How to mend a broken heart?

I am 68 years old and have had three times in my life that my heart has been broken. Loss of your parents or friends or even siblings can be painful but nothing matches the pain that you feel when you have lost your love. My first big loss was with my first wife. Many years after the fact I discovered she had multiple affairs back during the early years of our marriage. I had no idea and it crushed me. I begin seeing a crises councilor and after a period of time begin to recover from that and because it had been many years in the past I forgave and we went on. However several years later, because of life circumstance, it happened again and I divorced her. Thirty seven years of marriage gone. Eventually I re-married. My new wife however had diabetes and had it for many years. She had not taken care of herself and after about 5 years with her I lost her to a heart attack. All of these were devastating to me. I felt like what you are going through now but somehow I knew that if I let it, it would destroy me and I vowed I would not let that happen. I was better than that and I knew I could recover. In due time I begin looking for someone else to go out with. No intent to find someone to marry but someone to share things with. I am thrilled to say I not only found someone to go out with but she agreed to marry me last June. Was all this easy for me to go through? No not at all but something inside told me that this is what life is all about and how we handle it reflects the kind of person we are. Many people who loose someone they love deeply never ever look again or wait many years to try again. As long as that makes you come back to center and recover from it that is fine we all are different. As painful as this is for you right now it too will pass. How soon it does depends on you. You must begin to involved yourself with other things and get your mind away from this pain. Time will do that anyway so you might as well do all you can to hurry it up. If you continue to wallow in your self pity, and in the final analysis, that is what you are doing this pain will stay with you. Consider where you were before you met the person that broke your heart. Find a way back there and you will be fine. If you find you can not do this on your own get help. Talking it out with someone makes all the difference. Keeping all the pain to ourselves will only extend the time for healing. Don't do that.

I have had my heart broken a couple of times (I'm almost 60 years old). That was many years ago. How I coped? I cried until I had no more tears to cry. I drew close to God and that helped me a lot. I once went on a high mountain in the middle of the city and looked around and said to myself: There's a whole big world out there. I also mfocused on helping other people. I was inspired to write some poems about what I was feeling and what I was going through. And now, I feel fantastic. I live in hope that one day I will meet someone really special and wondeful. I'm happy!

A broken heart is indeed painful and hard to to get over. I have many times that I do not really wish to get over it, and instead prefer to wallow but it takes time and there is nothing but that when you are wallowing in your broken heart.

Mourn and mourn until such time you get tired of it. Cry your heart out and when you're done, go out and have a drink with your friends. Be drunk and merry. The next day I hope you'll realize how stupid you look like, as what I did after doing those things. Then look around you and see how much life have to offer. Remember there's always a rainbow after the rain. Get well soon...

Just wallow on it for a week, then go on and move forward. Dude, there's more to life than just a girl! Not that I'm implying anything wrong about your ex, but--there are more girls out there, girls who want to see you, girls who'll want to sleep with you [just being honest!], and girls who'll want to be with you. Get that week, and then get back at life. We all fall down, but the world never stops going round and round, dude. ...or do what I do. When some guy dumps me, I hit the mall just to buy myself a little piece o' somethings to keep my mind occupied from the last jerk who broke my heart. It's always their loss; it's not ours. =)

What do I do when I'm heartbroken? Relax. Go out in a sunny day and breathe deeply and tell yourself... "There's a reason why this happened" Don't wallow.. don't trap yourself in your house just waiting for something good to come along. STAND UP and go out and realize that you still have a life to continue. You have friends to talk to.. friends who will be there for you. Don't lose hope babe. Like they say: "A person that does not move .. is still at the same place" Move and open your eyes. he/she is not the only one that loves you and wants to see your beautiful smile and caring voice. Be happy:)

junasism, I would like to share 2 quotes with you here: "It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone." -- Rose Kennedy. And: “Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.” -- Gary Zukav. You will need to realize that there is no one and nothing will mend your hurt except you yourself. You will need to accept the facts, love yourself enough to forgive yourself and let the episode go. There is no point harboring those negativity inside you whilst the days will still go on renewing everyday. It takes efforts to be both happy and sad, then why not choose to make an effort to be happy and pass the day happily. Remember in life there is always a choice and it is only our own rigidity that prevents us from objectivity. Take care.

Finding somebody else to focus my energy on works for me. Hoping you all the best!

Eat a lot of your favorite foods, watch movies with friends, dont think of the past anymore concerning him of course and be happy and ready to move on in what life has to offer.