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Ever heard of the experiment with lice? Or was it ticks? The experiment goes such that when a tick is left to bounce on its own, it will go to quite a height at its peak jump. Put that tick in a container that is half the height of its peak jump for a period of time, it will only jump to that height and no higher even after it was released from the container. Repeat the experiement with a container that is half the height of the original and the same results ensue. The tick will now jump no higher than the last container it was captured in. If you repeat the experiment enough times, the tick will eventually not jump very high at all! I guess we are all ticks in a container. When we are first fresh out of school, we had a lot of ambitions. And a lot of energy to do a lot of things. After a few years of working, we are sort of like the tick being put in a container. And being kept in that container after a while, our ambitions and energy wanes and we only aspire to do so much. Which is so much less than what we originally thought we could when we first graduated. That is why I say you must enjoy your youth my friend. 5 years may not be alot to you at your age. Give it 5 years down the road, you will be singing a different tune! I know. Cos I was right where you were 5 years ago! So go! Go pursue your dreams when you still have that energy! In your twenties, your body is so much stronger. Come past the 30 year mark, and it is different. And I cannot imagine how much the body will change when I past the 40 year mark. So, go! Enjoy your youth! Othewise, like you said, I wanna explore the world, i will go round the world while i'm still young ... if i dun fulfil my goals and dreams, i will be sure to regret it in life and i will feel like i'm living my life in vain

Hi Kun2349,I could totally understand how you feel as your relatives do not agreen with you,I simply have the same problem as you,My parents and relatives always try to convince me to marry and start a family earlier,but I know I am not ready,there are many things ahead want me to accomplish,I just can not do what they want me to do.there are our goals and dreams ahead of us,the burdens are too much that we just can not take any more,they could not understand why,Maybe generation gap is where the rub is I guess. besides,we are still young and we need to be free,if you start a family,you will never be as free as single. It's too hard to convince them to understand us,keeps trying anyway. Good luck

No disrespect, but that was rather rude of your uncle to say you were stupid. Isn't it your life and your decision on what you want to do in life? Everybody is different. Some want to get married when they are younger, some when they are older, and some not at all. You seem to know what you want in life. Your family should be happy for you. Or at least be understanding of your decision.

I don't think you should reject everything he says; neither should you accept everything!~ HahaI understand what you mean when our family members try to "impose" things, hahaI have a registered company of my own, my wife & I work freelance, we do online selling as well. Well, I've been labeled "laid back", hahaDon't worry too much about that, somrtimes the way the older generation think is just different. The way they think is - you have to work 9-5 everyday, the more you get a raise, the richer you are!~ That's a typical employee's mentality. If you want to be a business owner, entrepreneur or even philanthropist, you've got to go beyond that. Never ever be subdued by a dream breaker; yet also remember is a very important factor as time & tide wait for no man!~ Always make plans for he who do not plan has already planned to fail!~

Hi Kun, my friend! It is totally very personal, and you are entitled to your decision and what you want to do in your life, and how do you intend to live it. If you don't mind, i would like to know how old are you? (you can pm me instead if you want to tell me - he he ).. or at least an idea - early 20s? late 20s? early 30s? - - my take is that you certainly have many plans and goals and there's no one stopping you for that. Go for it! Marrying for me is not planned. Some will say, i want to get married at 25. But there's no one around that person at that time, and ended up marrying later. Some also have said I want to marry on my later years.. say 30 something.. but on their early 20s, they met someone already they forget about their plan and ended up marrying at that early. What i am saying is, we may plan this and plan that, but really, when you see and meet and finally have that special someone, who will come to your life in an unexpected time and before you know its, its instantly there, and when you are ready at that instant, then there's no one who can hinder you. So there's really no rush. While you are not there yet, there's no need to hurry! I certainly admire you for your determination to push for the fulfillment of your dreams. NO matter what they will say, even family members, its really up to you to stand up. In this way, you enjoy life without hesitation. You are a very mature person the way I see it, and your perspective in life is very admirable. Keep it up!

I would say is all Chinese mentality ,that our elder would always encourage youngster to ask two similar Question I believe. -When are you getting married? -Do you have a girlfriend already? -You suppose to start a family already ..You are almost 30 years of age? I had similar Question When I go for Weeding dinner,Elders birthday or Chinese New Year.I Believe I Chinese Culture.Due Elder are afraid of us getting being single. Take the a rest on the feedback..Be positive..When is time is time : D

I was the same way when it came to my life and still am with no regrets at all. I come from a family of teachers so you can imagine the disappointment in some when I chose not to go on to college. My dreams were different than yours but my own just the same. Did they all turn out as I'd envisioned....nope but I still don't regret my choices....I learned much. Had I listened to the others, I'd have always been miserable and wondering what might have been. I always worked and took care of my own and so felt no reason to oblige to or answer to anyone else. I just took the longer more scenic route...the way I see it. As long as you are not depending on others to provide for you financially , then I see no reason at all why you should not pursue your dreams. Self-reliance is key here as to whether or not you are right here.

Hi kun. I guess it's called generation gap between you and yr uncle. You know what? A lot of young men here have to rent a gf when the Chinese New Year comes, coz their families are urging them to get married. I remember when my ex took me to meet his family and then before I graduated, they told us to get married and I felt exactly the same as you. NoNoNo, I am gonna see the world and I have so much to explore. Your dreams and goals are what you get up in the morning for. My parents want me to be a teacher and they say it's a good profession since teachers get a lot of holidays. All ppl ask me why not be a teacher since I have that qualification. At first I will explain to them and then I got really tired of this question! Nope, it's not my cup of tea. SO here I am, working in a foreign invested corp and I don't regret it. It's your life and see what's happening here, wowo, you have so many ppl, young ppl agreeing with you. Cheers!

While I totally agree with you your upfront focus is pursuing your ambition, and do well find a job and present your best for a good future, I would suggest you do not place career and life as opposites. Take a light mood, and enjoy what you chose is often the basic for success. You do not need to follow your uncle's anticipation, maybe also your parents', you can express your appreciation for their concern, which might set you closer to the seniors, who cherish so much of you and are proud of you. Wish you good luck and do not miss any chance to fulfil your dreams.

It happen also to me most of the times and that is why for ages I really avoid going to my relatives parties as they are likely to make an interview out of me like a hottest celebrity in town who are out to ask me about the latest gossips in my life which is very annoying. I hate too being compare and I am always label as a stubborn/hard headed because I always stick around to my decision. If I do not like a certain things, like an object or person they could not longer pressure me. I have Uncles and Aunties too who even choose to decide whom I am going to be my partner. Then, they keep on talking to me about the character and the benefits I could get if I only become obedient to their wish to happen to me, which I just let it pass within my ears. Though, I never show my irritation and I just smile my acknowledgment to their concern on my welfare. Still, I decided not to go with their plan and decide to think many times if I am going to favor or just throw away their suggestion. Though, you are right you matter your freedom for the moment for how how long you could sustain it is also a questions which repetitively ask on me and I bit if I feel tired for my freedom that I find it the right time whether i am ready or not..I would either try it than never or regret having not try it when i already reach the due date whether i like it or not. Though, it may be full of insecurities and unsure of the future all their advices have truth somehow..as they never like to see one alone and old as they say it really hard to grow old with no companion and at worst with no children..though the timing most of the time is out of places..But, still having to choose where you are most comfortable with when you grow old matter most and hopefully you could find it at ease...