Will you forgive your partner cheat on you for the sake of the family?

Yes, indeed but the guilty should also be there from a guilty party. I mean if my partner is cheating on me then I won't allow her go on cheating. I mean she should stop it for the sake of us. She also has to understand this pal. It should be mutual .

I think if you are capable of truly forgiving someone, that's wonderful, and is the best solution, but few people in this world are really capable of forgiveness. The harsh reality is most people say they forgive, only to bring it up over and over in every disagreement they may have. And I think that would be worse for the kids than having a clean break. Personally, if someone cheats on me, they lose my trust. I wouldn't cut that person out of my kid's life, they would be free to share custody, visit all the time, have a relationship with the family, but there would be no possibility of me staying in a romantic relationship with him. :)

I think it will depend on what exactly he did. Of course I wanted my kids to have a father figure but what if he doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore? Or what if I'm not happy anymore. It will also depends on the ages of my kids if they can cope with the scenario easily or if it is too early. I just hope it won't happen to me. I'm not married yet and if I do then I will try my best to be a great wife and a mother. If ever my husband still cheats on me then it is entirely his mistake and not mine.

Sorry, but my answer is NO...The way I look at it is that for a child to have a happy and normal up bring, is for the parents to have a happy and normal relationship. A child can feel the stress and the hurt of there parents. And when things arn't right at home a child will act out. I came from a broken home and my father was never in my life. I graduated from school and I am very close to my mother. I also divorce my husband after 12 years for cheating. My children were 8 and 11 and they knew something wasn't right at home. My oldest withdrew into her room and my youngest whinned all the time. When I found out that there was someone else, I divorced him. I refuse to live my life with someone who doesn't love me enough to be true to me and take the chance that he might bring some kind of VD or even AID home to me. I would rather tell my kids that there mom and dad was getting a divorce them to have to tell them, there mother is dieing cause daddy can't keep it in his pants. My kids are grown and both graduated from high school with straight A's and now in college and doing very well. The whole thing that give a child a healthy, happy childhood is to be truthful and make time for them. You want to make them your first priority, them alway let them know how much you love them...And never let them go to bed without telling them how much you love them..

..well, that's not as easy as what you think.. Although you are right that the couple should sacrifice for the sake of the children.. however, there are also those children who were not able to grow up normally because they grew up in a family where couples are always having a fight and arguments.. There are children who would wish that there parents would rather separate rather than seeing them fight and argue always.. Whatever the situation is, it affects the child or the children.. Maybe, what will be good is to reiterate to parents before they get marry that they have responsibilities to take and the success of their married life lies on them.. There is no use of being together if they are not happy anymore.. It is easy to say forgive and forget but when you will be in that situation, its hard.. Wounds need enough time to heal.. and maybe, children would understand if explained to them in a way that they could relate..

I stayed in my first marriage for the sake of my step-son. I didn't want him to be alone and with his birth parents being how they were, he would have been. It got so bad that I had to go. I took my step-son with me. His dad was just that far gone. Now that he is older, my step son asked why I waited so long. He thought I should have left well before I did. The whole time his father cheated, I stayed with-in my vows. I didn't do it for faiths sake, or for my ex. I did it for our kids. How could I teach them what was right it I did the same wrong as their dad? If the couple can maintain a family feel with separate lives... fine stay together. If the family is suffering then parting will only be the best thing because at some point healing can begin. Think of it like this... once the break happens and is dealt with then it isn't getting worse. If you stick it out but are tearing into the sore spots then they are only getting worse and more infected.

Hell no! I could not ever forgive someone who cheats on me! If they cheat, they must not care much for me, so who needs them? Not me!

Personally I think there are many reasons why things like this happen, and it would really depend on the situation in my opinion if it should be forgiveable and such as well. Depending on the situation and if it was a one time thing, or repetitive thing should mean what needs to be done from there as well. A lot of times it is Best to seek counseling and try and resolve the marriage but when that cannot work it is time to go your seperate ways as well. When you try and save something for the sake of the kids it can actually end up making the situation for everyone later in life harder to deal with as well.

Hello There! That is a hard question and situation for me. I don’t have a husband yet but I feel that I can’t stand a person cheating on me. I know that because I had a boyfriend before when I was in college and cheated on me. When he tried to get me back, no matter how I feel for him, I didn’t accept him because I lost my trust completely and I couldn’t bear the thought that he would do it again. I guess I don’t want to feel the hurt that I felt when he betrayed me but that was it… he was just a boyfriend that you can easily let go and move on. But I believe that it will be a different story when you are married because you are tied together especially when you have kids. It will be a different decision because you cannot walk away since your kids will be affected the most. Though I hope that it will never happen to me when I get married with my man someday but worst comes to worst, I would definitely save my relationship with my husband for the sake of our life and kids. You do not just give up, you need to try everything before you really let go of your marriage… though right now, I am crossing my fingers that it will never happen to me because trust will be lost and we all know that it is hard to bring the trust back again. Thank you for the discussion. Happy Mylotting and Have a great day! Cheers!

I think if we had a very good relationship before then I might find it in my heart to forgive him. The children are innocent and should always come first. Plus, if he's had a pretty clean record in the past then one mistake shouldn't totally be the end of the marriage right? The only problem I see is that there will be a trust issue in the future. Like I might be paranoid when my husband talks to other women or comes home late from work. And even though he remains faithful to me, I'll always secretly fear that he'll betray me again.

well keeping in mind of the children its better to forgive your partner's cheat and give him a chance to prove that he will not again repeate such mistake again but if he or she again repeats the same misktake then well it upto your decesion.

Right now, I think i would not be able to forgive my husband if he cheated on me.. I would rather have my family broken than my children see we always argue. I am the type of person who will always remember or will always bother me what was done to me.

well for me, if my partner cheated, and he ask me to forgive him, i will forgive him, for the sake of our children and i will give him a chance, his first and last chance but it's really hard for me to forget.

Ok...this is a question that hits home for me. About 1 year ago I got divorced becuase I found out my husband was cheating on me. I never gave birth to a child but I did have 2 step kids and 2 step grandkids...but in my mind they were my children and grandchildren and still are. It is a horrible thing to go through emotionally. Mine may have been a bit different because my step son is the one who found out and told me about it. He also encouraged me to file for divorce...see my husband had been married before and cheated on that wife as well. I am a firm believer that once a cheater always a cheater! It is a very hard and scary thing to go through...I was fearful of losing everything but mostly the children and grandchildren. Turns out they stood by me and are still in my life today. I am very thankful for that and also thankful I didn't give my ex another chance. I could not be one of those woman that are in a relationship and not be 100% invested and I knew I couldn't be that anymore but mostly I couldn't live with that affair in my mind every day...wondering why (because there is no good reason for someone to have a affiar or cheat)...wondering if and when it would happen again. Not to mention what it does to a person emotionally. The most important thing to me in a relationship is trust and once that trust is broken I really believe you can never get it back the way it was. I know I personally could not wake up next to him every day of the rest of my life...so my choice was right for me but may not be right for all. I will say I am happier now and in a relationship where I trust my boyfriend 100% and it feels good. I do not regret my divorce nor will I ever.

Yeah, they say that's true. to be able to raise your kids normally, both parents should be there. But let's say, you're partner cheated on you, you forgave him/her. How easy is it to forget such situation? They say, forgiving is not genuine without forgetting. I don't think it is easy to forgive a partner who cheated on you. Is the reason of your partner acceptable? It takes two to tango. And if a person did something,there is a possibility that he or she will do it again.

I believe that in order to have a happy and healthy family they should have trust and love for each other.. Like what you've said, yes it is good for children to grow up with the presence of both father and mother. However, if the couple don't have a good relationship with each other then I think its better for them to separate.. Its not good to live in one house with no trust and love with each other, the more if their children see them fighting or quarreling all the time.. What the children see inside the house it will affect them anywhere they go and they will carry it until they grow old. The parents really need to priorities their children first than anything else in this world because the future of their children is in their hand.. Through their actions were the most important since what the children see to their parents deeds they may carry it when they grow up and have their own family.. Regarding to your question, my answer is it depends.. If I really love my husband then I can easily accept him in our life again not because for the sake of children or family but because I believe on him that he won't do it again and most of all I love him.. However, if I don't trust him and can result to fights all the time then I think I won't accept him back in our life since I don't want that our children will see us keep on fighting or quarreling with each other and living in one house without love and trust for each other.. It only shows to the children that our family isn't happy and healthy as the way they like it..

il forgive him yes! but if you said for the sake of the family NO.. i forgive him because thats the right thing to do, and giving a second chance is not bad at all. but for the 3rd chance thats too bad already.. if he commits mistakes, or cheating , gosh its a different story. and il talk to him one on one, what he really wants to happen? why did he cheated us, and il let him choose between us and the other, if he chooses us then there will be an implementations., my implementations in the family.. the Do's and the Don't.. if still he will do it again, then no reason to save the family.. though i will forgive him for that because hes just a human being. il let him go. theres no point in living together and he has somebody else. right? though the love is still there but no more trust, if no more trust then the relationship will no longer healthy.

If the two parents are unhappy, it's really only going to hurt the kids. They may be young, but they're not dumb & definitely not oblivious. I feel like if the parents are unhappy with their relationship with eachother, and decide to "stay together for the family", they'll really only be harming their children - who will see that they're bickering and not loving like parents should be. If one cheats, I think it's an indication of unhappiness & the parents should split - at least for a certain amount of time - and reorganize their priorities to the least. I know plenty of friends who's parents have split and they've turned out as rational, successful college students (so far), so I don't think having married parents is the key to having a good childhood/future.

My parents divorced when I was in high school. Adultery was the main reason that they would say they split. But in truth the marriage had been bad for years. They didn't even sleep on the same level of the house. My younger sisters didn't have the presence of both parents but we still grew up "normal and healthy". I actually think the split was a good thing. Trying to raise children when you can't get along may actually create a worse environment for children than if parents were to simply split. But don't get me wrong, divorce is very very hard to get through as a kid (trust me), probably just as hard on the children as on the parents (maybe more??).

if for the sake of the family , i will forgive him. But i would rather that he can tell me the turth for i will understand him and deal with the problem together with him . that's my friend .