how old should your daughter be before you allow her on dates?

Philippines
February 13, 2009 8:38am CST
it is hard to be a parent. a lot of decisions you make will be based on how you were brought up, and also on your own judgment. how old should your daughter be before you allow her to go out on a date? any views on this? do share. :)
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mimi602
@mimi602 (60)
• United States
13 Feb 09
My oldest daughter is 9, but I think I would want her to be at least 15 before she starts. I have a neice who started dating at barely 13. I think thats too young, but too each his own.
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doc_alma_jones
@doc_alma_jones (822)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
yes, perhaps each situation is unique. maybe the 13 year old was mature enough to face the consequences of dating at an early age? :D i have to admit that 15 is a more comfortable age for dating. perhaps "never" is an even more comfortable answer! just kidding. :) thanks for posting!
TLChimes
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
13 Feb 09
40. At least that's what I tell my girls. I am very open with my kids. It isn't them that I don't trust but the rest of the world. I have taught them what they should know but that doesn't mean it will do any good. That means that I won't say when you are 12 you can date. It means that my girls can have their friends over to hang out. It means they can ask to go with me to the movies as a group. It means when I see my girls are thinking they are about ready we will talk. If I agree we will have it structured carefully for the best outcome for the girl, the boy, and the parents. They will be allowed to go on DATES when they are mature enough to handle what the rest of the world likes to dish out.
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doc_alma_jones
@doc_alma_jones (822)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
40. hehe good number. lol yes, it's scary what you see out there. and thinking of them getting near your daughter.. that should be even scarier. i am so not looking forward to having kids and seeing them go out on dates. if i become blessed with a daughter, perhaps my partner will be more bothered than i am! hehe
regal_aeros
@regal_aeros (2605)
• Singapore
13 Feb 09
Well.... i'm 22 and i haven't been on a date before. Partly because my parents are VERY strict me with. I have to be home by latest 1am and they are constantly saying... "Finish your studies first. Don't waste time on those guys now. When you go to work, you'd find even better ones." I know that my parents are extremist and most people don't agree with their way of "protecting" me. My mum also constantly talks to me about "other" people who screwed up their studies because of relationships and blah blah blah...
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doc_alma_jones
@doc_alma_jones (822)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
how about applying what you've studied in school to win a point with your parents? :) i've taken up in psychology (and i wrote a thesis about this) that people who were allowed to date and "play the field," so to speak, end up happier when it comes to relationships. studies have shown that multiple mistakes in relationships makes people realize what they do and don't want in a relationship, compared to people who marry their first boyfriends. (again, to those who are married to their first boyfriends... this is not an attack on you. i am merely stating what has already been published in psychology textbooks.) hehe. you can show them how focused you are in your studies; share with them this new tidbit in psychology! kidding aside, good luck. your parents mean well. but you are smart and you can perhaps reason with them that you are not out to ruin your life; you just want t meet a decent guy, the same way your mom met your dad. ;b
ljbinkop
@ljbinkop (744)
• United States
13 Feb 09
I think I would like my daught to wait for an actual date experience until she is 15 years old, but I don't think that's the way it's working out! She is thiteen now, and the boys really like her, much to my husbands sorrow! She doesn't really say right now that she wants to go on a date, but she does have 'boyfriends" and school, and they say that they are "going out", whatever that means in teenspeak! I think when the time comes, she will make the right decisions regarding dating with our help and guidance!
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doc_alma_jones
@doc_alma_jones (822)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
hehe i'm glad your daughter is very popular. my brother was about the same age when he started saying things like "girlfriend" and "going out." :) i'm sure she will make the right decisions, because she has good parents by her side. just so long as she knows you're there to guide (not stifle) her, and i can see you are good at allowing her a degree of freedom while still being there for support and guidance. happy myLotting!