Sibling rivalry

I am the oldest of three and Ihave one son soIdon't kow if I willbe much help. Could it help to make your older son feel important and 'needed' in looking after and caring for his younger sister. telling him he is a male and therefore has a certain role in being protective towards her, making sure she is not in any danger, even in little things like falling if she is in a sitting position. Making sure her food is not too hot by getting him to taste it for her first before she tries it. Just suggestions but it could help to make him feel a little more important and less excluded. Good luck!

i hope u will get out of dilemma

My best suggestion is to have him help you take care of his sister. I know he is still young yet, but for some children helping out is all they want. They want to feel like they have an important role. Also, try to do something that your son and daughter can both be entertained with. Make sure to set aside some time to do things with him as well. Try not to give the daughter too much attention such that the son feels left out.

When I was pregnant with our youngest. Our son was so excited, then she arrived over a month early a day before his birthday and that was like a kick in the face for him. He was 4 at the time, we had a big party planned, which had to be post-poned until we got home from the hsoptial and his sister was fine... Anyways, as the time has passed he's finally accepted she's here to stay. He's 6, and still get's frustrated with me and my husband was his 17 month old sister still takes alot of our time, but we have done is sit a certain time lot of each day to spend time with him, alone. His sister's nap time is about the time he get's home from school, so that's mine and his time usually to either play a game, read, color what ever he wants to do, that won't take me to far out of ear's shot of his sister. His dads time comes in the evening, they go build something, play cars, again what ever he wants to do, so that he still feels the speicalness... So if you can find a little time to do that, it seems to help alot. Also, we've planned days where it's his day only. We will have husband mom keep the baby and go do something that the little one can't do, as in movies, go ride amusement rides, taking him to the arcade. Just little things to make him feel he's a big part of this family, and that our love is the same for the both of them... On a side note, I've also tried to include him in on bath time, feeding times when she was little, so he could feel ilke the most awesome big brother ever. Just the little things seem to work here... Good luck. :)

We have three, ages 5, 3, and 2. I don't know that we have ever really had a big problem with sibling rivalry. I know we are lucky. We made a big deal about making our oldest feel special because she was the oldest and was big enough to do things to help like get wipes or diapers. We let her pick out the babies' Easter dresses. We also tried to make a point of trying to take time out with her to do things that her sisters aren't old enough to do. I try to spend a few minutes with each of them daily doing something they enjoy one on one and it seems to help

Make him feel needed by asking him for help with the baby or other things around the house. My 6 year old son and his sister are very close. She's almost 2 now and he is her favorite buddy. He does get jealous when I can't always do everything he wants, but we always make special alone time without the baby just for him. It is a great help!

Yes, sibling rivalries can be traumatic to some kids, and you have to give all your understandings to your son because he did not choose that to happen. What I suggest is that you don't push your son to learn to like your baby that soon. Give him the time off that he wants sometimes. At the same time, lavish him with all the attention that you can give him as much as you can. Praise him with whatever good deeds he make. And then make ways on how he can enjoy your company even with the presence of the baby. Don't make him feel left out.