), but he has begun to see that not everyone can do what he does, the way he does, as fast as he does and he sees too that he has to value people for who they are and see what they are able to do. Now we operate a team not a dictatorship (which wasn't working too much for him anyway since I am rebellious by nature). You should sit down with your hubby and tell him things are tough for both of you right now but both of you will have to make compromises so that each of you is able to get something you want and need and so that you can have a life you can live that won't cause you to commit bodily harm. Such conversations are rarely fun, but I have found that it helps you both see things from the other person's perspective and you can see how what you're doing is affecting those around you (maybe in ways you didn't realize).