Internet dating
@averagewhiteguy (9)
United States
February 8, 2009 1:40pm CST
Can you find real love on the Internet? So many tools do just that nowdays with dating sites and chat rooms.Myself I have never used a dating site but I have meet some wonderful girls that I have talked to online. I talk to one now that I feel loves me more than any woman I have ever know even in the real world...I guess time will tell because I will meet her soon...anyone else have a story to share on this topic?
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hi There.
Always remember that love is a mystery so I believe that love started through Internet dating is real. It is always real. It depends on the two persons how serious they are to each other. However, it is a fact that there are lots of failed relationships via the Internet because some reasons.
I am telling this because I have been involved with a guy that I really loved for few years ever since I was in college. I will not go through with the details but it did not work for both of us since we have different dreams and belief though we end up being good friends in time. It was hard but that’s what happened. It didn’t work out for me but what I felt with him was true. It is just that, we were not meant to be…
It was sad but right now I am very happy with my relationship with my boyfriend for how many years now.
But that doesn’t mean that it will not work for you. I suggest that you get to know each other first and don’t jump into conclusion or relationship when you are not really to be committed to one another and always bear in mind that you have to see her personally after sometime to make it work.
Goodluck in your relationship! Thank you for sharing and the discussion. Happy Mylotting and Have a great day ahead! Cheers!
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@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
9 Feb 09
Yes you can find real love on the internet - I did! I've been married for 2 1/2 years and have a child with the man I met on the internet. I had been on a number of sites and each one I had dates but never someone who I truly connected with.
It was a truly nice beginning for the two of us because we spent at least one month just talking on the internet - emailing each other every day. We spent at least another month just talking on the phone a couple days a week. You get to know the person so much better when it's just the two of you and you can talk about anything. The one for you is out there - I hope this woman is the one! Good luck!
@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
11 Feb 09
This sounds like a great beginning to a wonderful relationship! I hope this is the woman for you!
@averagewhiteguy (9)
• United States
11 Feb 09
We have been talking almost a year now.. lots of yahoo chat for hours and hours.. e-mails, phones calls and even cam to cam... we never run out of things to say to each other even after this long time.. good luck to you too I hope it last a life time.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
8 Feb 09
First, welcome to mylot! I met my husband through online dating. Even before him I had something I considered a serious relationship w/ another guy (my ex). Me and my husband met through the Christian Dating Singles site, it's one of the many online dating sites for people searching for partners. Although it's somehow a little risky considering that you guys don't know and meet each other in person but I believe one can still find a good partner through online dating.
@averagewhiteguy (9)
• United States
9 Feb 09
thanks and I hope you two have a life full of happiness
@ShanLhey (164)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I believed in you. But I never experienced it yet. I would like to ask if how can you say that she really loves you even you have met online?
I guess love is really is in the air. Lol. Hope I could meet someone someday. :)
@averagewhiteguy (9)
• United States
9 Feb 09
She like you is a pinay and we talked online as just friends at first but we had a bond even from the start.she has a stepday in utah and when she visited him we would talk for hours on the phone
but never met because we where only friends.But that grew and ever thought we fight online sometimes it is out of love and caring.Hopefully we will meet around the end of april and all will be known then :)
@janelacson (200)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I tried internet dating more than twice, but I both caught them fooling around, saw pictures of girls with them from other sites, I saw that they have girlfriends, I saw the other one who cant stick in one lady. I stopped trusting internet dating, maybe its not really for me. I am happy now, I meet my boyfriend through his friend(who is also fooling around over the net) who likes browsing pics online. He luckily introduced me to his officemate who is now my boyfriend and am happy to have him. I wish you all the best and am happy for you, hope things will get well. Sometimes, its the man who fools around. In your case, there is no problem unless she is the one fooling around.
@averagewhiteguy (9)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I know it is funny but I trust her and I know she is a good woman with a true heart...sometimes you just know.we have something very special that most people may never have. I am very lucky to have her apart of my life and I hope she feels she is lucky too... PS do not tell her that I am alot luckier than her lol
@XiaoStar (15)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I believe you can definitely find real love on the internet. Whether that be through a dating site or a chatroom is up to the person. Personally I feel you can meet that special someone anywhere. I was really skeptical about online dating until I met my current boyfriend. We both me through a voice acting forum during which he was cast in one of my projects. We started talking and the emails became lengthier and lengthier until we finally added each other to messenger.
A few months passed and we learned more about each other until he finally asked me out. I wasn't sure at first, but I really did like him so I accepted. We've been dating for about twelve months now during which I've grown to love him more than I could ever possibly express with words. He actually just finished staying with me yesterday and had to fly back to England, I'm planning on going there in July and staying for a full month. I really love him, and I feel that the distance just makes our relationship stronger.
In a nutshell, you can definitely find real love on the net. In the process you can also learn more about a person because what's really exposed is their mind and soul, rather than physical appearance. I'm really happy for you and I hope all the best works out with your relationship and I hope the meeting is as special for you as it was for me. ^o^
You might actually be surprised. I definitely thought things would've been awkward, but the truth is, when you know someone for a long period of time...you like, know them. It isn't awkward at all. I hope it's that way for you, too.
@averagewhiteguy (9)
• United States
9 Feb 09
wow nice story... have a great trip and be safe... yes it is great to learn the the person inside first then the rest after you feel a bond
@amjadmacs (467)
• France
9 Feb 09
I must say, its any interesting topic and I love to share my views and story. At first I thought this internet dating or love thing is fake and nothing real. I know most the people fall in love with a girl on internet while chatting and in the end the girl turns out to be a guy ( just having fun with him, using fake ID ). I have seen this cases a lot. Real Cases !!! So, I believe most of the girls on internet are guys ( I knew I as wrong )...
One day I was chatting on yahoo network from a internet cafe ( 4 years a ago ). I went to internet cafe for some work, but I start chatting. I found a girl, who belong to my country but lives in very far city. She was very far ( talking about her city ). At first she lied about her name and few things, but She like the way I was, and i felt the same. Because we were like soul mates. I had many many things in common. She took interest in me and I took interest in her. Then you started chatting regularly ( she didn't had any voice chat or didn't showed me her picture ) so I had to trust her. Some how, I really felt that what ever she says is true.
Well, I was right, she was girl ( a very cute one ) when she showed me her picture. We became very good friends and later we had the best time. Then we both have the feeling of love. I told her that I love her and so she did also. I was successful in proposing her and she accepted it. She believed it that I lover her, even behind the monitor. We meet each other, talk to other, and Planning to get married... That was my story... So I believe in internet love ....
Happy Mylotting !!!!
@itsme_cha (504)
• United States
9 Feb 09
hi there, yes its very possible you can find real love online, there's a lot of dating site you can join. i met my husband on the internet, now we are almost 2 yrs married.
@biman_s (1060)
• India
9 Feb 09
Internet Dating does sound very interesting. I heard many wonderful stories of people meeting their perfect match on the inertnet. But I have also heard many other sad stories too. I personally think thats its a wonderful way to connect to others. This eliminates a lot of social boundaries that might restrict us from interacting with others. The best part is that, even though u might be chating with the other person who is in a place far away from where you are, you still feel that, that person is sitting right in front of you.
I hope that you find your dream date soon.
@Alex18 (169)
• United States
9 Feb 09
Me and my girlfriend met online and have known for each other for about 6 months and have been dating for 5 months. My parents have always given me the notion that people online were bad, or deceptive. But im 18 and I never used an internet dating site, one day I was checking my myspace and I saw i had a message and it was from my now gf and then we have just gotten to know each other better and better. She lives in another country as well, so at first i was a little skeptical, but we have talked via phone and webcam and i have met her family as well via webcam so i know she is who she says she is. She loves me very much and i love her too so i am lucky to have found her on the internet. There is love to be found on the internet, but you have to be honest and truthful with each other when you are talking, because you are just a keyboard and you could say anything you wanted to
@herbie67 (19)
• Australia
9 Feb 09
My brother and his now wife met over the internet. They have been married for four years and have two children so yes, it does happen for some people. I have another friend who met quite a lot a men from an online dating agency but sadly none of them were right for her. I quess it is just a numbers game - sooner or later you are going to meet the right person whether it be online or in the supermarket.
@SunflowerLover (2)
• China
9 Feb 09
hi,averagewhiteguy,i think internet dating is a normal thing in my life. in this socity many people like to chat on internet and make friends. It's a very common thing,i think.a lot of my friends around me in the college make friends on line and meet up,after that they often build the relationship and date.no matter what,thay have to come back to real life meet up in real life.
@ivyrica_gel (1)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
yes definitely we can all find real love on the internet, If we're destined to meet our mate there, then it will find a way no matter what. To tell you guys, I have once in loved with a man in cyberspace from India, we really liked each other. I was in college that time and every time our class ended we always have a chat. our relationship lasted for two years, we send each other letters by post, we call each other. I was happy with Him and to tell you we had a lot of dreams together, but you know things got complicated for us and we ended. for me, meeting someone like Him is like a fairytale, but until I see Him face to face the story has not yet ended.
@wyethlovesyou (349)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Hi averagewhiteguy! =) Actually, I met all my ex boyfriends online, I took that as an opportunity, and i had long term relationship to all of them. I want an online dating because for me, I could know the attitude of the guy if he's good and polite and then we could meet up. Fortunately, i have never been trait ed when it comes to meet ups. My friends know me as an online dater and i honestly I do not care about it because as long as I am happy with what I am doing and then let it be right? =)
@Crislyric (37)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I do believe that love can be found on the internet, why? Well, because the two people have to eventually meet and see if all has been the truth, from there I believe anything can happen. If they both were honest about their likes and dislikes and about everything else, after spending time together there is no telling whats next. It can go all types of directions for all we know.