do you ever feel your kids do not want to listen

may be you are so kind that your children don't fear of you. and many children just want to take a joy with their mother. and don't have other means. so you must do as you do . may be their father are so strict to them . so they have to listen to him. that is my opinion.

Both of my children have issues with listening from time to time, but I am the mean one in the house. I dish out the punishment and have all the talks that need to be done. My husband works alot so he's not around when the kids get out of hand or don't wanna listen, so it all boils down to me. As my son has gotten older, he's started to really have the selective hearing, which is annoying but as i've found out just because I don't think he's listening, he really is, so I just talk, give my warning about what happens if he didn't listen and then just wait to see if he does it again or not. Most times he doesn't have a repeat epdisode because he knows the outcome will be bad, and he'll lose allowances, extras and stuff he really likes to get.

I think all kids are this way. about half our kids listen to me better and the other half listen to dad more. Half the time it's becaue they think dad is not serious and they know when I say something I mean it! but the other half just think I will give in (which I don't) but still if I say dad he's not listening they will do it right away.

My 3 kids don't listen to anyone at all. I think alot of that has to do with my living situation though. I'm living with my parents and the fact of the matter is is that the kids play the parental unit off each other all the time. Eventually I will be able to move out and then things will be so different.

They listen to me, in fact they are both very good about it, but they don't listen to their grandmother at all. There are many ways their grandmother and I are different and I think this is why. Firstly, when I ask them to do something I explain why. I treat them with respect, I have never used the "because I said so", as my mom does. Secondly, I always keep my word. If I said they won't be able to watch TV if they aren't going to clean the room, than that's not up for debate, even if they would cry and do whatever. Funny thing is they actually never negotiate time outs with me, because they already know I don't go back on my word. My mom is always giving in, and they know to play that very well. You'd think they are only kids, but boy do they know how to manipulate lol Its hard not to give in, they're such angels and so sweet, but I know it will not work otherwise.